Are you a crossdresser or transgender woman who wants to feel more confident as your female self?
Maybe you didn’t get the chance to learn important feminine skills growing up, like how to do makeup, put together outfits, or understand female friendships. It can feel like you missed out without someone to guide you, like a mother, sister, or friend.
Though you can’t turn back time and have that imaginary big sister to guide you, there’s still a lot you can learn from cisgender women in your everyday life.
In this blog post, we’ll explore 6 valuable lessons you can learn from cis women. Let’s dive in!
Lesson 1: Style and Fashion
Looking to women for fashion inspiration is a fantastic idea. They can give you ideas on how to pick flattering and feminine clothes and accessories.
Pay attention to stylish women who catch your eye and notice what makes them stand out.
What kind of clothes and accessories are they wearing? How casual or formal is their style? Are there specific colors or prints that attract your attention?
These are all valuable lessons that can inspire your own unique style.
Lesson 2: Makeup Techniques
Lots of women have gathered a ton of knowledge and skills in makeup application over the years.
By observing and learning from them, you can get some great ideas on how to use makeup to enhance your own femininity.
The next time you see an attractive woman, whether it’s in public, online, or on TV, pay attention to her makeup.
How much makeup is she wearing? Is her look more natural or dramatic? Is she emphasizing a specific feature, like her eyes or lips?
Lesson 3: Body Language and Gestures
By watching cisgender women’s body language and gestures, you can gain valuable insights into feminine mannerisms and behavior.
Learning how to move, sit, and gesture in a more feminine manner can help you present yourself authentically and confidently.
Pay attention to how women carry themselves. Do they cross their legs or place their hands on their hips? How’s their posture? Are their movements soft and subtle or big and bold?
Lesson 4: Self-Care and Grooming
Having self-care routines, like taking care of your skin, hair, and grooming, can really help you achieve a polished and feminine look.
You can learn a lot from women’s self-care habits and develop routines that enhance your own femininity.
Take a look at the self-care practices of women around you, whether it’s your partner, girlfriend, sister, or mother.
You can also check out women’s blogs and magazines to discover more about skincare, haircare, and other self-care routines that you might want to try out.
Lesson 5: Communication and Emotional Intelligence
Women are often really good at communication and emotional intelligence.
Learning how to express yourself clearly, listen actively, and handle emotions can improve your relationships and help you connect with your own feelings.
Take note of how women interact with others when you’re out in public or watching TV shows or movies. Observe the words they use and their overall manners and demeanor.
Lesson 6: Confidence and Self-Acceptance
Cisgender women have often dealt with societal pressures and expectations, but they’ve learned valuable lessons in embracing their unique qualities and building self-confidence.
You can find inspiration from strong and confident women all around you, whether they’re people you know in real life, public figures, or even fictional characters.
In conclusion
If you’re a crossdresser or transgender woman looking to embrace your best female self, there’s a lot you can learn from the women around you.
At the same time, I encourage you to hold yourself to a high standard. Some of these women might later look to you as an example of strength and beauty!
Now, I’d love to hear YOUR thoughts on this topic. What have you learned from observing cisgender women? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hello ! i always copied&studied female mannerism….started with my Mother…She knew i studied her..she let me wear her skirts dresses babydolls&neglige’s and her half slips/slips/lingerie…
She teached me anything about fashion lingerie history….she wanted me to wear her dresses&skirts…she knew i loved it
She always wanted daughter…
as her obly child…she made me her daughter..at least part time daughter….
Thank you Chrissy for your comments… and advice.. in our presentation of our feminine persona not only it is important to “blend in” in our outward appearance but be mindful of feminine demeanor and mannerisms. During one of our counseling sessions my therapist (Heather) complimented me on my feminine demeanor which was “right on”.
Just be careful that you’re not being creepy when you’re studying other women!
I had never thought about studying women and when I read this article, I kind of had an eye opening moment. As a child I was feminine and because of the abuse in my family associated with that, I observed males closely to imitate mannerisms. As years passed, I intently observed women because I longed to be female. I have been following fashion and makeup trends for a long time. In male mode, I always acted like I didn’t know about fashions and makeup. I had been studying people (and still do) without realizing it.
Hello i found a great way to observe woman by taking public transportation. You get to see all different kinds of women and you can observe them very easily. usually when i go out i almost always take public transport and have been doing so for years and have always the women that use it also as they all dress differently that way you get to see all kinds of clothes that women wear. So if you can please try it you will notice much more than you can imagine.
I find your tips to be really helpful…In regards to studying women…I have always had a saying. “If you want to be (to do) something then get closer to the people you can emulate and become like them”. That is how I learned Spanish. I encircled myself in the Hispanic community in my area and learned to speak, as well as study a Spanish book. Anyway that is what I’m doing now with my femininity. I am observing women and talking to them and emulating how they talk and their gestures and the like. I even had a woman come up to me and tell me where to buy clothes for tall women (as I am on the taller side). I didn’t know how to react at first, but it was actually stimulating. The clerks in the store also were talking to me about dresses and all as if I were a woman. It was a very nice feeling.
Hi MaryAnn, could you please let know where that store is located, in case they’re in SoCal. Thank you!!
The greatest point of feminine presentation for myself occurred when I stopped thinking of becoming a woman and accepted that despite my physical birth gender I Am a female and wouldn’t have it any other way. Transitioning is of course a priority but my identity and confidence in myself is confirmed.
Thank you Lucille for your encouraging words and empathy, the issues of tgirls and gender identity are so confusing that we ourselves can become overwhelmed. You have often been a source of solace and inspiration to carry on. May peace and love be yours always.
Gratefully yours,
Marcia Leanne
Lucille is right on target with this and that is observing women! The last three are the ones that really take time patience and practice. We’ve all seen pretty trans girls that have all of the physical attributes but once the walk & talk, it’s a dead giveaway.
xoxoxo – Jessika