“Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.
But is it really a goal worth pursuing?
If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.
I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!
It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.
That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.
Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.
Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.
Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.
Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.
The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.
Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!
As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.
Now I’d love to hear from YOU!
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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Sorry I don’t don’t have a good picture for you. I gave up try trying to pass. Passing has been the biggest challenge of my life. On the other hand, I have found it very easy to blend. The only time I have found blending difficult has been my beach time. That was rather difficult and I did receive some other than pleasing comments. In today’s society of blue jeans and capri’s I can blend very well. And those that know me usually compliment and those that don’t… well they will just have to accept it or look the other way. I like my looks and new body. Thanks for you help and advise, you have been wonderful, Lucille. And for the rest of you girls, go for it.
Hi Lucille
I would like very much to pass as a woman. I crossdress in my own home where my wife helps me alot. I would very much like to go out in but i allways been to shy to go out.
Sarah
I am new to venturing outside. I met my mother for the first time last week and from across the lawn, she did not know it was me. She was surprised when my voice came from her living room. She and I went to lunch and shopping at a consignment shop. The owner “made” me quickly, but did not care as I was there to spend $. I think this helped with my view that I will never “pass,” but I can go out and care a little less what other people think. I am still a little skittish being out, but I am getting better. Mandy
i’m just me, take it or leave it. the best way is blend in and then you have the freedom to BE YOURSELF!
I think passing is a more state of mind than anything. I admit years ago it was a little nerve racking trying to pass. Is my hair look good, hows the makeup, do I look good in this outfit? Now I really dont care as much about such things. Now I feel confident enough to just throw a pair of shorts and a t-shirt to run to the store for milk or something else. I studied women for years, how they dressed, how they acted, how they held them selves in public. I will say it right now 99% of gentic girls would not wear 6″ heels and a 5″ mini in the middle of the day, unless your working the streets. I alwasy try and fit in, not to attract a lot of attention to myself. 99% of the time people treat me just as any other woman, even if they knew me before going fulltime. The olny porblem I have is family, not very accepting of me. But like so many has said here before, it is their problem I’m happy. Life is way too short to keep bringing up crap about who you are, go be yourself.
Hi: Lucille
Yes I love to pass. It’s not an easy thing for some of us. It takes a couple of days to get everything ready. Waxing, nails, hair, make-up. It’s a lot of work and not cheap. But when I’m all finished and dressed. I feel like the woman I know I am. Dressed nicely with a little jewelry and a nice skirt and top or maybe a dress and heels. What could be better. Be your self. Be confident. Be beautiful. Be happy.
Love to all: Donna
Hello Lucille,
I am on hormones, and have recently found your website,,, I do pass everyday as a girl,,, and am hopeing that some of your tips will further my transformation,,
Regards,
Michelle
Yes I do try to pass as a woman when I dress up. But I need to stay as a man right now. But I do Enjoy dressing up and rey my best to pass as a woman.
Tammy