Do you feel like you don’t fit into traditional gender norms?
Whether you’re a crossdresser, a transgender woman, or someone who embraces a different gender identity, one thing is clear: society still has a lot to learn about gender non-conforming people.
Do you agree? If so, let’s talk about it!
What do you wish people understood about you?
Whether it’s the people closest to you or the world at large, what message would you like to share?
The more voices and perspectives out there, the more others will hopefully begin to understand.
I’d love to hear from you, so please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
Hi Lucille,
Like some other ladies on this site, I too am getting on in years (75) but when I get dressed as Joanna the years just seem to go back, I feel like a thirty something.
I’m not good looking but I feel so happy and confident when dressed, I would love people including my family to just say “ hello Jo you do look nice” that would make my day. xx
Hi Joanna,
Oh, I know exactly how you feel. I am 75 also, and in the process of coming out. This was me at a friends place 9on my 75th birthday. As I’ve begun coming out to my friends this is the picture I use to introduce them to Jennifer. So far, everyone I’ve come out to has been very supportive, (not that anyone so far has really been surprised) but the thing they notice, before the cross dressing, is that I’m so happy. After an entire lifetime hiding this part of me, I’m finally free, and the joy and happiness radiates through. How happy I look is the first thing they mention, and that they’re happy for me. Those are friends. Most have said that they actually feel bad that I felt I had to hide it from them for so many years. I not only feel younger, but look younger too, perhaps it’s the stress of continually hiding that takes a toll on us, not only mentally but physically as well. Now, I’m so much more relaxed around my friends. It used to be that suddenly I’d notice that OMG, I’m acting feminine and have to quickly shove Jenifer back into the closet and look ?normal?. Now, it doesn’t matter, and as I become more comfortable being feminine around them, as Jennifer begins to show herself more, they actually notice (as I’m sure they did before) but now they’ll begin to call me Jennifer or Jenn instead of my male name. It feels so wonderful, it’s like an entirely new life, the life I’ve dreamed about my entire lifetime.
Hugs,
Jennifer
WOW! Great comments from Eoin and Samantha. Yes, this is a part of me that I enjoy. I am senior in years to most of you. I grew up loving to dress, and terrified that anyone ever knew. There was no understanding and no place to turn for encouragement or support. For years I thought I might be the only heterosexual male on the planet that, on occasion, wanted to (as Samantha said)just enjoy wearing women’s clothing. That said, I wish I could tell people I love, “you know I want to be Barbara tonight”, and they would say “What fun let’s do it”….Not going to happen. Thanks for the Site Lucille and Thanks to all of you who have the courage to comment and be yourselves.
Have fun dressing!
Barbara Jane
“You are beautiful, you exude femininity! You serve as my inspiration to continue my transformation. At 66 years old, I would be delighted to embrace my true self. I feel exceptionally lovely in feminine attire!”
You are VERY Beautiful.
That I’m a straight guy and when I dress as a woman I’m not looking for a man and that cross dressing is a big part of my life
I want people to understand that I am the way I am and I have desires to dress as a woman in a dress and I want to reach beyond my control and just enjoy wearing women’s clothing, I mean it’s just a piece of fabric that turned into a material, it’s not going to assassinate any of the country leader, I’m not assassinating a whole community, so I want people to to understand that fact
what I would like is to find a way to tell my family that I am a Transwomen. But I feel they will not support me
I wish people would stop saying, “now that your choosing to be transgender “ how will you deal with this or that?
It’s not a choice it’s who we are and have finally made the decision to stop living a lie.
I wish people would know how hard of a situation this puts me in. And that I just need support.
Dearest Lucille,
Now that I dress full-time, I want people to understand the deep and life-long desires I have to be a complete and loving woman. I know the clothing which makes me so feminine but I am feminine and the clothing is only decoration (although I love that decoration). Sure, I was told at birth that I am male. But that is just not so and has never been. I am who I am and love it deeply.