“Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.
But is it really a goal worth pursuing?
If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.
I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!
It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.
That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.
Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.
Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.
Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.
Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.
The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.
Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!
As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.
Now I’d love to hear from YOU!
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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“be yourself because everybody else is already taken” That has become something of a creed with me. I personally don’t think I’ll ever pass but I have been pleasantly surprised on a couple of occasions. For me this isn’t about whether I’m male or female it’s about being comfortable within myself. in that I pass every day
Hi iI from day to day get more fem with faceal hairs beening removed primited my voice can go eather why and i have no adams apple i take size 12B IN WOMEN SHOES AND THEY FIT ME BETTER THAN ANY MANS SHOE
LINDA
I don’t really want to pass as a women i just want to grow my own breasts. Oneday i think i saw some hair and nails growing pills so i was wondering if you could make a hair and nails growing program i would love to grow my own hair and nails instead of wereing wigs and fake nails. I’m useing my Playstation 3 to go online and i the Playstation 3 can’t download the flat to fem program so i’m going to buy laptop someday then download the flat to fem program wish me luck. Thank you in advice.
Well for me passing is a very imporant thing for me to accomplish. Although I agree with the other girls on here you have to be comfortable and love yourself, I do want to make sure I can do whatever I may be able to do to pass as a girl. I do have some natural feminine features all ready which I am very blessed to have and I have been able to be called a women even when I have on shorts and a tank top that are pretty much unisex and my hair in a pony tail. But for me I want to be able to be the women I am on the inside on the outside.
I am a 24/7 shemale whom passes in mind first and body second,no surgery but plenty of mind over matter,I work,rest and play as a female.At work i pass without comment and at play i push all the right buttons to keep em guessing.GOT LOTS of admirers of both sexes and friends are supportive.love your ideas and suggestions and take them on board.thanx nici x
Thats a very good question!!!!! I am very proud to pass and proud to be the transgender person that I am (non-op transsexual). Yes I had HRT for years and painful laser treatments on male body hair. Lucy that I am blessed with natural long blond hair……… and still some male facial characteristics….(planning FFS in the upcoming two years).. So I pass as a woman but they see that there is something with Martina…..
I n front of a mirror I am proud to be Transgendered in my private setting….. Proud to pass as a woman…..and not happy if people recognize me as Transgender.
Should I be proud to be recognized????
Interesting question!
XXX Martina
i’m still in the closet however, when i’m in femme, i strive to be as authentic as possible in every way possible. lucielle, your tips have been a great help to me as far as fine tuning my body and brain.
sincerely yours,
danielle richards
Far to many as you say get hung up with “having to pass”. When simply passing isn’t the result you should be looking for. As you mention, if your not looking to live full time as a woman, compete for a job, and land a relationship with a person of the opposite or same sex. You need only to, as you say, “blend” in. This has been my savings grace. I gave up years ago thinking that I needed to pass, instead I live my life making the best female impression I can on those I meet or am around, and presto, those people accept me as nothing but female. I think there is an understanding, especially amongst women, that if you can do and behave as women do, leave the male bravado at the door and curb you desires to date the first woman that treats you like a woman at first glance. You can pretty much be assured that they will accept you as one of them. And that is not only the best but all I can ask for.