Do you ever find yourself wondering if it’s okay to crossdress? Do you feel weighed down by society’s judgment and expectations?
Well, it’s time to shed that weight and liberate yourself! Let’s talk about why crossdressing is absolutely okay, and why you should embrace it without any guilt.
1. Self-Expression Matters
As humans, expressing ourselves is a basic core need.
Crossdressing is just one way to showcase your personality, tastes, and preferences through clothing. It’s an ideal outlet for creativity and individuality.
2. Fashion Has No Gender
Who says certain clothes are meant only for specific genders?
Clothes don’t have an inherent gender; they are pieces of fabric that can be enjoyed by anyone. So, wear what makes you feel confident and fabulous!
3. Breaking Free from Gender Norms
Crossdressing challenges outdated gender norms. It’s time to break free from rigid ideas of what’s “appropriate” to wear.
Crossdressing allows you to take a stand against society’s expectations and encourages others to do the same.
4. It’s Not Harmful
Let’s be clear – crossdressing is harmless. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, there’s no reason to feel bad about it.
Feeling guilty about expressing yourself through clothing is unnecessary and unproductive.
In conclusion
Being true to yourself is a beautiful thing, and it sets an example for others to do the same.
So, let go of the guilt, and embrace your fabulous, feminine side!
Now I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Do you ever feel guilty about crossdressing? If you’ve overcome feelings of guilt, how did you do so?
Please take my poll and leave me your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hi Lucille,
Hugs and kisses! I relate to Christina’s comments on “Fear of God”. I too come from a religious heritage I have no intension of forsaking. But I also know that I truly desire to be feminine. This split in personality creates a mental dissonance that at times feels unbearable. My guilt, probably originates from my masculine ‘need to control’ side of the brain. My trans-genderism seems to be out of my control and this causes anxiety which can result in self-loathing. Regardless, I go out quite often ‘en femme’ and am not often read. I’m hesitant to admit it. But the ‘rush’ of dressing in public is intense. I feel kind of like an undercover agent, pretending to be something I’m not. However, the best deep cover agents succeed because they eventually become who they are pretending to be. This can be dangerous, but sometimes you just have to accept that risk is necessary and the consequences of the alternatives are probably worse.
I don’t feel “guilty” about being transgendered. To me guilt implies making a choice. …and I am who I am.
I feel regret being born with a “deformed” body.
I feel ashamed that I feel like I’m lying to people where ever I go.
I feel embarrassed after my failed attempts to gain acceptance by my peers.
I feel miserable whenever I look at my body.
Do I feel guilty though?
…only when I realize how paralyzing all these other feelings are.
I feel blessed – I love everyone!
Linda
BTW – Lucille I love your articles – I very muck look forward to them. They have helped me in many ways dear.. Thank You!!!
“Linda”…”YOU ARE SO, SO PRETTY”…”YOU ARE SURE A SEXY WOMAN” !!!
Guilty….NO. Afraid….YES.
I came from an abusive and nonloving home. Males were definitely not supposed to be feminine. I knew I only had feminine talents, so that meant I had no talent. Father emotionaly absent and Mom was hateful.
Tina was born in that environment but had to remain hidden for real fear of being physically damaged. Back in the 50’s and 60’s trans was not ok.
All the professionals said don’t do anything to make me look like woman because I would regret it and were no help at all.
Without any help in my youth and up to 50 people would come up and call me Miss or Lady. I’m in my 60’s now andhave trouble with my image.
The good thing is I’ve been more open now and get more support. I been belly dancing for 10 years and the school and dancers been very supportive. I’ve also joined a bicycle group of women,trans, and femmes and been having time of my life.
I feel that society does not know what to do with their feminine boys or if they really want them. I still get the idea that society sees females as weak and cowards. I think that because that’s how they see feminine males. I, myself see females as very brave and very strong and I’m glad and happy to be feminine.
I don’t feel guilty, I may have a little long time ago but I think it was more fear than guilt of crossing a boundry I wasn’t sure if I would be accepted so then I picked my places carefully as I got older and more confident in myself and who I was I now go out anyplace at any time, It is hard to explain the feeling I get and the way people no matter where I am accept me and make me feel at home and wanted no guilt just joy and happiness .. Rochelle
Lucille,
I have been crossdressing in one form or another for over 50 years. Because of my guilt I have at times not dressed for years on end but I keep coming back as I love the feeling of expressing my feminine side. Much of my early guilt stemmed from not knowing for so many years that there were others like me. I knew I was not gay, but I loved being a woman. My guilt has since been replaced by pleasure ever since I found out that others do it. As a result, I am much more confident when I crossdress and I feel much more able to express and show my feminine side.
Patricia
Well, I love who I am but I have often wondered how I came to be “blessed” with this “gift.”
I guess we all have to come to our own conclusions and here is what I have decided and watching the shows “Through the Wormhole/ with Morgan Freeman,” has further confirmed my beliefs.
To first clarify in that if one cross dresses just to relieve a sexual urgency then my “theory” probably does not apply. That being said, it is my considered opinion that “we” are the next phase in human revolution. If you think about it what would be more advanced given our current status as humans, in human form to be able to “express” ourselves as both male and female in the same “body?!” How we dress is somewhat irrelevant.
Nature does seem to use a lengthy “trial and error” approach to her improvements, so it could be that that is why some of “us” are more “in tune” with our alter-ego than others are.
The bottom line is that we do exist and we offer a long continuum of interpretations of who we are and who we hope to become or evolve to as a species.
Just one girl’s opinion!
GO FORTH WOMAN — AND BE!!!!
Virginia
Hi Lucille,
First I must thank you for your lovely site with all your tips I love it to read all the messages and learn from it , I life in The Netherlands and in the beginning I felt me quilty about my feelings , then i was with my wife by my general practitioner and he said to me that it was not the quilt of anybody because I was born that way.
From that moment on I have no quilty feelings anymore and in the couple of years after that moment i celibrate my feminine feelings and maybe in the years to go I will think about transition , I think about that most of the time I have already help from a professional, but Im still married and I love my wife and my kids so thats very difficult to make that step.
Love and kisses,
xxxxxxx
Denise