“Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.
But is it really a goal worth pursuing?
If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.
I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!
It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.
That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.
Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.
Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.
Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.
Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.
The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.
Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!
As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.
Now I’d love to hear from YOU!
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I would like to be able to pass. But so far men have accepted me for what I am and that makes me happy.
Toni
Its so hard to go out because my confidence level is so low but i slowly feel it increasing now that i put these great tips to work…tanks so much for the help, high school is getting easier!
It was hard for me to let go of my addiction to “passing”. I just make sure my look is complete all the time. Clothes, hair, purses, shoes, accesories…. Wether I pass or not I am always together. It’s easier to be satisfied with how I look when I concentrate on if I am looking good, not if I am passing.
I believe that about 90% of “passing” is confidence. Using Lucille’s tips and tricks and just being brave has gone a long way with me. I am now confident enough to go out. I have even been whistled at (now THAT is a confidence booster, lol) and been ma’am’d a few times. I’m still afraid to talk but I think I will make it past even that eventually.
Thank you Lucille, for all you do. And girls, don’t give up hope, that pic isn’t bad for a 53 yo 😉
Melz
rachael you llok very good i wish i look that good
This is for YOU Jeanette and ALL the VERY SPECIAL LADIES out there that are frightened of going out for the first time or not having the courage to go out at all !!!!!!! BUC UP,Girls !!! Y’all are just as good as anyone out there…Believe me !!! I know how ya feel…..When I first came out after my divorce in 96′ I really didn’t have a clue…STYLE !! WHAT STYLE !!! LOL….I had none!!!! OR self confidence……I was scared to death…..But I suppose that ya have to have some level of desperation to actually get the nerve if you will, to go out and express yourself at all…..All it takes is a liddle pratice and the first thing ya know,it will be second nature to you…A lot of what Lucille says is very true , but I think that ya really have to be in the shoes of the person to actually know just what they are going through ( NO OFFENCE TO ANYONE )!!!!!!! I am VERY PASSIONATE about this subject and everything that surrounds it….But girls !!!! Ya gotta be very careful also , there are a lot of people out there that just don’t GET IT and never will, the sad fact is you could end up paying the ultimate price, and THAT girlfriends just ain’t kool…….Lindsey
Lucille claims that EVERYONE CAN pass! Do you not believe her? She has the information you need.
iam an older girl but have felt this way all my life i am now out and imust say i feel good oh by the way im 64