Becoming your best female self is more than just your clothes, hair, and makeup. It’s also about how you talk, walk, and carry yourself with confidence.
That’s why I wanted to share some crossdressing / transgender tips that go beyond the basics.
In this blog post, I’ll share 10 dos and don’ts to help make your MTF transformation or transition a success. Let’s dive in!
1. DON’T Compare Yourself to Others
There’s no winning the comparison game. Comparing yourself to cisgender women or other trans women or crossdressers will only make you miserable.
This isn’t a competition. Instead, focus on being your own best female self.
2. DO Find Female Role Models
While you shouldn’t compare yourself to other transgender or cisgender women, it IS a good idea to observe and learn from them.
When you see somebody who looks especially good, observe the details. How does she dress, speak, move, and behave?
You don’t want to be a copycat, but it can be helpful to incorporate some of these details into your own image.
3. DO Invest in Great Shapewear
The shape of your body broadcasts your gender, so it’s a great idea to invest in quality shapewear. This is even more important than splurging on expensive clothes!
Here are the essential shapewear pieces you may want to own:
- Breast forms in an ideal shape/size for your body
- Waist cincher or corset
- Padded panties (with butt and hip padding)
- Control top pantyhose
4. DON’T Forget Your Voice
There’s nothing quite as jarring as a beautifully made up woman with a voice that doesn’t match.
While you don’t need to have a perfect voice, working on improving your feminine voice can help you create a more congruent image.
Check out my blog post on Top 12 MTF Voice Training Resources For Your Transgender Voice Transition to learn more.
5. DO Dress Age Appropriately
It’s always a good idea to dress appropriately for your age, but this does NOT mean you have to look boring or frumpy after a certain age.
The key is to choose clothes and accessories that make you look your best – without looking too young or too mature.
To learn more, check out my post on How to Dress Sexy at Any Age: 3 Crossdressing / MTF Fashion Tips.
6. DON’T Overdo It
The biggest mistake you can make is overdoing it. This applies to all women!
Wearing too much makeup, dressing too sexily, and over-exaggerating your body movements are mistakes that can attract the wrong kind of attention. Instead, think subtle and stylish.
7. DO Get a Second Opinion
Seeing ourselves objectively can be tough. That’s why having a trusted friend for a second opinion is important.
If you don’t have a friend nearby, consider checking out transgender or crossdressing forums, or Facebook groups. They’re great places to ask questions and receive helpful feedback.
And guess what? Our blog has an amazing, supportive community too! Feel free to share your photos or questions below – the lovely ladies here would be happy to provide feedback.
8. DO Seek Support
Whether you crossdress in private or live as a woman full time, you deserve to be supported.
This could mean a lot of different things – from coming out to a partner, joining a support or peer group, finding a therapist, or just connecting with others online.
Being supported makes the journey a lot less lonely – and way more fun!
9. DO Practice Your Moves
Your body language and movements communicate more about you than almost anything else. Pay attention to your movements by keeping them fluid and feminine.
Check out these articles for more tips:
- 7 Tips for Feminizing Your Body Movements
- Trans / Crossdresser Heels: How to Walk in High Heels (7 Dos and Don’ts)
10. DON’T Forget To Have Fun
Whether you’re at home or in public, being a woman is supposed to be fun!
Drop the guilt, the comparisons, and the need for perfection and enjoy being the fabulous woman that you are!
What are YOUR top dos and don’ts?
Now that you’ve seen my list, what are YOUR top dos and don’ts? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Do wear a wide assortment of earrings as they bring a different aspect your look each time. Don’t let your facial hair grow long so you look like a bearded lady lol. The shorter the stubble the quicker the shave!
Very good instructions.
Hi all – I pretty much follow all of Lucille’s tips here. I’m a retired trans woman and I pretty much live my life as a woman 24/7. For my exercise at age 77, I usually do a daily walk at my local mall. When I’m doing this I’ll also do some girl shopping as well! So much fun to be treated as just another lady out shopping! Here I am the other day at Macy’s! Have fun! Suzy
I say DO Be You.
Don’t Be What You’re Not
Sometimes it’s great to stand out. Why would we always want to blend in and be like every other boring person. I love the attention I get sometimes. The way men check you out when they are out with their GFS. It’s Hawt. We need to be louder and prouder than ever, hatred is coming back full force. If we just crawl back into the shadows we will look weak. We are not weak, look at where we came from to where we are now. Be Loud, Be Proud, Come together as a Crowd .
Do not go to “transformation” services. They are expensive and few really do a good job. M.A.C or Sephora are cool to we laydies and will help you look your lovely best.
It’s so true that many transformation services are ecpensive, but some judgement is in order. See what they offer, It may be perfect for you, even at a higher cost. A one-time cost may be worth it, and literally transform your life, in some cases. So, use yer noggin before making a blanket denial. Good luck, girls!
I love to be able talk like a lady
Yes Lucille, DO dress age-appropriate, it is what allows me to really blend in when out in public, as I look like a very average everyday stylish-accessorized (but nothing overdone) mature woman (I’m 65 but get told all the time at hair salon, nail salon, spa, shopping, “Really? you look early-to-mid 50s.”)
Yes, DON’T overdone it with make-up! Again, l look very much like 90% of the over-50 women out and about.
Yes, GET INPUT-ADVICE from real women. I always ask the gals at the salons or shopping and they give great encouragement about what really works and looks good on me re: outfits, shoes, hairstyle, jewelry, make-up, perfume.
And YES, my voice is softer, I speak slower, and I end all my words/sentences on an up-note, moving my tone behind my eyes and top of my nose, away from my mouth and back of throat. No falsetto, just clear enunciation with slower rhythm, and SMILE with eye-contact whenever talking. It really works.
For me it’s not fantasy dress-up playtime . . . it’s all about being out among everyone viewed as and accepted as “a woman”, so everything about my presentation has to come together to complement colors, styles, image, my overall “look”. Then bring the confidence and 99% of those I meet go with it too.
My idea has been minidresses and pumps. 1 inch (4cm) heels will do nice, if they are 4 inch (10cm) I feel so feminine. Of course it’s about everything. Here in Finland ladies don’t dress feminine until it’s party. I’ve had a break of 20 years now but I’ll get soon back. Hope mini is good for 60 years old too :). Thank you Lucille! I’m happy with your guidance. It’s very important. I try to get rid of bad ideas and find new ways to be a woman.