Do you ever find yourself wondering if it’s okay to crossdress? Do you feel weighed down by society’s judgment and expectations?
Well, it’s time to shed that weight and liberate yourself! Let’s talk about why crossdressing is absolutely okay, and why you should embrace it without any guilt.
1. Self-Expression Matters
As humans, expressing ourselves is a basic core need.
Crossdressing is just one way to showcase your personality, tastes, and preferences through clothing. It’s an ideal outlet for creativity and individuality.
2. Fashion Has No Gender
Who says certain clothes are meant only for specific genders?
Clothes don’t have an inherent gender; they are pieces of fabric that can be enjoyed by anyone. So, wear what makes you feel confident and fabulous!
3. Breaking Free from Gender Norms
Crossdressing challenges outdated gender norms. It’s time to break free from rigid ideas of what’s “appropriate” to wear.
Crossdressing allows you to take a stand against society’s expectations and encourages others to do the same.
4. It’s Not Harmful
Let’s be clear – crossdressing is harmless. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, there’s no reason to feel bad about it.
Feeling guilty about expressing yourself through clothing is unnecessary and unproductive.
In conclusion
Being true to yourself is a beautiful thing, and it sets an example for others to do the same.
So, let go of the guilt, and embrace your fabulous, feminine side!
Now I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Do you ever feel guilty about crossdressing? If you’ve overcome feelings of guilt, how did you do so?
Please take my poll and leave me your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Yes I feel guily! I’ve CD since I was about 12 and I’m 67 now. That’s a long time to carry guilt. When I got married I thought it would go away. And when I told my wife I thought it would go away. And when I went to therapy I thought it would go away. I’ve tried to accept myself and I have to a degree but I still feel guilty. I feel I have to hide my CD and steal the time. Also being Christian makes me feel gulity because I shouldn’t have these feelings.
I am a military guy, with 15 plus years of active duty. I hid Nicole because I thought it was wrong, I have gone out 500+ times, trust me girls I have gone to lengths, and find it increasingly harder to hide my female side, especially when I started bodybuilding…. I was convinced that this was a fetish and nothing more, but have come to grips that trying to be more macho, only makes the fem, more fem. I am here to tell any one of you that thinks that passing or being trans is tough to look at my life. Extreme secrecy and what I do… wow honey you don’t ever want that for your worst. I need my girl club, to just do nothing more than be there for me, I am not going to transition as of yet, but need the support you and your girls offer… xoxoxo Nicole
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I fought with myself for years until i finally realized this is who I am. The last 4 years of my military career (23 total) were the roughest because my body was changing and was afraid of being outed. The best day of my life was 9/11/11 when I retired and I could finally be free. I have a loving wife who adores who I am and loves to do my hair and make-up.
Nicole, I also am a military veteran. Thank you for your service. You are very pretty! Can we be friends?
Personally I have never felt guilty about cross dressing then later my transexuality. I have felt nervous, afraid at times, currently require a degree of staying in the clauses due to my job. I have always belived I am who I am and I cannot feel guilty about that.
I struggled with this for years, but now I completely embrace my cross dressing Transgender status!!! As many have said you have to realize that the desire to present feminine is not “wrong” nor are you “ill.” It is also nice to know you are not alone!!! There are thousands of individuals who fall more in the middle of the gender continuum rather than starkly at one end or the other. I still work in a male dominated industry and I do it presenting male, but when it comes to social and recreation, I am all female girls 🙂 I just simply have more fun that way and feel way more at ease.
I ahve been there, I have felt the guilt and shed those tears. I have chosen to love me the way I am and the guilt has slowly and silently slipped away. I now try to be a local resource for others who may be walking the same path i did. If you are curious, take a peek at my new and still slightly under construction website All feedback is welcome!!
Hugs,
Krystol
For many years I felt guilty about my almost obsessive desire to wear female clothes. I kept asking myself and God why this condition was so strong and got no answers. So I went along trying to do everything expected of me as a male while dressing in hiding. As a single parent I concentrated on raising my 4 children, performing my job, care-giving my parents as they got older. I just crammed my other feelings into an inner “strong box” for some “later date” exploration.
Eventually the time came that the kids were out on their own and it was just me and my mom living in the house. Having no more excuses, I set out to find out what was in “the box”. Two months of intense introspection after my last child was gone led me to realize in a “eureka!” moment that I was actually a woman!! I was scared and nearly panicky over the repercussions of that realization. So I found a therapist and opened “the box” with her. The inner peace was immediate and overwhelming. All the past questions, feelings of shame and inadequacy and not owning being a male, were gone. Everything just became obvious and freeing. I no longer had to run everything through the filter of doing what was expected of me as a son, buddy, father, etc. I could now just BE. It was as if I had just arrived on earth. The trepidation now was how to become the woman I was always destined to be. So many millions of thoughts and processes to go through! But now at least I knew what I was all about. Thus, all I had to do now was to be brave and make and follow a plan.
Sure, I felt all gangly, awkward and vulnerable, but it just had to be endured. I really had no choice!
With the immense aid of my therapist, endocrinologist, and a support group, I went on to get the hormone treatments, electrologist sessions, and SRS and FFS surgeries I needed. I came out to my children, siblings AND my mom. Each step was scary but eventually had positive results in my soul and life. Today, I still have things to accomplish to be as feminine as possible and Lucille Sorella is my main source of improvement these days. The voice and hypnosis plans I use every day.
Mom passed away at 96 in 2011. I moved into the city from the suburbs and now live quite happily as a complete woman just trying to improve as a human being every day. There is much more to this story in details, but that would take a book to describe effectively.
What I do mean to impart is that everyone should open up to themselves as to just who they are. Armed with that basic, then set out on a path to become all the YOU that is possible. Believe me, those who oppose you can be ignored. They are living their lives. You have the right to live yours.
Oh, and one last thing, do not leave God out of the equation. He made you, loves you, and dearly wants you to be happy and whole. Talk to Him constantly.
I was at on time but , and before my wife believed me she seen some of my feminine things I for got I left out to get washed,she did think the worst but her and I stayed up late that same night and it !started a better relationship/marriage and we are both very happy! an we both have a understanding about one another witch has brought us closer together and we found a lot more about our selves and we were meet too be together and yes we are the opposite of our gender but we make it work out real well!!
so be straight forward with one another let each other know how you feel abut it !who knows you both might benefit form it and make your love strive and be better at making love at higher levels that you wouldn’t believe and last longer after switching roles witch is so great !!
I’m still a closet crossdresser,I think to over come feeling guilty starts with education ,eith the youth in understanding what crossdressers and transgender is and why we feel the way we do .
The more crossdressers and transgender is talked about the more people will learn more about us.Only time will tell.
The guilt that I have is that I did not feel I could follow what I knew was the real me from childhood. At age 55 I have finally decided to make some changes. My marriage of twenty seven years ended when my first wife died from cancer. I have remarried and I came out to my new wife about wanting to live the rest of my life as a woman. Some of the guilt is preventing me from making changes sooner because it caused me to gain a lot of weight due to depression. The depression was of course because I was not happy living as a male when all I felt was female feelings. I never liked shopping for clothes, or how I looked in the mirror. The guilt is too myself. My family will never accept me as a woman and I can live with that. My current wife grudgingly accepts me growing my breasts and even attended a meeting at a cross-dresser club I joined in Seattle, but I’m sure she hopes I will stop at some point. I hope others will read this and prevent the guilt in their lives by following what you know to be true as soon as you realize who you are. Because if you wait you will have guilt and regret. Lucille is wonderful for helping so many TG and CD women get to where they need to be. Love and happiness sisters!