It’s amazing how much our names shape our identities. Some names feel like a perfect fit from the start, while others never quite resonate with us.
However, crossdressers and transgender women have the unique opportunity to choose their own feminine names.
Every great MTF name has a story behind it, and I’d love to hear YOURS.
How did you choose your feminine name?
Please tell us your story in the comments below, and if you can, share a photo too. It’s always lovely to put a face to a name!
Love,
Lucille
I chose my first name, Amber, because I liked it and thought it sounded somewhat sexy. My middle name, Dawn, is the feminine of my dead name, Don or Donald. I love both names and I think they fit me.
Darleah was originally ‘created’ as a role play character. Someone once said she thought I could play a female role so an old gf of mine and I created Darleah. The last name, Wilsky, was borrowed with permission from a friend who was in the process of a traumatic divorce from an abusive but wealthy bastard.
Rosalie or Rosaliy, was based on a key ring I found back in high school. The name was Rosa Lee I believe. I joined alt.com and needed a new me to reflect my coming out and an open honest, nothing to hide attitude. So I asked for Rosalie which was already taken. I simply changed the e to a y and viola, Rosaliy. My old gf was Sherry Lynne and I, for whatever reason, have always loved ‘Lynne’ names, with or without the trailing e or the double n. Rosaliy Lynne became my alt.com name and that served two purposes. Rosa was much more open even to accepting and declaring her underlying male basis for existance, and it kept that part distinct and separate from my undernet personna. Of course putting out my initial profile and pictures sorta revealed, what was over due to be known anyway, and pointing to my yahoo.com photo albums has removed the separation. The total name is terribly unique in that It was entirely constructed around my femme side.
Originally I used Darleah as a way of exploring my femme side without the balance of accepting it as more than a role. Surprise surprise!!! She simply grew up while I wasn’t looking. Just the act of taking her name validated that side of me that I had tried to keep hidden, even from me as it would seem. Giving her a name and an existence made her real. Creating Rosaliy was the final step of acceptance on my part. Now I am whole for perhaps the first time in my life. 15+ years online as a woman and now a real life existance as one has made interesting changes in me and the way I think and act. I have a much more profound respect for genetic women. Being a woman in the modern world is not at all an easy task. I have been exposed to many of the things women are exposed to from dumb guys and I can appreciate many of the attitudes and sentiments women have regarding men in general.
Of course I have also encountered other types of stupidity from other men. One man in 40+ wants to be my bf – initially flattering as that was, the man was somewhat obsessive and that made me nervous. Another man thinks I am “dressing up like mommy.” Well, my mother never wore the clothes I like – grin. I don’t think I ever saw her in jeans OR short skirts. (I prefer skirts and dresses personally.) And one flat out called me a fag although that was done privately. A number of people won’t talk to me at all but the great majority of 40+ members are still the friends I made when I joined. It has been interesting adjusting to these turns of events.
Some think I am looking for a male partner. Well, I may not be as straight as I once thought I was BUT being a woman is not for the purpose of having a male partner. Being the woman I have been online so long is just part of me that I have finally fully accepted, regardless of where I go in the long run. Transition, changing my body to match my femme side, is optional at present but may or may not be the correct long term choice. In that regard I am not making any permanent changes. They would be increasingly hard to hide and would certainly present new problems with which to deal and with which I am not prepared to deal.
So much for my rambling. Hope you enjoy the previous email and I hope this one helps you understand me a bit better.
For your friendship I can only, and inadequately, say thank you.
ever science i was 9 years old me and my best friend Daniel were in elementory school we had a thing for each other no one knew about ous only we did we would go in to the woods and play games and we even kissed each other and on that day i would tell my best friend to call me ginger I have always loved that name from the tv show Giligan’s Island and we both also love the tv show I dream of jeannie we would take turns on being both ginger and jeannie we would dress up play with each other and we would kiss each other and make out in the woods together we both loved each other
I had originally chosen the name my parents would have given me – Sherri Lorena but my mother and me seddled for Joni, almost a feminine version of my boy name, and Cheryl as a feminine middle name, and I have the same initials as before. This way, there’s more continuity to the name change and not as scary.
Stephanie was easy for me, and I Love it.. Kisses hon
Jack is my middle name. After my dad. If he were alive today, and knew, he’d have a cow! LOL!
Hi Lucille,
Having long been a ‘closet’ cross dresser before cross dressing was kool (and still am), it was only on rare (and courageous) occasions when I would venture into a women’s dept (as a guy) to try on and buy chick clothes. On one such occasion, the female salesclerk actually helped me pick out some very femme dresses and such. To my delight, she also invited me out of the dressing room and into the store to view myself in their mirrors and to continue shopping. After a couple of such visits (and finding out that my name was Bud) she began addressing me as Budaleena. Which of course, I reveled in. We remain friends to this day. So much so that she has actually invited me to her home to try on clothes she no longer wore, before she donated them. Natch I don’t fill them out as well as she did, but as they say – beauty is in the eye of the beholder. 😉 p.s. I have been using your advice on breast enhancement, and since my nipples are now nice and erect I have actually ordered some nipple rings to help them stand out even more under my bras and summer shirts. XOXO, Budaleena
My first girl friends name was Debbie, who I loved very much and I will never forget her. My sisters middle name is Lynn, So that’s how I became Debbie Lynn that sounds awesome to me.