Do you ever find yourself wondering if it’s okay to crossdress? Do you feel weighed down by society’s judgment and expectations?
Well, it’s time to shed that weight and liberate yourself! Let’s talk about why crossdressing is absolutely okay, and why you should embrace it without any guilt.
1. Self-Expression Matters
As humans, expressing ourselves is a basic core need.
Crossdressing is just one way to showcase your personality, tastes, and preferences through clothing. It’s an ideal outlet for creativity and individuality.
2. Fashion Has No Gender
Who says certain clothes are meant only for specific genders?
Clothes don’t have an inherent gender; they are pieces of fabric that can be enjoyed by anyone. So, wear what makes you feel confident and fabulous!
3. Breaking Free from Gender Norms
Crossdressing challenges outdated gender norms. It’s time to break free from rigid ideas of what’s “appropriate” to wear.
Crossdressing allows you to take a stand against society’s expectations and encourages others to do the same.
4. It’s Not Harmful
Let’s be clear – crossdressing is harmless. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, there’s no reason to feel bad about it.
Feeling guilty about expressing yourself through clothing is unnecessary and unproductive.
In conclusion
Being true to yourself is a beautiful thing, and it sets an example for others to do the same.
So, let go of the guilt, and embrace your fabulous, feminine side!
Now I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Do you ever feel guilty about crossdressing? If you’ve overcome feelings of guilt, how did you do so?
Please take my poll and leave me your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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really feel ashamed because i dont unerstand it.
Sometimes its like its all and only about sex. Sometimes its strange to feel feminine and want to behave like a girl, but i dont think i want a man, unless if i was a woman, but i really get bored with males even my maleness bores me sometimes because woman are far away more atractive and emotional and their emotionality is fantastic the way they drive a friendship it seems impossible as man to have a lovely friendship as a woman do, neither their freedom of expression, males seems too much chained to their preconcepts and acts chaining the others. For sure this is a great mistery for me that i will have to solve by my own =/
Hi Nephalin
Sweetie no one understands this journey we gurls are on. We can only take hold of the reins and try to steer our lives in the direction we feel appropriate. There have been countless studies, many many tests and attempts to understand us. No one knows what causes it or why. So the best advice that was given to me is, either embrace it and try to live with it, or deny it and try to live without it. Personally I live with it and let my male self be mostly dominate, I come out whenever I can .
Much love ❤
Tina D. H.
Guilty? This was God’s or some higher being Creator’s idea—-not mine.
Ashamed?
>Not once I stopped stealing my moms pantyhose and wearing her makeup. I had to. I went to college.
Ashamed?
>Not once I stopped borrowing my girlfriends’ and her roommates panties and bras and…oh yeah, more makeup. I married that girl and at least had the decency to start buying my own clothes and makeup…eventually.
Ashamed?
Not once my wife saw me come home from a “business trip” and noticed traces of mascara that I hadn’t scrubbed off thoroughly enough. As Ricky would say to Lucy, “You got some explainin’ to do!” I started talking and talking and talking. For about 5 years I talked. She tried to be supportive and understanding while at the same time hoping to lure me back to being the “man” she thought she married.
Ashamed?
Not once I let it slip out to my wife that when I went out clubbing with my growing group of TG gurlfriends, we would compete for the attentions of a cute guy at the bar (just like real girls) waiting for an offer of a cocktail (something akin to a mating call) and if I was the lucky girl, he and I would go off in the corner to makeout. When my wife screamed,”Oh so now you’re gay too?”, my immediate response was “No, Niki likes men, just like you. She is very straight.”
Ashamed?
Not anymore. Happily divorced from my wife, 15 years with my sexy husband, who did his best to appreciate Niki, but never really fully understood her. Typical man!
Now that he is gone, I miss my girlfriends, going out, shopping, looking fabulous again which is why I’m here. Thanks for the ear and the friendship ladies. Baby needs a new a pair of heels…and a dark handsome stranger staring appreciately from across the room!
Kisses, Niki
Niki, I would say you made the right choice ! You look lovely You go GIRL
I was very much so ashamed to be trans. Until recently I had a very hard time accepting the fact that I am transgender and that there are really no cures or medications that can cure what is in my heart and in my mind. I felt very embarassed to be with my wife and around my adult children. I know how hard it is to have a family and expect them to believe everything is ok. They are still in disbelief that I am the way I am. I think it is the hardest in trying to hide it from those around who believe it a horrable sin to be transgender. If they only knew the hate and the horror that we go threw maybe I could be less of a man and more of the woman I am. The guilt has gone away but the unsurity is still there of whether or not those who I love will still love me.
I do not feel guilty anymore because I have accepted my femininity and womanliness. Years ago I would sometimes feel guilty right after I had sex with man and was a woman for him but not anymore. I have accepted I am what I am, and that is a woman.
i guess my reason for feeling guilty about being they way i truly feel is my father he has three children two females and one male he is proud of me for being the only one to have graduated high school for serving my country in the united states navy and for being in his words his favorite oldest number one son to him it is a sin and he looks down at anyone who does not follow the gender role that again as he puts it being religious as the role god put you in and as much as i want to just be myself i also dont want to disappoint him making him feel like i took away the one part of his life he was proud of his number one son so i hide it unless i am around the few people who know and does not mind it
I’d have to ask dear ol’ dad, If GOD made you the way you’re supposed to be, then why couldn’t being trans be the challenge GOD gave you?
I tried the testosterone pit myself, serving in the USMC; and, it took all my courage to introduce myself to my parents, as myself, in public (where scene making was kept to a minimum). They still don’t accept me for me, thinking instead that they somehow failed when they first had my diagnosis of gender identity disorder 40yrs earlier. But that,girlfriend, is on them.
Thanks for you service brother, or should I say sister. I too served, in the Air Force, but I know how you feel, it’s difficult living up to other’s expectations, when you have these feelings. I’ve separated my two persona’s, my Wife knows I dress, we don’t live together anymore, my kids may know, but we haven’t discussed it. Be comfortable with yourself.
Dear Lucille,
This is my first time posting, so first off I want to say You sweet lady have been a great help and inspiration to this once guilt ridden and depressed woman.
Like so many here I have known I am female from the start. I do not recall a time I thought of myself as male. I was also raised in a home were expressing myself was forbidden and severely punished. This left me with the belief that my whole existence was wrong. Guilt shame and depression became the norm.
For years I tried to change, thinking if I immerse myself in the macho activates I could make myself change. My essence remained the same. I would come back to me then purge a vicious cycle that did not stop till I was in my forties.
It was then that I sought counseling, slowly my world began to change. It wasn’t that I didn’t accept my essence it was that I had come to believe it was, morally, wrong to be me. I had adopted then moral since beaten into me by my father. For me this discovery was the key that freed me from my prison. It was not a overnight process my thinking and beliefs had been wrong and deeply ingrained for over 40 years. Lots of work and countless tears later I finally let go. I am what I am a WOMAN heart, mind and soul; not only is this right, I now feel it is wrong for me to deny this truth.
At present i have not purged in close to 8 years. I have been on hormone replacement therapy since July 3rd 2012 and have been living as a woman 24/7 since Aug 29th 2013.
So the question was do I feel guilty. NO I do not feel guilty I feel normal.
Hugs,
Roxann Matthews
do i feel guilty. hell no. i feel fortunate that i am who i am and wish that i was born a woman.
the clothes are nicer, the make-up is great, you can smell good and if you work at it, you can pass.
it’s too bad i started this journey too late but i do what i can to be happy. thanks to lucille’s breast enhancement blog, i am a 48a but there getting bigger every day. i’m going on HRT and that will help alot.
so, no guilt here. but being bi-sexual helps me in being geri danielle and love is wonderful with the right girl.
love and kisses
Being intersexed, I feel like I’m in drag no matter how I dress. I have to wear a compression sports bra to look male, but I still have the torso of a woman, and I get “outed” that way. I haven’g gone completely femme, but a friend of mine has mentioned that it could be done pretty easily. Actually, I am looking forward to that, as passing as male has been a real drag lately. I’m over 50 years old, and I know that this is my last chance if I’m going to transition. Dressing as male and buying feminine supplies has always been uncomfortable, and I have to wear panties anyway to use those at “that time”.
Yes, being “two spirits” has been an education, and you feel outside of the rest of humanity, seeing both sides without really being a part of either 100%. Since my chromosomes are XX, I identify more as a woman than a man, and I can see that is the direction that I will go. It’s ironic that it took perimenopause and HRT to make me realize this, after a bout of menopause-related migraines.
So does cross-dressing as a male make me uncomfortable? You betcha! And it’s been like that for decades. So going female will be an improvement, and if I feel a little odd wearing clothes that match my genetics, it’s something that I am committed to go with. It’s a matter of making a decision and sticking to it. I admit that I DO need help in the finer art of makeup, having missed out of that part of my development. Due to my condition, my parents didn’t know which gender to raise me, and it wound up male as default. It was later that I went in for a complete blood assay and found out who I really was. I cried a lot. I did the neurological testing, and it also turned up female. That was back in February this year. My hormonal assay was normal for a perimenopausal female, which is what I am.
So I am finally at peace with all of this, and Lucille’s help will be absolutely priceless in helping me make the next step. Thanks Lucille!