Do you think it’s important to “pass” as a woman? Many crossdressers and transgender women wrestle with this question.
Is passing really something worth striving for?
I’ve shared my thoughts on this topic in this blog post. (Spoiler: I don’t think it matters!)
But now, I want to hear from you:
Do you care about passing as a woman, or are you proud to embrace your identity as a confident and classy crossdresser or transgender woman?
Take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts in the comments!
Love,
Lucille
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Hi I’m Vannessa and yes I do pass as a woman.
HI! As a mid-60’s transvestite I can say times have changed – dressing up and going out today is not the taboo it was 40 years ago.
What I learned over the years is passing is about 2% clothes and shoes; 2% make-up; 2% wig; 2% walking, movements and sitting; and 2% talking (the sound of your voice is not as important as you may think, other people will “hear” what they think they see, the words you use and how you say them is what counts).
The remaining 90% is just doing it! You can not pass if you do not try.
Hugs to all,
Jane
Hi Jane, your comments were so insightful, wise and articulate! I just loved reading what you said. As I saw the series of 2%, I was wondering what was going to follow with a large majority. And your encouragement in mentioning that the 90% is just doing it was so inspirational. Thanks so much for sharing and being so confident and positive. Hugs, bobbie
Im 64 old after work retired not sure. How i could be pretty
I have been playing the role of the woman of our home and my wife fell in love with the role reversal the very first time we tried it she has complete control of our household makes all of the decisions have you ever heard someone say they have a satisfied mind that is both of us we are both writing this just to let everyone know dreams do come true
Thanks to my loving daughter who calls me her MaDa I have become even more open with who and what I really am.
Hi ladies
I definitely do want to be able to pass its not because of what I am worried about other people thinking per se but I think all women want to be seen as attractive females and so for that reason I want to be seen that way as well. On my trips out in public I have always been treated like a woman and used the female toilets shopped in the female clothing stores pretty much without any incidents or looks. Only one occasion where I had to speak in a full conversation did I feel self aware but the young sales girl I was speaking to seemed not to notice or perhaps didn;t care. So yes I think we all deep down seek that approval and acceptance to be seen as women
So very well said, Glenda, you captured my feelings perfectly. Thank you for sharing.
I love everything about a woman they are so long the dresses skirts heels are a must I try to look as beautiful as possible
I’m not sure what the term “passing” even means. I live my life as a woman. I am never treated as a man in girl clothes in my day to day activities. I am always treated by folks as a female. And if I missed something who cares? I just love my life as an old retired woman now. Here I am yesterday again out shopping (my favorite thing!).
Suzy, your comments and photos are always so incredible! I love your frank statement that you’re not even sure what “passing” means. You are truly living your life fully as a woman, inside and outwardly. And it’s so meaningful to have you state directly that you love your life as an old (oh, no you aren’t old) retired woman. You are a beautiful woman. Thanks so much for sharing. Hugs, bobbie
Thanks so much Bobbie! It’s so good to live my life now as the person I was meant to be! Hugs, Suzy
You are a very attractive female, I can see why everyone would treat you as such.
Thanks Larry for the sweet complement! I really appreciate it! Hugs, Suzy xoxoxo!
Thanks Larry – I appreciate your comment very much! Hugs, xoxoxox
I have been doing this for many years and have watched women, most times they did not know I was watching. I am not stalking but watching them to learn how they do things. I have never had any problem passing and often get flirted with by men.
Dear Lisa, do you ever worry that if you make contact with a real guy that he could rough you up or worse get so angry that it leads to the M. I give you credit for & watching real females walking, dressing etc. I go to Renaisancee Transgender meetings (dressed) I actually used the ladies room at a popular resteraunt but this Mexican dude gave me a look: like what are you doing in here! But the heck with him. Lucille gives great tips on everything & I love her for that! I just moved & live in an apartment with a backdoor. We have a club here in Delaware The Oddity & cater to GLBTQ so it is safe. Keep up the great work & Keep On Keeping On. Love you for Who & what you are & believe in yourself. God Bless Robin Jenn
We sound the same! I love it when a man opens a door for me and/or says something nice that he would only say to a woman! Here I am the other day!
Lucille,
OH MY YES! Passing as a woman has always been the reason I dress. I started dressing as a boy. Then, it was different. Everything about wanting to appear as an attractive female was forbidden. There was no where (like this wonderful site) to get tips and encouragement on how to show the female that is within. You just had to try and learn from your mistakes. I do not get to dress as often as I wish, but when I do, I am going out in public and do my very best to “Pass”. I love it and it is what makes Barbara, Barbara.
Have fun dressing
Barbara Jane
Hi Barbara Jane. Thanks so much for contrasting how things were when you started dressing as a boy compared with how things are now. It’s important to realize the progress that has been made and the wonderful benefit of sites like this one and the supportive and helpful individuals on this site who share and chat. You very much succeed in “Passing” based on your photo. You are so stylish and beautiful. I appreciate you sharing your experiences.
Dear Barbara Jane, If you were born & grew up in the late 1950’s & 1960’s I am right there with you. I remember 1 time I got caught wearing my mom’s stockings (pantyhose were not popular. I tr oo always felt the erections & masturbating because of the feel of these lingerie items. I lived in a condo & I always worried what the other residents would think & say about me. I don’t shave all the time & I have not transited, so I am male but I too love wearing bra’s, camisoles, panties & tights or pantyhose & shoes I have a lot of them. I like those sheer pantyhose in yourpicture plus your outfit. White pantyhose & your nice legs, I wish that I had transitioned about 4 years ago. Barbara keep up the good work & love all my T-girls. Take care & God Bless
When I became the person i always wanted to be I became Annie. There are days I look better and days that are low keyed. Regardless how I look or weather I pass or not I’m still the person I am “Annie”. I can pass with effort, but nowdays It is not as important as it once was. Todays life allows us to be who we are gender wise. Just be careful there are a few places you should never go. I am pleasantly surprised at the changes in peoples attitudes and how accepting others have gotten. It really doesnt matter if i pass or not, what matters most is i look great and people enjoy my company.