“Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.
But is it really a goal worth pursuing?
If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.
I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!
It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.
That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.
Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.
Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.
Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.
Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.
The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.
Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!
As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.
Now I’d love to hear from YOU!
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I pass much better when I blend in and I don’t try to pass. I just be my self. I go to a first class salon get my waxing, massage, body scrub,hair and nails for over 9 years all the emplyee’s call me by name. the best way to get read keep looking around like don’t belong. it draw attention to your self.you don’t do that any other time. I hope that it will help you and good luck teresa
Dear Lucille: I had been following your advises. But, I did not have much success until I started your tip of the “Bustea”. At that point I started feeling some tingling and my breasts started to grow, little. However, I found “Pueraria Mirifica”, in powder form. At that point, in 3 months I went from an A- to a B+ and going. HOWEVER, warning. Since I had still taken the tea, and other supplements, I developed a DVT on my left leg. Therefore, caution, as with other estrogen,they can cause DVT and it can do you in. My doctor said it will be about a year before I can start back on the regimen and then, only the pueraria and saw palmetto. Don’t push it is great. Thanks, JG
I have to agree with Lisa, most GG”s wear jeans, trainers etc. Dressing isnt the hard bit.. thats easy.
To blend in, you need a subtle wig that represents your age group and is close to your own colour, in addition to this try and keep your makeup to a minimum.. it amazing how a good tinted moisteriser covers most of the blemishes etc.
It only becomes harder when you have to interact with other people. This takes practice and confidence, which comes with going out in public more.
But if you get clocked?.. a lovely big smile goes along way to making you feel better.
We are all women inside, so let that shine through on the outside too.
Samantha x
Hallo Lucile
I am not passable i have tried all your advice but not able to pass as a tg
Mona
I am not at all particular about passing or not passing as I am a man who loves to have breasts. I wear a bra when I am alone and that is all that matters.
At present I only have a small breast but it is better than nothing I guess. At present not in a position to augment my breasts as I would like to since I have a family who will never understand.
Just thought I will say my piece. And Lucille, I read your ebook and sure admired the genius in the tips you have given for even a man to grow breasts. Wish I was on my own as I would surely have used the tips to add to my breasts.
Blessings
Beau
There is no way in hell I will ever give up being a Woman.
I live my life 24/7 365 as a Woman because that is what I know I am.
I do feel that about 80 to 90% of the time I am seen as a Woman because that is what I project a Woman and people see me that way.
DEAR ALL,
I have only one piece of advise that life is too short and the only road to true happiness is to love yourself, to accept your looks and your body.
We are all unique and beautiful, the secret is to acknowledge this.
To truly pass as a women, be yourself, be who you are, only this way will your innate feminity shine through.
Dont worry about your voice, your appearance, the more you hide and pretend, the more obvious they become.
Above all else, be happy and live life to the full.
Show kindness and love to all people you meet and this is what you will also receive. This is only the way you will find acceptance and approval.
Love
Andrianna
Being a crossdresser and not living fulltime(as I wish I could), I want to “pass” but I am now with blending in whenever I go out. I just started going out more often as a woman to the mall, movies, eating out, and of course shopping. Yes I normally go for jeans and a blouse but would so love to go out in a dress or skirt during the day. The places that I have gone to have been very accepting and this just helps with my self-confidence about going out. It just feels wonderful to be able to go places as the woman that I feel that I am.