“Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.
But is it really a goal worth pursuing?
If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.
I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!
It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.
That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.
Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.
Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.
Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.
Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.
The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.
Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!
As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.
Now I’d love to hear from YOU!
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hi Lucille,
Passing all the time would be nice, but over the years I have come to accept who I am and as you mentioned blend with the enviroment and places I am in. I find that I do pass probably 95% of the time.
I have been fortunate and have never been “accosted” negatively by anyone who has spotted my difference. Usually they stare and shack ther heads and walk away.
I am me and I am happy with tht!
Love; Mya
Passing to me is important but it is time consuming because I have a lot of body hair. Makeup is difficult for me to master. I have gotten better at it but still takes me awhile to do. Other than that I can usually pass fairly well. My adam’s apple is on the small side and I have learned to change to my voice to be much more feminine. Passing is important because I would rather be perceived as genetic woman.
Most important she is agent if to feel with us proper well, and to become our dream reality of being woman.
Hi Lucille
When I started this I felt that I had to pass but then I started to see that a lot of women didn’t and they were born women. Now I just do the best that I can and as long as I am happy with my self and the life that should have been mine all a long most people except me for who I am and don’t question what I am. I live 24/7 as a woman and I go where I want and I dress some where in the middle of knock there socks off and work at home and allways with my head high and proud of who I am. I think people notice our confidance more than our looks.
I like to blend and i dont mind if someone can tell I am trans. It’s a process.
I say be happy with in your self and find your own way, life is to short to waste it on the opinions of others, people will if they are inclined have an opinion positive or negative weather you are tg or a genetic woman. If confidence in your self and your image life is easier. People give me a second look and i don’t go out as kristyana that maybe why but who knows and who cares less.
Lucille,
I wish that I looked good enough to blend in if I were to ever venture out in public. It would be great to just be ignored but I don’t thing that this will ever happen in my case.
I always go out trying to pass myself as a woman. How successful I was I am not so sure. Whether I’m successful or not I don’t mind. The important thing to me is I feel I’m a woman, act like a woman the best as I can and believe in myself. Whether I’ve been recognized as a transgender or a real woman, I know what is impotant is having self confidence.