Do you ever find yourself wondering if it’s okay to crossdress? Do you feel weighed down by society’s judgment and expectations?
Well, it’s time to shed that weight and liberate yourself! Let’s talk about why crossdressing is absolutely okay, and why you should embrace it without any guilt.
1. Self-Expression Matters
As humans, expressing ourselves is a basic core need.
Crossdressing is just one way to showcase your personality, tastes, and preferences through clothing. It’s an ideal outlet for creativity and individuality.
2. Fashion Has No Gender
Who says certain clothes are meant only for specific genders?
Clothes don’t have an inherent gender; they are pieces of fabric that can be enjoyed by anyone. So, wear what makes you feel confident and fabulous!
3. Breaking Free from Gender Norms
Crossdressing challenges outdated gender norms. It’s time to break free from rigid ideas of what’s “appropriate” to wear.
Crossdressing allows you to take a stand against society’s expectations and encourages others to do the same.
4. It’s Not Harmful
Let’s be clear – crossdressing is harmless. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, there’s no reason to feel bad about it.
Feeling guilty about expressing yourself through clothing is unnecessary and unproductive.
In conclusion
Being true to yourself is a beautiful thing, and it sets an example for others to do the same.
So, let go of the guilt, and embrace your fabulous, feminine side!
Now I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Do you ever feel guilty about crossdressing? If you’ve overcome feelings of guilt, how did you do so?
Please take my poll and leave me your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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I a male by birth ( cross dresser)I have large breasts hence I wear always bra. My size has gone upto 42 C. Initially I was very nervour in wearing bra but the bouncing of my big big breasts often attract public attention so I started wearing bra. It not only helped the pain of bouncing but give me a confidence and good comfort. I use to wear T shirt and my bra is quite visibe because of big size of breasts. Even ladies envy my large and perky nipples. No need to have any guilty conscous about the good endowment.
“Thomas”…”I Just Love To Wear My Matching Bras and Panties” !!!
In the past I would feel guilty after dressing up because I didn’t accept myself, I was constantly worried about what other people would think. I thought there was something wrong with taking some time for myself to escape my routine for a while. Once I figured out that lots of other people dress and they are otherwise normal people I realized it was only my own negative thoughts that were making me feel bad. Sure some other people might not understand it, so I don’t share it with them, but its a harmless activity. People do all kinds of odd things, CDing just happens to be the thing I enjoy. There things like cosplay, theater, acting, rock bands that accept it, so why not? At times I felt compelled to dress, but once I resolved the guilt issue and gave myself some freedom to explore, the compulsion seemed to go away. Now, I just enjoy it sometimes and believe it or not, I can take it or leave it…it doesn’t control my life.
sometimes I am after I have undressed myself …but never feel quilty when I am fully dressed as Deana… at that moment I only feel happiness
Hi Lucille and all us girls,
I want to post my thoughts on this a little more thoroughly as there has been a lot of negativity. Lucille, I love your blog and this question has brought up a lot of issues! I think it’s wonderful that a genetic girl is helping us non-genetic/intersex/whatever girls to express ourselves. I have gained a lot from your blog, including the courage to finally realise that I can AND SHOULD transform myself into the person I really am. So now I’m on a computer I can post a pic of my latest attempt, quite a bit more “honest” and different to my first pic. If you count “honest” as without wig – since changing our appearance is a big part of what we are, perhaps honesty is just about having fun with looks!
So, I’ll try to answer questions as best I can.
1. It allows you to integrate the best of both genders into your personality.
Perhaps, but it is very difficult in our society to actually develop our feminine side, which can make us unbalanced, and thus very unhappy. Also, if we value the feminine more than the masculine, then the masculine that is forced onto us by birth is actually quite damaging. I feel that genetic females are, at least in The West, given far more freedom to express whatever they want than males, including their masculinity. This is very sad and commonly leads to misunderstandings of the “opposite” gender. Gender is, I feel, more of a continuum than a duality, which means we really do need to embrace crossdressers as well as tgirls here.
2. It motivates you to stay in shape and take care of yourself. (A girl’s gotta look good, right?)
Absolutely! My skin is in far better condition than most males, even before hormones, and that’s because I cover up when outside and have always taken a modicum of care even when trying to be a “real man”.
3. It makes you more empathetic towards women.
It makes one more empathic full-stop!
4. It brings you closer to the people who support you.
I haven’t experienced this yet, so I can’t really tell how relevant or correct this is.
5. It’s easier to be faithful when *you* are the other woman (though I hope your empathy towards women would prevent you from cheating in the first place!).
Well, I wouldn’t cheat as man or woman, and I know many men the same, and many genetic females who are quite happy to cheat. I’m not sure lack of empathy for your partner is the domain of genetic males.
6. It allows you to get to know yourself in a deep and meaningful way.
Well, we can get lost delving into our psychology as I have done in the past, and get ourselves fully confused. Does this apply to g-males as well as g-girls? But yes, questioning the status quo is the realm of evolutionary development, so I agree with this.
7. It makes you an interesting person. (Normal is boring!)
Oh yes, it reminds me of that old Chinese curse “May you live in interesting times!”. Sometimes I just want a quiet life, and would be happy to blend in and forget all about the pain of the past. But yes, many people do value my quirky nature, pain in the ass though it can be at times.
8. It gives you more compassion towards others who don’t fit the norms of society.
I would fully agree with this. I am so supportive of other minorities because I fully understand the pain they are going through, if not the details. And it’s mostly so unnecessary it makes me angry!
9. It offers a healthy and non-destructive way to relieve stress.
Much of my stress wouldn’t exist if I could be who I was without having to worry about what others think, so I’m not convinced that this is a real benefit.
10. It makes you a more creative, resourceful, and courageous person than you might be otherwise.
Perhaps, but it also means that one has to deal with the reasons that create that necessity, and for many it is an unhappy process and we have lost people along the way who can’t deal so easily with these pressures, or who don’t have the support networks created by these online blogs, for example!
Hope that wasn’t too negative Lucille, I’ll try to post my “positives” later on to make up for the negativity 🙂
Oops, wrong blog post! Haha me.
Yesterday I spent nearly £70 ($105 to most of u gals) in primark on ladies clothes, and a similar amount over the past fortnight on eBay.
Do I feel guilty? Heck no, have loved trying them all on, especially a just-above-knee skirt with a great drawstring waist that gives me a super-looking bottom! It’s perhaps just a shame they will probably not be seen by anyone other than me…
I expect the teenage girl cashier thought it a bit strange a guy throwing a pile of female clothes on the checkout, despite the token pack of socks for my daughter!
(I hope nobody minds this slightly more light-hearted post, I’ve made a number of serious posts/replies about guilt already)
It is not just the guilt with transgender it is the shame, the loss of family, the loss of friends, the loss of maybe your career or job. Yes what you list is good things about being trans, but all what I list is also the problems so guilt is only as mall problem. Add what I said then through the guilt on top of that then you have a recipe for suicide attempts. Which the trans community has a suicide attempt rate of around 40%. Thank god for self acceptance, though that we can find peace, even with all the losses that come with transition.
Trying to simplify the difficult. There are so many reasons for crossdressing from wearing undies and simply sexual ( fetish) or part of the path to “the other side”. Female prisoners who were dominant or “butch” were found to have higher levels of testosterone. Those who feel more femme may very well have higher levels of estrogen. I believe it’s a chemical thing that’s existed since birth. No to people are exactly alike.
i agree,since i see all sort of evidence that we come back.it also tells me that we must not have a choice on what sex we will be born with.Certainly I wouldnt choose to be a man.
ANNIE
I have this theory that the transgender phenomenon may be a side-effect of reincarnation. If we live multiple lives both as male and female, then the lives in which we transition from one to the other may be difficult.
It may be that the spirit transitions before the body and we live a life in which we are emotionally female but physically male. The good side of this is that we will then be matched emotionally and physically in the successor life where the transition is complete.
I believe that too, I’ve done some past life regression through hypnosis. This recent case involved a two year old boy, James Leininger, who related to his parents that he was a WWII pilot. http://www.amazon.com/Soul-Survivor-Reincarnation-World-Fighter/dp/0446509345/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1388946885&sr=8-1&keywords=Soul+Survivor
I have thought about this from time to time have I lived a past life as a female and is that why I have always felt more female then male?