It’s amazing how much our names shape our identities. Some names feel like a perfect fit from the start, while others never quite resonate with us.
However, crossdressers and transgender women have the unique opportunity to choose their own feminine names.
Every great MTF name has a story behind it, and I’d love to hear YOURS.
How did you choose your feminine name?
Please tell us your story in the comments below, and if you can, share a photo too. It’s always lovely to put a face to a name!
Love,
Lucille
Alicia is in memory of a very lovely GG I had met in Rio de Janeiro. My girl nickname Allie comes close to my drab name.
How I’ve choose my feminine name? Simply. I like this name. And more. This name begins with the same letter of my boy’s name, this name have six letters as my boy’s name and the origins are the same: Debora is an important person in the Bible as Davide.
My birth name is Michael Leo. My parents chose Michael because they thought it conveyed strength and Leo because of its association with the lion which conveyed courage. I’m Jewish so I chose a feminine Hebrew variant of Leo (Ariella), and the French feminine variant of Michael (Michelle). Once I combined them I felt like the rhythm was off as Michelle Ariella, so I swtched them, resulting in a more rhythmic, melodic combination and at the same time preserving the symbolic meaning my parents intended. Voila! I’m Ariella Michelle!
Nicely done
Up until my wife found some of my female clothes in my dresser drawer and thought I was having an affair I never understood a reason for having a fem name. I knew others had given themselves one, but looking back on it now, I think fear prevented me from doing so. What fear, you may ask? The fear of losing my male identity. At that point in my life I just saw myself as a guy in a dress…and I felt like a darned fool every time I put on a dress and high-heels. Talk about guilt, it was smothering me. At the point when she found my clothes I was left with two choices; tell her the truth or chance losing my marriage, which I would happen either way. She handled the truth better than I thought she would. And yes we’re still together. But to make a long story short, after all of the guilt I had carried inside of me for years I wanted dressing up to be fun, now that she knew. Thanks to the talks she and I had had I started to think that maybe by having a fem name when I was dressed I wouldn’t feel like just a guy in a dress, and I was right! And since to me the name “Kristi” conjures up images of an outgoing, fun, and care-free, young lady, a considerably different personality than I am when in guy mode, it was the perfect name for me during my occasional escapes into the wonderful world of femininity 😉
Kristi
Glad your wife was so understanding
I chose the name Kristin which just seemed to be a really natural choice for me. I thought of several names of women I know but kept coming back to Kristin. I knew a few women with that for a first name, but one really stands out, she was a single mom, very confident, intelligent and very stunning brunette. She represented everything I admired in women and still do to this day!
I hope someday to live my life as a woman full time. I think the world is slowely changing and becoming more accepting of the transgender community thanks to celebrities such as Laverne Cox, Caitlyn Jenner, I am Jazz and other’s. I also think women like yourself are really helping to enlighten society on what it means to be transgender. Would love to see being transgender become more mainstream in society!
Love ya,
Kristin
I chose Daphne for no other reason then I’ve always liked the name since I was a child. Its different and not so common and feminine. I chose Mae because it was my grandmothers name. She’s been gone for many years and I can’t say she would approve but she was a hardworking, intelligent, independent, strong willed woman whom I looked up to growing up.
I cannot remember how I chose my name, but I think it was inspired by the lovely, supportive, helpful and gorgeous lady on this site!
I must thank Mom for my feminine name. She always said that I was named after both of my grandfathers. I have known since I was 3 or 4 that I wanted to be a girl and when I was 10 or 11, I asked Mom what my name would have been if I was a girl. She told me that if I had been born a girl my name would have been “Robin”. I have tried a few other names over the years but I have always go back to Robyn. I just substituted y for the i in Robin. The important thing at least to me is that “Robyn Lee” still honors my grandfathers. Do not know what they would think about my little change and probably do not want to know because of what little I know about their personalities.
I have been living full time as a woman for almost 3 years now. I legally changed my first name to Robyn keeping my middle of Lee and my last name the same. As Robyn, I am much more relaxed and happy then I was a guy. I very rarely even think of my old masculine self. There are other things I could say but this is probably not the right place for them.
Hello Robyn, I just loved your story and would love to write to you as it is so similar to my own. Love Elaine
Hello Elaine, It would be lovely to write to you also. I do not want to put my email address in the blog. You can ask Lucille for my email. Lucille, you have my permission to give Elaine Hamilton my email address. Did you happen to post your story here? I was 16 in the attached photo. As you can guess I have been doing this for a while. Love Robyn