Becoming your best female self is more than just your clothes, hair, and makeup. It’s also about how you talk, walk, and carry yourself with confidence.
That’s why I wanted to share some crossdressing / transgender tips that go beyond the basics.
In this blog post, I’ll share 10 dos and don’ts to help make your MTF transformation or transition a success. Let’s dive in!
1. DON’T Compare Yourself to Others
There’s no winning the comparison game. Comparing yourself to cisgender women or other trans women or crossdressers will only make you miserable.
This isn’t a competition. Instead, focus on being your own best female self.
2. DO Find Female Role Models
While you shouldn’t compare yourself to other transgender or cisgender women, it IS a good idea to observe and learn from them.
When you see somebody who looks especially good, observe the details. How does she dress, speak, move, and behave?
You don’t want to be a copycat, but it can be helpful to incorporate some of these details into your own image.
3. DO Invest in Great Shapewear
The shape of your body broadcasts your gender, so it’s a great idea to invest in quality shapewear. This is even more important than splurging on expensive clothes!
Here are the essential shapewear pieces you may want to own:
- Breast forms in an ideal shape/size for your body
- Waist cincher or corset
- Padded panties (with butt and hip padding)
- Control top pantyhose
4. DON’T Forget Your Voice
There’s nothing quite as jarring as a beautifully made up woman with a voice that doesn’t match.
While you don’t need to have a perfect voice, working on improving your feminine voice can help you create a more congruent image.
Check out my blog post on Top 12 MTF Voice Training Resources For Your Transgender Voice Transition to learn more.
5. DO Dress Age Appropriately
It’s always a good idea to dress appropriately for your age, but this does NOT mean you have to look boring or frumpy after a certain age.
The key is to choose clothes and accessories that make you look your best – without looking too young or too mature.
To learn more, check out my post on How to Dress Sexy at Any Age: 3 Crossdressing / MTF Fashion Tips.
6. DON’T Overdo It
The biggest mistake you can make is overdoing it. This applies to all women!
Wearing too much makeup, dressing too sexily, and over-exaggerating your body movements are mistakes that can attract the wrong kind of attention. Instead, think subtle and stylish.
7. DO Get a Second Opinion
Seeing ourselves objectively can be tough. That’s why having a trusted friend for a second opinion is important.
If you don’t have a friend nearby, consider checking out transgender or crossdressing forums, or Facebook groups. They’re great places to ask questions and receive helpful feedback.
And guess what? Our blog has an amazing, supportive community too! Feel free to share your photos or questions below – the lovely ladies here would be happy to provide feedback.
8. DO Seek Support
Whether you crossdress in private or live as a woman full time, you deserve to be supported.
This could mean a lot of different things – from coming out to a partner, joining a support or peer group, finding a therapist, or just connecting with others online.
Being supported makes the journey a lot less lonely – and way more fun!
9. DO Practice Your Moves
Your body language and movements communicate more about you than almost anything else. Pay attention to your movements by keeping them fluid and feminine.
Check out these articles for more tips:
- 7 Tips for Feminizing Your Body Movements
- Trans / Crossdresser Heels: How to Walk in High Heels (7 Dos and Don’ts)
10. DON’T Forget To Have Fun
Whether you’re at home or in public, being a woman is supposed to be fun!
Drop the guilt, the comparisons, and the need for perfection and enjoy being the fabulous woman that you are!
What are YOUR top dos and don’ts?
Now that you’ve seen my list, what are YOUR top dos and don’ts? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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My question to you ladies, is do I look passable as a female? I do get a lot of people who say I am and I have nothing to worry about as well. I feel as if I don’t pass, because I’m having people stare at me like a newborn calf. lol.
My top DO is walking practice. When i m alone, I mostly walk in flat female shoes. Have improved a lot. Have not tried heels as of yet but I try to walk barefoot on toes (as I am wearing heels). Also beside walking, I use to cross dress privately with all girly undergarments. Have not tried makeup so far.
Wearing tight,tiny lingerie under my ,again,skin tight black dress is the ultimate.Coupled with ‘killer’ heels,I really think my change male to female is complete.
My trans friends totally agree ❤️
Dressed to impress,the three of us own this town
I think the most important DO is to be yourself. You’ll be bombarded with messages–do this, don’t do that, this is OK if you’re under [age] but not if you’re over, etc. It’s mostly crap. Certainly take your age and body shape into consideration, but ultimately, you need to decide who you are and what your style is. Don’t let anybody tell you you can’t be the woman you are.
I saw a good looking fem but I think she was too particular about her composure as she had her feet together and her knees together set up so straight in a chair she should have been relaxing in personally I think she overdone her composure
Continue to learn.Mantras really help to get femininity embedded in subconscious and the feminine glow.Personal happiness is the key.What I notice that often is neglected is the voice and too much hair in certain areas.
Yes having fun enjoying ones’s femininity is important.
Oh, the Lucille tips are SO right on, as usual! Of course, a little personal adjustment might be in order, depending on your role in the universe, or on your circumstances. No. 10, “Have fun”, could sometimes conflict with Nos. 5 and 6, “Dress age-appropriately”, and “Dont overdo it”. Sometimes age-appropriate doesn’t apply, as long as you don’t gross anyone out. And sometimes ya just gotta overdo it a wee bit, just to make yer statement at the moment. Of course, it helps to be among friends at those times, who are used to yer shenannigans! And, is it OK, Lucille darlin ‘, my hero, to take YOU as a role model?
Find some trusted female friends that you have come out to. I have two lovely ladies who i meet with regularly.They are very honest, they tell me when i look great, or have made a mistake.I’m so lucky to have them.