What’s the secret to creating a convincing feminine image?
Clothes, shoes, hair, and makeup are important, but my #1 femininity tip has nothing to do with ANY of these.
I’ll give you one clue …
It’s something you should be doing ALL the time (even if you are in guy mode).
Curious?
My #1 femininity tip for crossdressers and MTF transgender women is to STUDY OTHER WOMEN.
Your best femininity teachers are the women around you. You should constantly observe women when you are out in public – as well as when you watch TV or movies.
The more you study women, the more you’ll pick up on the subtle things that make somebody feminine and attractive.
Pay extra close attention when a woman catches your eye in a positive way. (Without creeping her out, of course!) Try to pinpoint what it is that makes her so appealing.
Specifically notice:
- What she’s wearing. (A dress, pants, flats, heels, etc.)
- What her style is. (Classic, trendy, girly, etc.)
- How much makeup she’s wearing. (Is she wearing lipstick? How heavy is her eye makeup?)
- Her body language. (Does she cross her legs or place her hands on her hips? How’s her posture?)
- How she moves her body. (Are her movements soft and subtle or big and bold?)
- How she interacts with others. (Is she bubbly and outgoing or quiet and mysterious?)
Aside from picking up femininity cues that you can incorporate into your own behavior, use this as a guideline for how women in your area present themselves.
Remember, if you want to “blend in” with the women around you, your clothes, hair, and makeup should be a similar style.
I also suggest paying attention to women who attract your attention in a BAD way. Notice what turns you off so you can avoid this in your own behavior and appearance.
(Who knows? Maybe some of these women will later look to you as an example of ladylike beauty!)
Now I’d love to hear YOUR thoughts on this topic. What have you learned from observing other women?
Please share with me in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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I do this continuously. Femininity is utterly fascinating to me – it’s like a wonderful magic trick that I want to learn!
Google “Samatha Mohr” formerly of the Weather Channel and now as best I can determine she is on the week-end of CNN weather. She is out of Atlanta, Georgia.
Watch her mannerisms, the way her hands move, her walk, the way she moves her head how she stands when she is just talking.. To me she is the epitome of femininity!
she is an ideal model for presenting as feminine!
Great advice… I’d also suggest including transwomen role models! Carmen Carrera, Laverne Cox, and Janet Mock are three excellent examples of women to emulate; as a ciswoman I would love to be as poised as they are! 🙂
wHEN i went outside i see how girl spaek, walk, behave, shop, think. Really this help me 2 make my self more girlish. Now a days i really feel that i am girl. i regularly use senetary pad during period days as if i m girl.
Lucille is correct – but forgot to add one important thing – women instinctively check out other women … so if you are dressed, you should (a) not feel you’ve been outed when another woman looks at you and (b) take it as a complement that you scrub up nicely! Although I have live 24/7 as a woman for some time now, I never stop learning how to feel more comfortable as a female – and I learn FAR more from genetic girls than I do from fashion mags. Another important thing to remember is that a complement from a woman means MUCH more than one from a guy. When a woman says ‘that dress really suits you’ she’s saying it makes you look pleasing to the eye – whereas if a guy say it, the sub text is ‘your butt / boobs look great in that dress! It’s nice to get a passing complement from a man (very nice!) but somehow one from a woman is more meaningful.
Your 100% right.
ThankYou
That is a FABULOUS point, Kath!
Great blog.Observation is so important.I know women are much more observant than men.They remember the details better.I am glad you made me aware of this.It is something we can all use to improve our feminity.
Did you know what people want most.They want what they cannot have the most.Think about that. and how it applies to your lives.
Hi Lucille
I make a study of women in my everyday activity. What works for me is the appropriate toning in of the nail varnish with the colour of lipstick, but never going “over the top”. I also note that the style of outfit which states “I am in control” is a mid-calf pencil skirt.
I love what you do.
Love Richard
Thanks Lucille, I love your support and interest and endeavor, to help us! I’d love to a close friend like you! Wish I had more money to support you!You have been a very helpful source! GOD BLESS!