Expressing your feminine side is about much more than just clothes and makeup. After all, women are a little more complex than that!
That’s why I wanted to go beyond the obvious and explore some unexpected strategies to help you enhance your feminine expression.
In this blog post for crossdressers and transgender women, I share 3 unexpected ways to be more feminine. Read on to learn more!
1. Buy a New Perfume
The right perfume can make you feel irresistibly feminine. While it’s great to have a signature scent, sometimes it helps to switch things up and discover new perfumes to bring out your inner woman.
Here are some suggestions to match your desired vibe:
- Floral scents: Embrace your soft, romantic side with the allure of flowers.
- Fresh or fruity scents: Boost your confidence and energy levels with invigorating notes.
- Woody or oriental scents: Unleash your inner seductress with warm, captivating fragrances.
To learn more, check out my article on MTF Feminization Tips: How to Choose the Perfect Perfume.
2. Be More Polite
Did you know that politeness plays a significant role in enhancing your feminine image?
Countless studies have shown that women tend to excel in the realm of manners, and adopting these social graces can truly elevate your femininity.
Here are three suggestions to keep in mind:
- Embrace the power of “please” and “thank you” – These little words hold huge power in conveying respect and gratitude. Remember to use them often in your daily interactions.
- Soften your language – For example, instead of bluntly saying “I can’t hear you,” opt for a more gentle approach like, “I’m sorry, I can’t quite hear you.” This subtle shift demonstrates empathy and consideration.
- Mind your online presence – Politeness shouldn’t be limited to face-to-face encounters. It’s equally important to be polite when texting, emailing, or engaging in online discussions.
3. Loosen Up
If you’re looking for an instant way to enhance your feminine image, here’s a simple secret: loosen up! This applies to both your body and your mind, and it can work wonders in unleashing your true feminine grace.
First, let’s focus on loosening up your body:
Women naturally possess a graceful, limber quality. If your body feels tense and tight, it can manifest in stiff, jerky movements that lack femininity. Here’s how you can loosen up:
- Consciously relax your body, especially your jaw and shoulders.
- Stretch your muscles on a daily basis.
- Take lots of deep, relaxing breaths.
These simple body-loosening techniques can do more to feminize your movements than all the hip shaking in the world!
Now, let’s shift our focus to loosening up your mind:
The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t get hung up on “passing” or trying to please everybody. Instead, they embrace who they are while constantly striving to improve themselves.
Life is short, so above all, relax and enjoy the journey!
What are YOUR favorite ways to feel feminine?
As always, I’d love to hear from you on this topic.
What are your favorite – and perhaps unexpected – ways to feel feminine? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Throughout the ages I have had a problem in coming across too forcefully. I think acknowledging that the interlocutor may have something good which you yourself have not thought about despite appearances is a good thought to keep in mind at all times and it may not be important if someone is right about something so accept being “wrong” if the interlocutor’s ego needs it and is it important to win at something all the time?–certainly not!
I WENT OUT SATURDAY NIGHT AND I MUST HAVE LOOKED AND SMELLED GREAT BECAUSE I GOT PICKED UP. SHE WAS ANOTHER BI-SEXUAL GURL AND WE HIT IF RIGHT OFF. WE HAD A WONDERFUL EVENING AND THE BEST THING SHE SAID TO ME WAS ” GOOD MORNING “.
XXXOOO,
GERI DANIELLE
how lovely giggle
I relate to a lot of the previous comments, but two about perfume.
First – Whatever scent you like, keep it very subtle. If you see people backing away from you (happened), you have too much on.
Also learned from a lady friend, a perfume will smell different on different people. The perfume reacts with your own body chemicals. So what smells good on someone else, may not on you. So try it, get a few opinions to see if good on you.
Jim
Dear Lucille, I am still very much in the closet although I live on my own so can wear feminine things more often without feeling uncomfortable. My new female partner is quite accepting of my want to dress feminine.
I often wear nail polish and as often as I can I wear bra and knickers under my male clothes. I feel more secure and complete as a person when I do this and I do not try to pass as a woman.When at home i wear female jeans, tee shirts, blouses and feel really nice. Dresses are sometimes my flavour as well.When I ride my motorcycle I wear as much feminine underwear and outerwear as possible under my leathers. I have a cardigan fetish and great enthusiasm for Fisheye buttons ( small ) and often change my male shirt buttons for fisheyes.I am measured about being in public with nail polish and feminine clothing and surprisingly the women seem to be most accepting of me when I do this. I even had one woman at the supermarket tell me that she likes men wearing nail polish. Great confidence booster.
John,
I do a lot of the same things as you, but currently do not have a female partner. Was with one lady 3 years, 2 living with me. She encouraged my feminine side, to a point. We used to shop for clothes together, women’s dept and by matching shirts, blouses, panties, sleep wear. We did each other’s nails, hair coloring. But I never tried to be passable.
But as I progressed with bras, dresses, she decided it was too much for her and left. I wore everything under my clothes when I went to work, more open about it at home, inside/outside. My good neighbors are ok with me. But don’t know if I’ll meet another understanding lady.
So take it slow with her, so you don’t lose her.
Jim
Jim, Thanks so much for your reply.
I have been very open with my partner and whilst it is new territory for her she seems to love me as much for my honesty as anything else and I am very careful not to embarrass her by being too out there in public.
I do feel very much that I am a man who likes the feminine at a deep level and so I value the fact that my partner is a woman.
I feel for you and suggest that if you like women a lot, don’t give up on your dreams and wanting to live life the way that makes you feel comfortable. Once I realised that my now partner and I were getting in deep I had to tell her so as to not delay the finding out process. I was terrified that she would leave but she has come closer and I am very grateful for her understanding.Good luck with finding the woman of your dreams. It has taken me two marriages and 65 years to get into the best friendship and relationship that I have ever had.
Several things that will also work, when you are somewhere, act like you belong there!
Look people in the eye
AND the BIGGIE!!!!!!! (something I really need to work on too) SMILE!
Girls smile a lot more than guys. Look interested in what is being said, tilt your head a bit, nod slightly and SMILE!
Virginia
I AGREE! A big smile and confident look in the eyes goes miles towards feeling femme.
Such a pretty smile…and dress!
My favourite saying is “I am just me” and that is what I am and have a great time xxx
Love the pose, dress, shoes….everything!
I am in the middle of reading Alice In Genderland, and it suddenly occurred to me reading this blog that “loosen up” applies to nearly every situation. If you accept that you probably don’t “pass”, and just loosen up, and enjoy yourself for who you are, there is a strong likelihood that you will not be “read” by quite so many.
I guess what I am saying is, I have found that I am happiest when I let myself be happy, and when that happens, what people see is a happy woman instead of an obsessing man trying to be a woman.
I get more compliments (and free drinks) when I forget for a few moments to try to do the things that GG women do, and just be myself.
Hi Dorothy
I am not highly passable. What I have done is after someone has met me, I smile and thank them. At first they will have a confused look, then I say thank you for accepting me the way I am. This allows them to also feel good about themselves too. I have made several friends this way, mostly GG’s and 1 GM. And I think he might be sweet on me .
Much love ❤
Tina D. H.
Thanks Liz–that’s a nice perspective! I’m going to have to remember that as I often get overwhelmed with what other people are (or might potentially be) thinking, hehe. It really can be debilitating
I agree. If you aren’t obsessing about passing, most other people won’t either.
I agree! I don’t worry about passing. I am mindful of safety since there are people if they read you can present problems but I don’t let it reach paranoia — and really GG women need to do this too.
I spent a lot of time outdoors either on the little island I live on, in town or on road trips with my boyfriend (right now we are camping near Mt. St. Helens) and I just let people see me how they see me (I think Im pretty for 49). Seriously tho, what others think is none of my business!
I totally agree with Liz. I always try to maintain a positive outlook even if people are non responsive. A simple smile always gets the attention of nice gentlemen.
Fabulous points, Liz!! The free drinks are nice, huh? 😉
Fantastic article!…I could use all the reminders I can to smile more, hehe.
I’m a little confused about something though…About your suggestion to lean back….I thought it was more feminine to maintain good posture and take up less space and lean forward a little bit to express interest in those talking to you. So I’ve been making an effort to sit up straight when sitting as that’s what I see a lot of other women doing too.
…but what you’re saying also makes sense because most other women seem to be more relaxed in their deportment and movement, so leaning back would coincide with that.