It’s amazing how much our names shape our identities. Some names feel like a perfect fit from the start, while others never quite resonate with us.
However, crossdressers and transgender women have the unique opportunity to choose their own feminine names.
Every great MTF name has a story behind it, and I’d love to hear YOURS.
How did you choose your feminine name?
Please tell us your story in the comments below, and if you can, share a photo too. It’s always lovely to put a face to a name!
Love,
Lucille
21 Years ago when I First started Dressing Seriously I thought of calling myself by the Names of Girls I New from School or Neighbours like Jenifer Janet etc or my Crush at the time Mei but a Lovely Woman June who worked at the Store where I first bought my Female Clothes and Shoes etc Doreen Fashions in Leyton in London Said She would think of a Name for me, She used my Name Derek or Del or Del Boy as I was born in Peckham in 1956 long before the tv Program Only Fools and Horses and came up with Della. I must admit I didn’t like it at first but over the next Week or so it Grew on me and Della was Born XXX
I chose 3 names.
The first is Flora, because when I was young in a pornographic magazine there was a beautiful brunette woman in stockings and garter belts who reflected my female prototype.
My double surname, however, Maya Ayumi is given by Maya which I liked a lot even almost as a first name and Ayumi because I love Asia, oriental TS and CD and sexually I’m just like them, very sissy and geisha!
I chose the name Jasmin because I think it’s a beautiful name and also starts with the same letter as my male name. It’s also the name of one of the actors I follow and admire. Because of those things, I have chosen the name Jasmin for myself.
I went with Emily because it is feminine for Emery & Alberta instead of Albert
My name literally came to me in a dream earlier this year. In it, I was cleaning up some old antiques. For what, I don’t know. For sale, maybe? For a museum? But one was an old mirror. The frame was carved wood. As I was cleaning the wood, I noticed some letters on the top. As I cleaned them, I saw them appear…J…E…N…I kept cleaning. N…A…Jenna. When I saw them, I stopped, and looked into that mirror. I didn’t see myself then. At least not as a “man”. Rather, I SAW Jenna. And she was ME.
I woke up just then. I was shaking. Crying. That was me. I…AM Jenna.
And that’s how.
As for Kirigaya? You’re gonna laugh. Kazuto Kirigaya from Sword Art Online. I don’t know why, but that name just hit immediately after I had quit crying after waking up from that dream. No, I’m not Kirito. I’m just…Jenna. Or Jen, for short. Or, in the proper sense, Kirigaya-sama. Yes, the “sama” is appropriate, for I actually AM descended from nobility, and I do, in fact, hold the proper title of “Lady” and can use such, even on legal documents.
So, then. Hello! I’m Lady Jenna. Pleased to meet you!
When I went to choose a feminine name for myself my thought was that I would pick first and middle names that started with the same letters as my guy name so I could get a credit card with just initials that I could then use no matter how I was presenting. For my first name I chose ‘Jill’ as I liked the mother character on the television show “Home Improvements” as I saw her as the type of wife and mother that I would have wanted to be. For my middle name I chose ‘Suzanne’ as my parents were expecting that I was going to be a girl and told me that they were going to name me ‘Susan’. I preferred the alternate spelling and used it instead.
My birth name was Daniel, which means “God is my judge”. Having been a very conservative Christian for many years, I struggled greatly with the female inside me. I felt that I was a bad person and was constantly seeking approval and affirmation from others. I felt worthless and judged myself and others harshly. I have been to thirteen different counselors, pastors and priests trying to find a way to not be Danielle. “Help me to not be this way. Help me to kill this woman inside me” was my goal with every one of them. When I finally realized that I did indeed have gender dysphoria and there is no known cure I was still determined to find a way to stop desiring to dress and be female. I would feel guilty and “purge” , throwing away or burning all my female clothing, then after a few weeks or months begin to collect more. Years of secretly dress, feel guilty, purge, repeat happened. After many years of struggle and judgment from myself and others, after countless hours of prayer and Bible study and begging God to help me, I came to the realization that the only way for me to not be Danielle was to die. I seriously considered suicide, but knew that it is definitely not God’s plan for anyone. I finally came to realize that God loves and accepts me for who I am and has a plan for Danielle! I have fully transitioned including hrt and all of the surgeries. I have never been so happy, content or at peace with myself and with God!!! Even though it was not the victory I was hoping for, I now have victory over the struggle! For that reason I chose Victoria as my middle name. I took the feminine form of my birth name. Danielle Victoria… God is my judge (not you) and I finally have victory over the struggle!
My middle name is Dennis and I always liked the name Dennise.