Do you ever find yourself wondering if it’s okay to crossdress? Do you feel weighed down by society’s judgment and expectations?
Well, it’s time to shed that weight and liberate yourself! Let’s talk about why crossdressing is absolutely okay, and why you should embrace it without any guilt.
1. Self-Expression Matters
As humans, expressing ourselves is a basic core need.
Crossdressing is just one way to showcase your personality, tastes, and preferences through clothing. It’s an ideal outlet for creativity and individuality.
2. Fashion Has No Gender
Who says certain clothes are meant only for specific genders?
Clothes don’t have an inherent gender; they are pieces of fabric that can be enjoyed by anyone. So, wear what makes you feel confident and fabulous!
3. Breaking Free from Gender Norms
Crossdressing challenges outdated gender norms. It’s time to break free from rigid ideas of what’s “appropriate” to wear.
Crossdressing allows you to take a stand against society’s expectations and encourages others to do the same.
4. It’s Not Harmful
Let’s be clear – crossdressing is harmless. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, there’s no reason to feel bad about it.
Feeling guilty about expressing yourself through clothing is unnecessary and unproductive.
In conclusion
Being true to yourself is a beautiful thing, and it sets an example for others to do the same.
So, let go of the guilt, and embrace your fabulous, feminine side!
Now I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Do you ever feel guilty about crossdressing? If you’ve overcome feelings of guilt, how did you do so?
Please take my poll and leave me your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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For most of my life I felt guilty about my feminine feelings and need to express my femininity, and my wife of 34 years would have nothing of it–she married a man, as she would frequently remind me. It was only after she passed away that I could finally express the real me inside, and release the anger and frustration I had about the woman I loved not letting me be open and honest with myself. Now, at 62, I have come out publicly, am finally living full time as a woman, and have absolutely no guilt whatsoever. I love going out shopping and eating with my new girl friends, who accept me and support me in my new life. I don’t communicate or visit anyone who knew me in my former male role (including our two daughters) because I know they just wouldn’t understand. I’m happier than I have ever been in my whole life and my only regret is not doing it sooner!
I use to bother me what others thought. now I always look up not down and smile and act like I belong where ever I am. I don’t think that I pass well but others say that I do. I am quite shy. if someone wants to talk or ask questions I will talk to them but I can’t seem to go out of my way to talk. I had very few stares or comments although I try to not go to places will cause trouble. I don’t know if this will help anyone else. be good to your self. teresa
No I never feel guilty about being transgendered. I didn’t ask to be born into this wrong body and feel cheated that I was. For me SRS would not go far enough. I would like the breasts, uterus and ovaries that reflect who I am inside. I can’t see how a person should feel guilty for being transgendered or a cross dresser. Being born male to me was a severe birth defect.
What about Intersex people. I can’t vote on this one question.
Also I love Iggy Pops statement, fantastic!
Thank you,
from Honolulu,
Jennifer
I don’t know if I should feel guilty but I always do. I’m going to be brutally honest and tell everyone that my story begins with being molested by my older brother.
It just so happens; as it started with him molesting me, I found a Hustler magazine which had an article that was called “I married a transvestite”. I saw a gorgeous woman I thought at the time but it turned out she had a penis between her legs and I have to admit I was hooked ever since.
I also watched the Jerry Springer shows, Maury Povich and any other talk show that talked about the topic of crossdressing or transsexuals.
Fast forward to my 20s, I was married… I still have 2 kids. But, my dressing cost me everything even when I had decided to quit and give it up, or really give it a try to give it up.
After a messy, long, and painful divorce she did what she could to rip the kids out of my life, including telling my 10 year old daughter that her father dresses like a woman and having a laugh at my expense.
My 30’s were no better, I met a woman who still I would love to be with you more than anything in this world. I was actually honest with her and told her about my dressing and like so many others she encouraged until her son found photos then she broke it off with me.
I am single I have been single for a long time and now I wrestle with telling my family that there’s nothing in the world more I want than to transition. And I see how all of them act and respond whenever they see anything related to this topic on TV.
So as for my guilt; I harbor lots of it. Being trans has caused more heartache and loss then I could have ever imagined. I have tried find the silver lining and I could never locate it. I feel guilty that something that gives me a momentary relief from being treated like the bitch has lost me so much in this life.
And that may be the worst part; I don’t even think as a classy woman, just a bitch to get used. And I love it…I love the feeling that gives me.
After the euphoria is gone, that’s all I’m left with this….is the guilt.
I hope everyone understands me writing this… if not, it’s a blog. And this has been my experience.
-sasha-
Hi Sasha 🙂
I experienced rapes as a young child. For way too many years, I felt evil simply because of my (mostly) male body. It was difficult to work through this, and it may be the reason I am asexual. I am still working through the residue of it. As I worked through it, I came to realize that I was simply born trans – some folks are.
Anyway, I just want you to know you are not alone and you should not feel guilty or shameful for being transgender – it doesn’t matter WHAT people may say, and don’t believe it if they say God hates this or hates you – YOU are precious AS SASHA or whoever you need to be. God’s love is for all of us, that’s God’s promise through Jesus: I couldn’t have gotten through my gender stuff alive without God’s gently helping me through it. (I’m not trying to bash you with “religion” or “convert” you, I’m just saying these things because they are true in my life, AND I know from painful experience how many people of faith will try to condemn you simply for being yourself. They don’t know what they are doing, and I’m convinced that God weeps over us.)
Sasha, You Are Loved Girl!!! LOVED!!! 🙂 🙂 🙂
I felt guilt about dressing my whole life, that is until my wife came to realize that I’m not all that weird because I like dressing in women’s clothing. With the help of a family counselor she had come to realize that my dressing is about me just being “me”. It is how I am wired. She now allows me time to dress around the house, although, she declines to participate. She does not wish to spend time with “Kathy”. She does, however, allow me to underdress, at will. I’ve worn my old boxer shorts twice in the last year. It is panties pretty much all the time now.
Now that the need to be secretive about my crossdressing disappeared I no longer feel guilty about expressing my feminine side. Hiding my clothes and purging, getting caught “breaking the rules” and being “selfish” about spending money on lady clothes led to all those bad feelings. I can pretty much do as I wish now and I feel whole for the first time in my life. Thanks go to my lovely bride of 39 years for accepting me for who I am and giving me freedom to be that person. We no longer fight about my crossdressing, just all the other things that “normal” folks have problems with.
I do take precautions to avoid my family members and friends finding out about “Kathy”. That would be a much harder sell to help them all understand so I’m still being secretive around them.
Reviewed lots of comments. Mine started at age 6 dad was lost in the war and I lived with my mom and three aunts. I have closet dressed for 68 years the last 6 months I spent time grooming my wife of 19 years the exciting news. It went well, she helps with makeup and buys things for me. Lately I do feel guilt, my honey and I talk a lot about my CD desires. Over sixty years of hiding I feel relieved and a lot of mixed emotions. My fem side is ok and dificult, being 6’1 and not real thin is a challange. Still look pretty with the help of a loving wife. No words of wisdom to share, just be yourself.
I don’t think guilt or shame has ever come into it for me. My attitude is simple: I’m a British citizen, I own my own home and pay all my taxes, and I’ll dress as I please, and it’s got f*** all to do with anybody else. If someone has a problem with that, tough.