“Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.
But is it really a goal worth pursuing?
If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.
I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!
It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.
That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.
Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.
Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.
Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.
Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.
The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.
Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!
As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.
Now I’d love to hear from YOU!
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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The previous photo was taken after living full-time for 3.5 months. That was about the time i began to pass. I still got read constantly. My pass ratio was horrible. I got pegged on my voice all the time. So I began to work on my voice. I spent a lot of time practicing walking, sitting, standing, and general posture. Posture is huge… It creates an instant impression.
Over a period of approximately 5-6 months the voice and movement concepts became more natural. People began to view me as woman without questioning it.
Today I went to two busy retail stores and I wasn’t read by a single person. The tellers were cheerful and friendly. Everyone in the lines appeared completely at ease, and I was at ease.
I’ve been living full-time for 8 months. It took more than seven months of evolving my feminine being to reach a place where passing is automatic. I suspect the voice training was the most influential, however; posture, and movement training can’t be missed either…
Every bit of practice you do will add up. Eventually the training and practice coalesce into an effortless expression of who you are.
hi i need to be a woman
I agree that this is of course the ultimate aspiration of any T-Girl, but unfortunately very few can actually pull it off. We are after all built completely different from GG’s (genetic girls) – just look at a silhouette of a female and male form and the differences are immediate. The male torso is longer, absence of hip definition, leg proportions etc.
However there are ways of course around this, T-Girls with a svelte physique and petite stature have an enormous advantage over most of us lads (myself definitely included in this category) so for them they are way ahead of the curve before they’ve even applied the 1st layer of foundation. Look at the LadyBoys of Bangkok as a prime example of passability.
OK so for the rest of us – lets not lose heart, we can still hoof it with the rest of U Girls.
I am most definitely NOT passable, at 6′ w/o heels and very wide shoulders, masculine facial features etc. But I still go out and I do it by a) not taking myself seriously, so when I do get called ‘Sir’ in a restaurant or get the frequent chuckles from passers-by I let it go over my head. b) and this is to me the most important – Dress appropriately, Invest in some really nice outfits, decent make-up and good quality wigs. Wearing a really nice outfit will gain more points than anything else and will always attract female attention. Outward appearance is sooo important, if U look well on the outside U will, despite not being high on the passability factor, be treated with respect.
I hope this contribution is helpful. If U want to see what I mean, please check me out on youtube – search tgirlpenelope and U’ll find some video clips of me, just messing about and having a laugh.
I always am happy when someone says ma’am or Ms. it make me smile and I feel really great.
while I dress to pass and move with confidence to pas I think I get read a lot I assume people think I’m trans-gendered but folks r polite especially at the Home Depot and costco
I believe we all want to pass, but what’s really important it believing in yourself. If you want others to accept you first must accept yourself.
I was seeking for men in terms of the process. I am more needed is to change the sexual organs.
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No! you should never give up passing as a women.
Because it’s who you are.just don’t go to fare when it comes
to beauty or vanity.as an artist some people
mistake me for a girl I don’t know if it’s because of my looks
or my Long hair I go home and I still see the wrong face god I can’t wait untell I finaly get my FFs . The peoples mistake or not I love it.working On Lucilles feminization I am getting recognized more and more.And it’s made a huge impact despite what cloths I’m wearing basicly never give up and good luck to all.