It’s amazing how much our names shape our identities. Some names feel like a perfect fit from the start, while others never quite resonate with us.
However, crossdressers and transgender women have the unique opportunity to choose their own feminine names.
Every great MTF name has a story behind it, and I’d love to hear YOURS.
How did you choose your feminine name?
Please tell us your story in the comments below, and if you can, share a photo too. It’s always lovely to put a face to a name!
Love,
Lucille
Basically, I used numerology. I started making a list of seven and names and writing them down on paper. I would then use numerology to figure out the number that that name would represent and your number is based solely on the numbers in your birthday two digit month two digit day two digit year. I started running down the list of names and I found three that I liked and that all added up to my magic number. Thus, I am Lupa Marlene Brandt. That is my legal name on my driver’s license. I am trans and actually have an F on my driver’s license for my gender. Living my best life.
Hi, I chose this name because this is short, easy to remember and a complete feminine name.
My first name is a derivative of my male name. The Dixie Belle is the name of a favored brand of panties.
Simple. I grabbed a list of feminine names from the internet, and went down the list, practicing saying the name out loud and signing my name until I found the one that felt right.
It’s easy.
Angela is very close to my real name, while Ingrid (which I used to alternate to Angela) is a nordic suggestion that rejected men, due to the “ngr” which is very unattractive for italian men, and I made clear that I didn’t want to meet men.
The entire name I have decided to adopt is Alexis-Ulrikke Brigitte Turscott Waite. I like long names. I decided upon the first name because of the sound of each singularly and in combination. I like the feeling of empowerment and compassion both impart as well (meanings in origin: protector/defender; mistress of all,. prosperity and power). I wished for one gender neutral name that nevertheless, in context of American (as opposed to many other social milieus – where it would be considered a masculine name) culture, is associated as a female given name. I also liked the shortness, sound and reflection of the first letter of my male birth name (Lawrence) that the nickname Lexi (from Alexis) gives. I relate to what Ceileigh wrote above: I don’t see my previous male birth name as a deadname; I will always embrace it as a representational given enriching (indeed, cherished) past life. I decided to weld it (combining my liking of hyphenated names) to Ulrikke which is unequivocally feminine regardless of culture (adoption inspired by Ulrike Meinhoff: the tragically misguided German revolutionary/terrorist of the 1970s; best-intended heartfelt idealism that went destructively awry; who, in the end, was not only demonized by the establishment but also rejected by her comrades: life is never so black and white, hard, can be alienating and spurning, and the dangers of descending into the bowels of hellish conduct/existence are ever-present). I also liked the four-letter shortness and sound of the derived nickname Ulla. Together with the nickname Lexi, a new fused enunciable novel name can be derived: Lexi-Ulla – Lexiulla. Now, I will proceed to my two middle names. First, the thought that went into Brigitte – with the French pronunciation. I love the sound of the name! The name oozes with seductive femininity and the name is not derived from a male name – no masculine version. I also picked it because it was popularly given at the time I was born. In 1960, the sexy (she was nicknamed the Sex Kitten) Brigitte Bardot was the rage in the movie theatres. I don’t agree with Ms. Bardot’s association with the Front National (FN) – now, rebranded the Rassemblement National – but I do like her advocacy on Animal Rights, and, although, I do not share her alignment with the far right in France, I have to admire her vigor and integrity in standing up for what she believes. I also like Bri or Gitte (pronounced zheet) as alternative nicknames to the ones previously mentioned. I think having numerous nicknames that I feel comfortable people calling me would add spice to my new emerging life. Turscott, the last in line of the given names, is a creative construct of two names: My middle name Scott from my soon to be receding/fading past life (it is also my father’s middle name) and my mother’s maiden name, Turcott. It makes for a kind of hyphenated last name without the hyphen. The name Turscott is keeping in the spirit of recognizing in the most affectionate way my parents and writ large the road behind me – the absence of which (the future) I am inconceivable. To conclude, I would be remiss without mentioning the calculation as to ethnicity and (literally so in regard to) numerology. Ulrike was Norwegianized by adding the extra k in a nod to that part of my background; Brigitte was nice in that visually it accorded well with a Nordic presentation, being adjacent to Ulrikke, while in pronunciation an ode to my French ethnicity; Alexis to the tad of Greek in my makeup; and Scott to my Scottish background, welded to the French surname Turcott. Numerologically, it kept a lot of the vibrational force of my previous name while adding considerably to the feminine touch (elevating the 2 energy force). And, finally, the very end to this marathon comment, I just love when I say all the names together how melodic it sounds. It just feels right! It ends up being me without all of the tremendous amount of thought, reflection, and calculation!
I chose my name because I wanted something that matches my birth certificate initials CKR and and allowed a double feminine name of two of my favorite women in my life, Cristin and Kathryn
I was watching baywatch with Erika Eleniak. For me she was the ultimate female. I just wished to be like her. In the series she played Shauni. I liked that name and it did sound so girlie. I liked that. So I also used that name but made an error. I did write it as Shauny instead of Shauni. I left it that way. It was my personal touch to it.