Are you a crossdresser or transgender woman who wants to feel more confident as your female self?
Maybe you didn’t get the chance to learn important feminine skills growing up, like how to do makeup, put together outfits, or understand female friendships. It can feel like you missed out without someone to guide you, like a mother, sister, or friend.
Though you can’t turn back time and have that imaginary big sister to guide you, there’s still a lot you can learn from cisgender women in your everyday life.
In this blog post, we’ll explore 6 valuable lessons you can learn from cis women. Let’s dive in!
Lesson 1: Style and Fashion
Looking to women for fashion inspiration is a fantastic idea. They can give you ideas on how to pick flattering and feminine clothes and accessories.
Pay attention to stylish women who catch your eye and notice what makes them stand out.
What kind of clothes and accessories are they wearing? How casual or formal is their style? Are there specific colors or prints that attract your attention?
These are all valuable lessons that can inspire your own unique style.
Lesson 2: Makeup Techniques
Lots of women have gathered a ton of knowledge and skills in makeup application over the years.
By observing and learning from them, you can get some great ideas on how to use makeup to enhance your own femininity.
The next time you see an attractive woman, whether it’s in public, online, or on TV, pay attention to her makeup.
How much makeup is she wearing? Is her look more natural or dramatic? Is she emphasizing a specific feature, like her eyes or lips?
Lesson 3: Body Language and Gestures
By watching cisgender women’s body language and gestures, you can gain valuable insights into feminine mannerisms and behavior.
Learning how to move, sit, and gesture in a more feminine manner can help you present yourself authentically and confidently.
Pay attention to how women carry themselves. Do they cross their legs or place their hands on their hips? How’s their posture? Are their movements soft and subtle or big and bold?
Lesson 4: Self-Care and Grooming
Having self-care routines, like taking care of your skin, hair, and grooming, can really help you achieve a polished and feminine look.
You can learn a lot from women’s self-care habits and develop routines that enhance your own femininity.
Take a look at the self-care practices of women around you, whether it’s your partner, girlfriend, sister, or mother.
You can also check out women’s blogs and magazines to discover more about skincare, haircare, and other self-care routines that you might want to try out.
Lesson 5: Communication and Emotional Intelligence
Women are often really good at communication and emotional intelligence.
Learning how to express yourself clearly, listen actively, and handle emotions can improve your relationships and help you connect with your own feelings.
Take note of how women interact with others when you’re out in public or watching TV shows or movies. Observe the words they use and their overall manners and demeanor.
Lesson 6: Confidence and Self-Acceptance
Cisgender women have often dealt with societal pressures and expectations, but they’ve learned valuable lessons in embracing their unique qualities and building self-confidence.
You can find inspiration from strong and confident women all around you, whether they’re people you know in real life, public figures, or even fictional characters.
In conclusion
If you’re a crossdresser or transgender woman looking to embrace your best female self, there’s a lot you can learn from the women around you.
At the same time, I encourage you to hold yourself to a high standard. Some of these women might later look to you as an example of strength and beauty!
Now, I’d love to hear YOUR thoughts on this topic. What have you learned from observing cisgender women? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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To stand out as a woman really ups the ante on passability as attention and focus on you is all that much more scrutinized – that involves more attention to detail in all aspects of your feminine presentation and being comfortable with one’s presentation as a woman. As for me, at my stage, I prefer less scrutiny – however, I guess I would say it is my goal to stand out – it provides an impetus to me to improve my feminine presentation – otherwise, if satisfied to blend in, I may not be as willing to perfect my feminine image.
Thanks Lucille,
I have been living full time as a woman for about 4yrs now. I have found the best way to observe women in their “natural environment” is for me to go to the food court at a local mall i frequent, there is a goldmine of information I can gather by casually watching other women as they go about their daily duties. I have learned a lot on how to behave as a woman just by watching, thanks Lucille for your help.
Ursula.
I have been going out as woman for about two years and now go to school enfemme. I don’t show my eyes that much or eyelashes and mascara, but it is not that I don’t like it, it is that I don’t have any money. I am unemployed right now, but hope to have a job soon.
Hi Lucille ,
Watching and observing ,looks and behavior of woman is fun .
My wife is first subject . Thanks for your very clever tip .
Hally
Blending into everyday, natural, normal, average settings is always my #1 plan. In downtown metropolitan city-centers (SF, Seattle, Portland, Boston, Toronto), I always spend the day out in black pencil skirt, black thigh-highs + black flats, long-sleeved knit top with sweater or blazer, black shoulder purse, scarf, coffee-shop latte cup, and very basic “office-professional” make-up and (my own) hair styled simple: bangs and loose all around on my shoulders.
Blending in Las Vegas in January-February is either afternoon: leggings, Ughh boots, clingy long sweater over knit top, scarf, shoulder bag, same hair and make-up, perfect for Target, Ross, Marshals, coffee shop, hotel lunch, TJ-Maxx, Dress Barn
OR evening: glitzy-glamourous black or Navy or Ivory dress, cute jacket-wrap, silk scarf, darker eyes/mascara/liner and 1″ heels, works for seeing a show or nice hotel dinner, relaxing in lounge with a drink
OR technology show at the convention center all day: same as city-center/business/professional woman above – emphasis on looking like an office manager/bank lobby new accts gal/receptionist at office building.
THE MORE YOU BLEND, THE EASIER IT IS TO BE OUT.
Well I have seen it all from kind gentleness to one person who got stopped by the cops I think it was what she was wearing she looked like a gothic hooker but other then that I see half the people flaunting then self’s and some of them is teens witch I don’t like. wear I live hear in Utah more towards city creek in salt lake people are really modest and presentable more towards lets say west valley magna area its less like that more with teens then adults but their some adults I’ve seen. Smoking turns me off the most so any thing evolved around that I avoid.
But mostly I learned how to dress act etc. from observing my step sister when growing up and my own personal likes combined with that.
I have learned to be a girly girl by spending alot of time at the mall learning how to act female
So true Lucille, and something I think I’ve been doing most of my life unknowingly, but doing more intentionally the last few years, when I finally learned who I really am. Thanks again for valuable advice Lucille!
Love,
Marian .