Do you think it’s important to “pass” as a woman? Many crossdressers and transgender women wrestle with this question.
Is passing really something worth striving for?
I’ve shared my thoughts on this topic in this blog post. (Spoiler: I don’t think it matters!)
But now, I want to hear from you:
Do you care about passing as a woman, or are you proud to embrace your identity as a confident and classy crossdresser or transgender woman?
Take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts in the comments!
Love,
Lucille
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I like being feminine under my male clothes. Sometimes I choose androgynous appearance. When I am acknowledged as a man I think of myself as a female cross dresser who has succeeded. I am flattered when people hesitate when they refer to my gender. It would be great to be a female but I have to be content with what is comfortable for me and those I encounter. Everyday I look at women and think how lucky they are to be female. I love Billie for the part of me that is her.
For me personally it is very important as I have focused and have worked to bring out the person I know I truly am. It took me a long time and quite the journey to reach the point where I live full time so I want to do what I can to be the best at presenting myself. Oh there are days when the hair doesn’t want to cooperate or I am not thrilled with the way the outfit looks on me, but those don’t change the way I feel about myself. I just use the experience as another chance to keep working on improving. Ultimately I feel the best approach to accomplish being seen as the person you chose to be is confidence in yourself and a positive attitude! Smiles always are a plus!
To me, going about as a woman is the whole point of the exercise. I am not able to be Diane 24/7, so on the occasions when she does appear, she has to look the part. For me it’s about confidence and concentration as well deportment. I spend a lot of time observing women, then practicing their movements – very different to men. And a biggie for me is dressing age appropriately. Another great post – thanks.
I live my life as a woman and pass completely. Even though I am not beautiful, by any classic standard, I found it is all about presentation and attitude. My voice has always been an alto, I smile at everyone as I make eye contact, and I always dress well. Men hold doors for me and smile back, so I must be doing things right! I am also polite to one and all.
I would love to pass all the time. (not sure how passable I am as I am hard on myself and you can’t really trust what others may tell you) I spend about 99% of my time in femme mode. That is the true me. The little bit of time I spend in drab I feel an overwhelming sense of anxiety and I can’t wait to get out of those terrible clothes. Also, being passable is an important part of being out in public. When out in public you don’t want anyone pointing at you or making remarks. It is embarrassing. Also, from a safety point of view I think it is important to be as passable as possible. You never know what you might run into out there. I dress very casual so as not to attract any attention to myself. The only attention I want is for people to see me as a woman.
I suppose everyone transgender wants to be seen as a woman, if that is how they identify. You gotta to modify yourself from typical male mode. Not over do I g make up helps. Keep it quick and simple.
Jessica,
WOW! You look absolutely stunning girl.
Kristin
Well thanks! I have been transitioning since age 30. My current bra size is a 38 B- 36 C cup without surgery. I try to take care of my skin.
To me, “passing” is the whole point of the exercise. I cannot be “Lynn” all the time, so on those occasions when she is able to make an appearance it has to be as close as possible to the real thing. Out shopping, if nobody gives me a second glance, that’s fine, object achieved. In a more intimate setting, I would expect others to afford me the same level of decorum as a biological female. If that happens, goal achieved.
Thank you for your extremely helpful blogs and tips.
Lynn
Yes! I would love to pass all the time, but I have to be realistic. After all this time working at it there are still careless slips, like not keeping my voice under control, ,or not moving as gracefully as I would like, etc.. And then, no surprise, someone will show that THEY KNOW. But, surprisingly often, they’re OK with it. And, I often seem to pass. Ladies are sociable and don’t run screaming from the bathroom. I’m too old to interest guys much, so they don’t notice much. They are usually chivalrous, however. But maybe they are just being polite. Ya never know. Either way, being a woman is great; being accepted as one often is even more great. Just stay philosophical, ladies…