Do you feel like you don’t fit into traditional gender norms?
Whether you’re a crossdresser, a transgender woman, or someone who embraces a different gender identity, one thing is clear: society still has a lot to learn about gender non-conforming people.
Do you agree? If so, let’s talk about it!
What do you wish people understood about you?
Whether it’s the people closest to you or the world at large, what message would you like to share?
The more voices and perspectives out there, the more others will hopefully begin to understand.
I’d love to hear from you, so please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
Que soy una mujer
my friends try and understand and sometimes correct themselves and it is sweet of them but sometimes one of them keeps reminding me of what i was born as and upsets me. he just believes it is all a good laugh but it still hurts i just wish he would understand and not upset me same to the rest of the world just understand and let us get on with who we want to be.
Thank you for listening
love cameron
There are a few things:
1) This is not a choice. Without acting upon my Dysphoria I would become a non-functioning individual. I would not be able to concentrate for more than a few minutes on any task before an “uneasy feeling” comes over me.
2) No one in their right mind would choose to have Gender Dysphoria. The upheaval in their life is unimaginable. Put to those on the outside.
3) Please show support to anyone who comes out to you. Offer to go “out on the town” with them if they want. It can be lonely if there is no visible support.
4) If you know someone with Gender Dysphoria offer to talk, ask questions and listen. Take 10-15 minutes and read up on the condition.
I wish people would understand that I am still just me, the way I always have been and always will be! if you had no problem socializing with my personality, why should my gender make any difference at all in anyone else’s life? i. E. If I am in the car next to you at a stoplight putting on my makeup, why would you stare? and how does my taste in shoes make any difference in your life at all?
I have stopped putting on makeup in the car long ago except for perhaps lipstick which is the last thing I put on as I have to drink so much and do not want to get it unnecessarily messed up. Anyway I don’t think that the car is the best place to put on makeup. When I was younger–I would simply put it on in front of the bathroom mirror but now that I am older and my vision is impaired I do it in front of a X 1 and X 10 lighted makeup mirror.
For Trans-folk, I wish people would understand that, even if I’m not looking female, that I still am! Some days I do NOT have the effort to make myself look good, and I want my friends and family to realize that it’s not because I’ve “Changed my mind” or some stupid crap like that. It’s because I simply don’t want to shave my legs, or my face, or put my makeup on that day. You don’t become less of a woman just because you have a beard, or leg hair, or a manly voice. If all being a woman means is wearing pretty pink dresses, having silky legs, and perfect makeup. No thank you. I’ll be my OWN gender thank you very much.
It goes the same way for FtM, if he’s looking particularly feminine that day, or he decided to wear something feminine, that’s his choice, and it makes him no less of a man.
Gender is not defined by physical attributes or actions, it’s defined by personal and intimate feelings within oneself. That’s what I wish people would understand.
On that note, do whatever you want that makes you feel happy, and good about your own body. 🙂
Side note: Seriously, if hairy legs meant you were a man, I’d still be one. Hey, don’t judge, it’s winter, EVERYONE wears pants. 😉
I guess my biggest wish would be that people wouldn’t judge a person because of their size/ At 6’5″ and 300lbs, it’s very difficult to just blend in. As I feel my type is more glam than the everyday girl, I have found that I am like a magnet for eyes that can see right trough my attempts. I now am isolated at home, for I can’t bring myself to go out into public. My level of shyness is too high, and my self image/confidence is at an all time low. I just have nowhere to turn.
I just want to be allowed to live as who I am within the community at large without being cursed, insulted or spat upon. I am not oversexed and I think I dress attractively. Through coaching I have finally found my voice which propels me to express myself when I otherwise wouldn’t. I hope to find the resources to complete my physical transformation. I don;t do this to please anyone else, but rather to see a feminine expression in the mirror each day.
I can’t even post on here it was not a duplicate comment.