So many things go into being a woman… makeup and clothing are just the beginning!
To help you be your best feminine self, here are my top 10 dos and don’ts for your male to female transformation.
1. DON’T Compare Yourself to Others
There’s no winning the comparison game. Comparing yourself to cisgender women or other trans women is a misery-inducing habit.
This isn’t a competition. Instead, focus on being the best version of YOU.
2. DO Find Female Role Models
While you shouldn’t compare yourself to other women, it IS a good idea to observe and learn from them.
When you see somebody who looks especially good, observe the details. How does she dress, speak, move, and behave? You don’t need to be a copycat, but incorporate some of these details into your own image.
3. DO Invest in Great Shaping Wear
The shape of your body broadcasts your gender, so one of the most important items to invest in is great shapewear. This is even more essential than spending money on expensive clothing!
Depending on your natural shape, you may want to invest in the following:
- Breast forms in an ideal shape/size for your body
- Waist cincher
- Padded panties (with butt and hip padding)
- Control top pantyhose
4. DON’T Forget Your Voice
There’s nothing quite as jarring as a beautifully made up woman with a voice that doesn’t match.
While it’s not essential to have the most perfectly pitched voice, putting some effort into a congruent voice will have a big impact on your image. I recommend EvaF online voice feminization training.
5. DO Dress Age Appropriately
Dressing appropriately for your age is a style must for every woman.
This is NOT to suggest that you have to look boring or frumpy above a certain age. You simply need to choose pieces that reflect the best version of you without looking too young or too old. See my 3 Rules for Dressing Sexy at Any Age for more on this topic.
6. DON’T Overdo It
The biggest mistake you can make is overdoing it. This applies to all women!
Wearing too much makeup, dressing too sexily, and over-exaggerating your movements are all no-nos. These big mistakes attract the wrong kind of attention. Instead, think subtle and stylish.
7. DO Get a Second Opinion
It’s hard to see ourselves objectively. That’s why everybody needs a trusted friend for a second opinion. If you don’t have a girlfriend you trust nearby, find a forum or even post your images in the comments section here for an objective opinion on your image.
8. DO Seek Support
Whether you crossdress in private or live as a woman full time, you deserve to be supported. This could mean a lot of different things – from coming out to a partner, joining a support or peer group, finding a therapist, or just connecting with others online. Either way, being supported make the journey a lot less lonely – and way more fun!
9. DO Practice Your Moves
Your body language and movements communicate more about you than almost anything else. Pay attention to your movements by keeping them fluid and feminine. Check out these articles for more tips:
- 7 Tips for Feminizing Your Body Movements
- How to Walk in Heels: 7 Dos and Don’ts for Crossdressers and Transgender Women
10. DON’T Forget To Have Fun
Whether you’re at home or in public, being a woman is supposed to be fun! Drop the guilt, the comparisons, and the need for perfection and enjoy being the woman that you are!
What are YOUR top dos and don’ts?
Now that you’ve seen my list, what are YOUR top dos and don’ts? Please share in the comments below!
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I love your insights woman! Please keep them coming! 🙂 Even though full time for years, some of your thoughts click….TY
I recently had an experience that was quite unusual, and was, in fact, a great lesson for me. My name is Maxine, and I choose to introduce myself as Maxine when I meet someone. The point is this—how I choose to identify myself and express who I am, is MY business. The perception of gender is irrelevant…most of the time! . Which brings me to my story. A group of friends and I go out to lunch at a local restaurant on a weekly basis. I take pride in my appearance and I always try to look my best. On one particular day, my lady friend and I were seated at a table and awaiting our order, when the cook came out to greet us. Being regular customers, we had developed a rapport with the dining staff. After the young man exchanged some small talk, he looked directly at me, and bluntly asked me, “why do you hate your penis?” At first, I wasn’t really bothered by the question and calmly replied, “I don’t. Just think of me as a girl with a little something extra.” And I just left it at that. We finished our lunch and left without further incident. It wasn’t until the following day that I began to process my feelings about what I had been asked. The question was based on the assumption that I was a man with a personal hatred of his organ. I must say that at that moment of recognition, I felt completely invalidated as a woman, and violated for expressing my authentic self. The feeling remained with me for days afterward and I shared with my women friends my assessment of the situation. They were completely supportive and gave me the validation that I so desperately needed at the time. I share this experience today with those of you on your journey who may have encountered similar treatment, merely because of your choice of gender expression. I am learning that at times we should expect for people to make inappropriate and insensitive comments about something they are uncomfortable with, or simply choose not to understand. But it still hurts. I hope this is beneficial to someone who has felt the scorn and derision of family, friends, or an unaccepting society. For me, this kind of behavior is unnecessary and unacceptable, and will not be tolerated. Have the courage to stand up for your personal dignity and freedom of expression!
Brightest Blessings to all
desire – becoming what you desire is fulfillment of desire – then you desire what you were – bondage – Accept Islam and escape bondage to Earthly life – “Earthly life is not the True Life.” (Quran)
but you have not REALLY done it until you change the chromosomes – you have to abandon your male incarnation and receive a female incarnation – but then you will desire your opposite again which will return you to maleness – you are trapped in a world of desire – accept Islam and get on the path to ESCAPE Earthly life – “Earthly life is not the True Life.” (Quran)
While all of these items have significance, one thing that gets frequently overlooked is the socialization of women compared to men. Women function VERY differently in social settings and not being aware of that will undermine good presentation.
Thank you Morgan.
My do’s and don’ts are basically the common ones that pertain to all people. I had always felt in disagreement with trying to adhere to society’s male image. Attempting to portray the male image felt fake. I don’t necessarily fit society’s female image either. As practicing mannerisms and practicing to alter my voice make me feel fake also like now I’m trying to portray society’s female image in an attempt to fit in society. Like being myself and liking what I like is unacceptable. I really just want to be myself. To enjoy life as myself. I’m not judging anyone else’s choices or opinions. (I’m saying that because I have received rebuke by others who felt offended by my statement) If I am perceived as female or male doesn’t matter. I have no preference in pronouns. My counselor commented that I won’t use the word transition and yet in his eyes, I am transitioning. I say no, I’m not. I’m me. Does anyone else share this view?
Morgan, I find that I always seem to agree with you, whether it is about tan lines or the color pink! People should be themselves, and not what others think they should be. I have always been the same person, but in the last couple of years, I have been able to express who I am more openly and publicly. Others think I am changing, I view it as me being true to myself.
Nikki, you look absolutely beautiful! Your hair looks so soft and feminine and I love your makeup! 🙂
I just want to be me too. I like the #1 thing to do on this list. Not to compare myself to others.
Exactly! Part of the problem is we didn’t measure up to society’s masculine image and now being held to the standard of society’s feminine image. I’m not either of those. I’m me. Two thumbs up, Victoria! We are all unique individuals. That’s what make us all special.
I love this website, it is perfect for helping me learn about feminization of my life… I have girl talk down perfectly. So yay! Body Languige really helps, its hard to move fast and agile, while at the same time looking perfectly feminime… I wish i was born female, but being trans is the only substitute… even though its not as good… I AM SO GLAD I CAN BE HAPPY!