Do you think it’s important to “pass” as a woman? Many crossdressers and transgender women wrestle with this question.
Is passing really something worth striving for?
I’ve shared my thoughts on this topic in this blog post. (Spoiler: I don’t think it matters!)
But now, I want to hear from you:
Do you care about passing as a woman, or are you proud to embrace your identity as a confident and classy crossdresser or transgender woman?
Take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts in the comments!
Love,
Lucille
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Yes I believe that passing is one of the most important things. I also believe that the best asset you can have in passing is complete confidence in yourself. Though I don’t always practice it myself, I am amazed how other’s have related to me when I am projecting confidence then when I am not.
Katie
Passing isn’t important to me. Being accepted is. My current employer, for example, has NO gender specific rules in their dress code and has a policy against discrimination or harassment regarding gender identity or expression. It makes me feel safe being myself at work even though I still have a lot of work to do.
I think I’m sum what passable. It makes me feel so good to be dressed and out in public and having people saying thank mam
Hey all,
I so all the feelings of femininity but my thoughts are here on my own blog:
http://jodiedawson.blogspot.co.uk/2015/05/achievement.html
Jodie xxx
I usually present very well and pass, wether at the store shopping, or out dining, or when with dating. I do not let the fact that I have to pass deter me, I just do my best as Veronnica and SHE does the rest.
Veronnica
While I feel great pride at passing, which I do pretty well it seems, I feel it’s necessary to pass for practical and safety reasons too. When you walk into a ladies room filled with cis women, in one of these backwards states in the south or midwest, it’s in your best interests to pass completely. I’m so lucky that I can pass.
Yes, Rachel, I agree. I am lucky that I am small featured, no adam’s apple, and have a naturally soft voice. But it is still very hard work to get yourself to that state of passability! Yet it feels so good when I can achieve it. I love just blending in… content in the knowledge that I appear no better nor worse than the average woman. That is heaven to me. I feel I am honoring myself and other women when I put in the effort to look my best. However, like most everyone, I also enjoy lounging around in the privacy of my home and not have to worry about how I look. Cheers.
Did this in quazy-girl mode, in a dress and pink lipstick, but unshaven legs and no way to hide my 6’2″, no wig either (headscarf covered my hair but couldn’t hide the fact it’s short).
As I took a road trip, I went to the ladies’ in all of the southern and Midwestern states, most often they weren’t empty. I had not heard any negative comments or objections, not once.
Now that I am retired, I try to live a majority of my life now as a woman. So yes, it is extremely important to me to be able to blend in every day life as a woman. I try to wear clothes appropriate for where I am going, be it the grocery store, library or dolled up for a night at a nice eatery. I love being accepted and treated like the woman who I know I am.
Thanks, Suzy
I so agree, Suzy, about dressing appropriately…for your age, for the occasion, location, etc. You are very wise. Many crossdressers/ transgenders I have seen forget this rule…even if you don’t really pass, always appear appropriately. If you do, you won’t have many problems. Just my 2 cents!
I enjoy going into a store as a female and no body knows any different. Weather i’m wearing pants or a dress, it’s still a great feeling.