Do you think it’s important to “pass” as a woman? This is something a lot of crossdressers and transgender women think about.
Is passing really a goal worth pursuing?
I’ve shared my thoughts on whether or not I think passing matters in this blog post. (Spoiler alert: It doesn’t.)
But now, I’m curious to know what YOU think:
Do you care about passing as a woman? Or are you proud to be seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are?
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I had been dressing for some time, and became not only passable, but desirable. Since my transition I love not only how I’m accepted as a woman, but how I enjoy being really happy in life now!
Congrats Kelli Ann you are gorgeous!
Best,
Wanita
Passing is paramount for me.
I’ve spent lots of time and money on lingerie and clothing so that I can have the look of a passable female.
But the best way that I’ve learned how to pass is having taken time to observe women and emulate what I’ve seen what they do
No matter how good that you look when you’re taking the time to get dressed it doesn’t matter unless you carry yourself and have the mannerisms and the moves of the person who you’re trying to look like
With lots of practice I’ve learned how to speak so I sound like a woman.
With lots of practice I’ve learned how to walk in high heels so that I don’t look like I just came off of the farm.
One thing that I do is put a sanitary napkin in my panties so that it is a constant reminder that I need to take smaller steps then I usually do and when I sit down to keep my legs closed and my ankles crossed while I’m sitting.
One of the hardest things to learn was getting in and out of my car with a skirt on so that I didn’t show what color panties I’m wearing
Truthfully I still have trouble doing this and occasionally I flash my panties when I’m getting out of my car but while observing women getting in and out of their cars I found out that I’m not the only one who does it
You don’t have to look any futher then UTUBE
and look at Britney Spears getting out of a limo to see that she is showing her entire vagina to everyone so I don’t feel so bad if someone gets to see my panties
Occasionally it’s something that girls do for attention or to flirt and I’m no different
If I’m feeling that I look sexy and want to give a quick little peek of my panties I’ll do it when I’m getting up at a restaurant or getting out of my car
It’s one of the things that make me feel very feminine and I see other girls doing it so why shouldn’t I?
I know that I’m rambling on and getting off of the topic but it’s part of my goal to be as passable as possible
I absolutely love getting looks and compliments on the way that I look.
So I know that all of the hard work I’ve done to become a passable looking female has been worth it
I’d love to hear from anyone who reads this post so feel free to reply to it weather it’s positive or negative.
I’d like to know
I’m wanting to change this male body image into more feminine one but it’s very hard when don’t have enough money do it or got people round you that don’t approve of that or men wearing women’s clothes so what is girl to do they don’t realize theirs feminine woman wanting out of this male body] zena
I am 27 years old and decided to come out as transgender to family and friends this past summer (2016). This has been one of the most difficult truths I am trying to cope with and gracefully accept. One of the most difficult parts of this journey lies on whether or not I will pass.
A part of me really wants to be perceived as a woman, while another part of me compels me to critically investigate femininities on all fronts. What is the purpose of passing?Safety? Beauty? Happiness?
I am constantly challenging misogynist notions I have about “womanhood” (ideas that justify transmisogynist violence against #girlslikeus ), and end up not wanting to alter anything about me.
I am seeking normalcy while simultaneously trying to “queer-up” the world around me.
Hi.
Here,s a ? , You know you don’t pass or blend in and know you never will , because of masculine facial feature,s , makeup is pointless, so to be pretty or feminine is out of the ?, I think its pointless trying to be to be quite honest about it, , your not a dresser or trans, and you are just a female at 69.
doubt theres any help , in fact I think many dressers do it better,
…Noeleena…
I’m always conscious of how I look, and put myself together for where I’ll be off to. For the mall I’m cute in a tank top, jeans, and heels, for a night out, I’m in a nice skirt/top combo or a cute dress and stilettos.
xxx Kelli
Lucille,
I’ve been crossdressing since I was 5 years-old. My female side was kept secret and I never went out. A few years ago I decided the ultimate test for Barbara was to see if she was “passable”. With the help from your tips and encouragement, we got up our courage and wore our best outfit and went to town. While standing in line at a local department store, a young man in front of me says “Please Mam, go ahead!” I was thrilled. Last week while out shopping, another young man says “Have a good evening Mam.” It is important for me to pass as a woman. It makes going out very exciting and fun. Thanks again Lucille!
Barbara J
My journey started when i commenced many years ago to study gender studies and gender identity. So i visited state library and also online to read as much as possible including LGBTQI sites and cultural happenings.
My venture is from my head and my heart. Shld we be so judgemental about ourselves and/or others. For myself, at this moment whether i pass or not varies due to many things e.g. my mood, budget, headset day 2 day, and the circumstance i find myself in and the social situation I’m in at the time.
Recently l was at a cafe talking to a couple as it transpired, they were just friendly acquaintances. He thought i was alternative ‘fancy guy’. She identied me as a lady!!! I wasn’t trying to be any specific gender id. He was frustrated and ‘sweetly’ wanted to pray for me! She sweetly & totally accepted me as the lady I AM. I honestly know I’m female inside and just keep tweeking my outside appearance as necessary day 2 day. I go to more & more women’s businesses where I’m respectfully accepted and that are user friendly for me. That’s where I invest my time & $$$. It’s not rocket science. And it’s a win/win situation.
We are surrounded by those on another planet. I just refuse to waste my time giving them attention. In fact i avoid them and where they are at. There are gendered females who don’t pass as female IMHO or pass as males. I accept that. So I’m contented. When it suits me i try to be as en femme as i naturally feel. For me honesty is the best approach and personality has much to do with our confidence in how we present to a given audience. Finally, life is short so being the best girl we can at any given moment is a plus. Having Lucille’s site to participate enhances our reality and I’m very Grateful for being able to share my contribution to this topic. Love, Jayne