Do you ever find yourself wondering if it’s okay to crossdress? Do you feel weighed down by society’s judgment and expectations?
Well, it’s time to shed that weight and liberate yourself! Let’s talk about why crossdressing is absolutely okay, and why you should embrace it without any guilt.
1. Self-Expression Matters
As humans, expressing ourselves is a basic core need.
Crossdressing is just one way to showcase your personality, tastes, and preferences through clothing. It’s an ideal outlet for creativity and individuality.
2. Fashion Has No Gender
Who says certain clothes are meant only for specific genders?
Clothes don’t have an inherent gender; they are pieces of fabric that can be enjoyed by anyone. So, wear what makes you feel confident and fabulous!
3. Breaking Free from Gender Norms
Crossdressing challenges outdated gender norms. It’s time to break free from rigid ideas of what’s “appropriate” to wear.
Crossdressing allows you to take a stand against society’s expectations and encourages others to do the same.
4. It’s Not Harmful
Let’s be clear – crossdressing is harmless. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, there’s no reason to feel bad about it.
Feeling guilty about expressing yourself through clothing is unnecessary and unproductive.
In conclusion
Being true to yourself is a beautiful thing, and it sets an example for others to do the same.
So, let go of the guilt, and embrace your fabulous, feminine side!
Now I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Do you ever feel guilty about crossdressing? If you’ve overcome feelings of guilt, how did you do so?
Please take my poll and leave me your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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I wish I had the know how to do m makeup and then the courage to leave the house in full dress but all I do know is wear women’s under wear and bras under my man clothing. I have started laser hair removal for my chest and back and stomach. I am recently separated from my wife of 10 years and this is when I really started to wear women’s stuff . I have told no one but when I where it I feel happy and more complete . Like this is the real me. I have started taking natural beast enhancement pills to fill out my bras but I do feel guilty about this and think I should stop . I don’t know what I should do . I know If I had the money I would like to get facial feminization surgery. I know that when I see beautiful woman I am still attracted to them and I am also jealous that I don’t look like them. I don’t know if there is anyone else that feels like this. I wish I could just snap my fingers and be a beautiful woman.
Hi John
Like you, I am a semi-closeted Cross dresser. My make up skills aren’t so good. I’m not highly passable, and to top it off just turned 60 this month. I would love to get all this hair removed, and breast enhancement, but can’t afford it.
Unlike you I am still married, (I do love her, but she doesn’t approve of my dressing. Said she married a man, not someone flouncing around in a dress). Hence my having to be closeted. I do get out about once a week, for a few hours. Used to be alot more, but circumstances changed for me.
The point is John, you can be the woman you want to be. Whether you share it with the world, or just yourself. I have, in just the last 5 or so years really come out of the closet.
Give it time and patience, your inner woman will come out and show herself. Her confidence level will grow and assert itself. That is what happened to me, I couldn’t deny her anymore.
Let her be who she has to be, cause she will drive you crazy.
Much love ❤
Tina D. H.
John,
yes, many of us feel the same: like and love women and are jealous for their beauty and femininity (tenderness, style, finesse …) and would like to be like them.
What helped me is when (with help of wonderful friends) I started liking myself the way (any way) I am and enjoying my walk, talk, look, smell and feel good about me.
So, when I dress, I do it because i like the feeling and/or look, no more (or much less) in order to be beautiful like girls.
Accept yourself understanding that you ARE beutiful and do whatever makes you feel good. Be kind to other people, be honest. Especially be kind to yourself 🙂
Dusty
Thank you very much for your response I am glad that hear that I have some sort of support out there and the kind words mean a lot tome
Wow, I’d like to know more about those 2 shots that you took. I am at the point that I would like to try them. I use progesterone cream on my breasts. I always wear a bra , but I want to have to wear a bra
Yes I felt guilty about crossdressing. When I was a young boy, my mother dressed me as her little girl. She introduced me to stockings, slips, panties and make-up. My father was working most of time and had not idea about mother’s feminization of his son. Father was home and I felt free to wear and enjoy some of my mother’s stockings. Guilt is too kind of a word for how he treated me. “I should be ashamed for my sick behavior.” Of course mother acted if she had no idea why I was wearing her stockings. I felt alone and humiliated. My story is not unique. I’m straight and live a heterosexual life style. Later in life, my Ex-Wife (who often encouraged me to dress: found it sexy and exciting) finds a boy friend, has an affair and demands a divorce because “You’re a sick gay transvestite pervert! “. My life was like the song “Hello Darkness my old Friend” I love the opportunity to be Barbara. I found a great therapist and she has been a blessing to me. She is the only person that knows and I now enjoy my “femme secret” guilt free.
Barbara, I can’t imagine how you must have felt that after having encouraged your crossdressing both your mother and wife turned on you like that. It’s very nice to hear your therapist is a woman who you can confide in and won’t turn on you to achieve her own purpose. Best wishes for all good things in your life as it goes forward. – Donna
I’ve known since before I was a teenager that I had the wrong body and that I liked boys instead of girls. All my best and closest friends have been, and still are, females. I’m now 46. Because I grew up in an ultra conservative Christian home and had the expectations to find a good “girl” and get married and provide grandchildren, I did. I was married for 20 years and have 3 kids. While married I would sneak and buy undergarments and an occasional woman’s top. I would change into them when I got to my office, wear them all day, then change back before I went home. It felt so natural and right when I was dressed as who I KNOW I am on the inside. However, I live in an area of the country that is still ultra conservative and my family would implode if they knew I am gay, not to mention trans. I’ve been divorced for just over 4 years and the amount of time I spend as Krista as compared to my male persona is increasing and it feels wonderful to be who I truly am! But the guilt and shame of knowing how my family and the society I live in would react and respond is overwhelming at times. I’d love to be Krista 24/7 (no SRS) but I can’t ever see that happening.
I had a similar dilemma for years, I always new I was in the wrong gender even long before I new there was such a thing, I came out not long ago after taking online hormones “risky but needs must”
I came out to my therapist then my doctor, friends and my wife ouch!!!, that went down well “NOT”,
she says she can not live with me if I turn into a woman and watches everything I do, at the end of the day if your are trans then you are trans and its better out than in,
i want to thank Magaly De La Vega for talking to me because the only conversation i had been getting is from my girlfriend and it always seems one way. i told her that i only wear womens underwear when i met her. she was kool with it. but ask would like to get back to mens underpinings instead of womens. i said that i had been wearing womens underwear for over 10 years that i don’t know. she said that lets move slowly, and just start cotton panties instead of nylon. i said o. k. 3 days of cotton panties i got a rash. she said lets go to the the doctors office, and see what is wrong. we went ,and thank god the doctor was a woman. she looked at me in my cotton panties, and said that i lost the abilite towear cotton down there. that i should wear nylon panties for 1 week then come back. i did as instucted, and after one week the rash was gone. we went back to the doctor she said that that is the only underwear i could wear. on the the way out my girlfriend said we have some shopping to do. we ended up at the mall where we stopped at 5 womens clothing stores to buy jeans, shorts, tops ,skirts ,and dresses she had me spend 500.00 dollars that night. when we got home she had me remove all my male pants from my room. then meet her in the kitchen. she asks if i had all my pants and cotton panties. i said yes. she said sit done at the table and take off your pants. i said ok then she handed me a pair of scizors and said start cutting. she start with my cotton panties while i was cutting if your not man enough to wear these your man enough towear any mens clothing. she stopped me long enough to put on a slip and skirt. then when i sat down i knew that my life was going to change. after i cut up the panties she told me to stop. i thought that was it.but i had been wrong. i then had been told to take off my shirt, and put on a bra , and blouse which i did quickly. then she said alright go back to cutting. so i went back to cutting while i had been cutting up my clothes she said if you cannot wear cotton panties you cannot wear mens cloths. the next week we went back to the doctors office i had towear one of her girlier dresses with heels, makeup,while caring a purse. the doctor said after checking me out that she would give a shot that would help me. i asked her what kind of shot she was about to give me. she said that there was 2 shots, one to end any manly man that was left in me. the other shot would help me fit my new clothes. after about 3 months of her treatment there was no going back. now i am stuck in womens cloths forever.
I am a 25 year old male I live in Iran.
crossdresser is banned in Iran. But I’m a cross Please help me
I am made to feel guilty about it, and although I have a man in my life who lets me dress up when we are together, he doesnt like me wearing makeup. Also when friends are there, he either doesn’t invite me over or I have to dress as a man (even though our friends know about us). My family is even less supportive. I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to come out fully as myself, but I try to not let the guilt suppress me like it did all my life…
It may have been different if I could have been myself from a much younger age.
i feel bad about crossdressing but it is slowly taking over 15 years ago it was just plain panties. then get rid of all mens underwear too getting more sexier panties. now i own are the most sexiest panties and bra that i wear every day then i also went to sleeping in long night gowns every night. and wearing perfume to bed. i have also purchased over 300 slips. not to mention i no longer own any mens outer wear, so i also fear that one day there will be no turning back, and that has me scared of the future
You go girl!
Hi Kristeen,
Congrats on your progress, there is nothing wrong with being true to yourself. I agree it can be a scary process, but being true to yourself is important, and looking back I am glad that I did and just over 3 years ago I completed the journey by having my surgery. I live as a woman. I do not have the connections I used to have but they were not real friends. I never had much of a family connection, I was adopted and they never liked that I had feminine body language, it is their loss.
Today I have a family that adopted me, they husband and wife are around me every day so I am not alone, along with my first ever real friend, she is my true friend and my closest family.
It is true I have a small circle of people close to me where I live now, but I still travel and have began to build a new connection of people there, and they treat me wonderful.
My dear I could not stop what lay within me, being true to myself was very important. I wrote a letter when I began the final stages before surgery, it began with I took a chance to be true to myself. It had sad times but finally things worked out.
You must already have a group of people that already accept you as a woman, both at and away from work.
I agree it was scary but I am glad I completed my journey.
Love
Magaly