“Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.
But is it really a goal worth pursuing?
If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.
I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!
It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.
That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.
Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.
Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.
Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.
Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.
The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.
Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!
As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.
Now I’d love to hear from YOU!
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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hi , i cant agree with you more, being a girl in a closet is no fun, the idea is to be out, be accepted and move on, one night i decided, and to my utter surprise i was accepted well, i was respected as a woman. i entered all ladies bar, used their washrooms and what not. and god it was so much freedom. read about me at http://www.nityaacd.blogspot.com
love
nityaa
I will never transition, and am fairly certain That I don’t really want that, however I am somewhat envious of girls who have been able to do this and I find the the most beautiful people out there. Here’s a little story :
When I was beginning (I’m still not very advanced) I was out shopping for a few things and went to get my favourite male eau de toilette, Gautier : le mâle. The girl serving me was very pleasant and when I had decided said “Shall I perfume you ?” This had never happened before. She proceeded to take care of me and I went to pay. Before I left and saying nothing, the cashier slipped me several ladies perfume samples. I looked at the two girls and realised they knew. They had understood. Even though I was completely in masculine dress. It was my first example of being understood and felt really marvellous.
Thank you
Sorry Teryl, but you’ve have missed your calling.
Those 2 girls in that shop have picked it up > your bottom line of your story proves it!. Your meant to change(transition), don’t leave it too long!.
No ha sido nada fácil para mi vivir con esta condición, aunque si puedo decir que ha sido muy aleccionador. Conozco esta pagina de Lucille Sorella hace años y tengo mucho que agradecerle. Ha sido de gran ayuda y lo sigue siendo. He sido capaz de estar entre personas heteros y algunos han dudado si soy hombre o mujer y eso me emociona, he sido bien tratada como mujer en hoteles de Bogotà. Quiero compartirles mi sueño mas grande como mujer y creo que eso hace que no sea capaz de operarme pues en este momento tengo esposa que mas o menos me comprende e hijos que se supone no saben nada pero para mi mi realización completa seria poder estar en embarazo y tener y criar hijos como mujer. Ser mujer es el mas bello estado del ser humano.
Gracias Lucille por ayudarnos.
Hi , as a trasexual I couldn’t disagree more , passing is crucial otherwise it will effect your metal health in a hugely negative way.
Only by being seen and accepted as female can I personally function
it may be ok if your aim is to have fun now again , but passing has to be achieved if you want to be happy and safe , as being transsexual can be a dangerous life to lead.
hi , i cant agree with you more, being a girl in a closet is no fun, the idea is to be out, be accepted and move on, one night i decided, and to my utter surprise i was accepted well, i was respected as a woman. i entered all ladies bar, used their washrooms and what not. and god it was so much freedom. read about me at http://www.nityaacd.blogspot.com
love
nityaa
I would love to be a woman full-time. Unfortunately that is not something that will likely happen. However, I do love dressing and getting out as a female. Passing or blending in is easy whenever I use a service to provide my makeup. When I do my own makeup I am very self-conscious of the fact that I don’t have a lot of practice doing my makeup and it looks poorly done, or at least to me. Others I meet say I am very passable in my look, attire, mannerisms and makeup. However, I’m always concerned with how I look but that won’t stop me from continuing to develop my makeup skills and hopefully get out as Patricia
Well, i agree with those who say for most it’s never entirely possible to “pass” – there’s always some smartie who can see through our illusion. My goal is to be pretty and feminine enough, naturally and without doing violence to my body, that people will find me attractive. I hope people will always want to talk to me and will accept that even if I am physically male, my way of engaging with people is all about being gentle and loving. My figure, my clothes, my hair, my makeup, and my other feminine grooming just helps people to see me that way!
I don’t try and pass at all as a part time cross dresser, I just try to look ultra glam, Lol. Everyone knows I am TV when I am out in TV friendly bars or at a party, but lots of woman give compliments on my appearance anyway.
I wouldn’t shop at Walmart dressed like that tho!
At the end of the day, you cannot beat biology, and biologically speaking I will always be a man. Still, I absolutely love playing the part and being Lindsey and trying new ways to be convincing. Working on my wardrobe, makeup, and hair does wonders for my mood and my self image. Doubt I will ever be able to transition to full time even after my kids grow up and move out, but that will not deter me from dressing the part at every opportunity.