Becoming your best female self is more than just your clothes, hair, and makeup. It’s also about how you talk, walk, and carry yourself with confidence.
That’s why I wanted to share some crossdressing / transgender tips that go beyond the basics.
In this blog post, I’ll share 10 dos and don’ts to help make your MTF transformation or transition a success. Let’s dive in!
1. DON’T Compare Yourself to Others
There’s no winning the comparison game. Comparing yourself to cisgender women or other trans women or crossdressers will only make you miserable.
This isn’t a competition. Instead, focus on being your own best female self.
2. DO Find Female Role Models
While you shouldn’t compare yourself to other transgender or cisgender women, it IS a good idea to observe and learn from them.
When you see somebody who looks especially good, observe the details. How does she dress, speak, move, and behave?
You don’t want to be a copycat, but it can be helpful to incorporate some of these details into your own image.
3. DO Invest in Great Shapewear
The shape of your body broadcasts your gender, so it’s a great idea to invest in quality shapewear. This is even more important than splurging on expensive clothes!
Here are the essential shapewear pieces you may want to own:
- Breast forms in an ideal shape/size for your body
- Waist cincher or corset
- Padded panties (with butt and hip padding)
- Control top pantyhose
4. DON’T Forget Your Voice
There’s nothing quite as jarring as a beautifully made up woman with a voice that doesn’t match.
While you don’t need to have a perfect voice, working on improving your feminine voice can help you create a more congruent image.
Check out my blog post on Top 12 MTF Voice Training Resources For Your Transgender Voice Transition to learn more.
5. DO Dress Age Appropriately
It’s always a good idea to dress appropriately for your age, but this does NOT mean you have to look boring or frumpy after a certain age.
The key is to choose clothes and accessories that make you look your best – without looking too young or too mature.
To learn more, check out my post on How to Dress Sexy at Any Age: 3 Crossdressing / MTF Fashion Tips.
6. DON’T Overdo It
The biggest mistake you can make is overdoing it. This applies to all women!
Wearing too much makeup, dressing too sexily, and over-exaggerating your body movements are mistakes that can attract the wrong kind of attention. Instead, think subtle and stylish.
7. DO Get a Second Opinion
Seeing ourselves objectively can be tough. That’s why having a trusted friend for a second opinion is important.
If you don’t have a friend nearby, consider checking out transgender or crossdressing forums, or Facebook groups. They’re great places to ask questions and receive helpful feedback.
And guess what? Our blog has an amazing, supportive community too! Feel free to share your photos or questions below – the lovely ladies here would be happy to provide feedback.
8. DO Seek Support
Whether you crossdress in private or live as a woman full time, you deserve to be supported.
This could mean a lot of different things – from coming out to a partner, joining a support or peer group, finding a therapist, or just connecting with others online.
Being supported makes the journey a lot less lonely – and way more fun!
9. DO Practice Your Moves
Your body language and movements communicate more about you than almost anything else. Pay attention to your movements by keeping them fluid and feminine.
Check out these articles for more tips:
- 7 Tips for Feminizing Your Body Movements
- Trans / Crossdresser Heels: How to Walk in High Heels (7 Dos and Don’ts)
10. DON’T Forget To Have Fun
Whether you’re at home or in public, being a woman is supposed to be fun!
Drop the guilt, the comparisons, and the need for perfection and enjoy being the fabulous woman that you are!
What are YOUR top dos and don’ts?
Now that you’ve seen my list, what are YOUR top dos and don’ts? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. If you liked this article, you will love my FREE Male to Female Transformation Mini Course.
I have now been living 24/7 as a woman so naturally I go out in public everywhere that I was accustomed to in my previous life It has become 2nd nature to me but starting out it wasn’t easy. I was nervous, self-conscious and probably awkward but the best thing was to keep on living my life as a woman. Eventually I learned that I could function as well as anyone else. I always smile to clerks and people on the street which gave me self-confidence. A smile goes a long way! BTW I am 68 and had many years of thinking about my transition until I retired so those preparations were valuable. My pic is when I was 67. Love you all and thank God for Lucille.
Yes. No 10 is tops! The voice swings it every time. I was lucky. Born Androgynous so I ended up with a high pitched voice and my ‘plumbing’ is half and half. I can make children or carry them. Darn good blog as usual. Trans girls who long to be women, these blogs are essential. Padding on the bottom is a must. I swim in a bikini and love it. Keep up the good work on this site.
Christina, to have a friend like you who is interested in my change from male to TG woman, is so rewarding. I anticipate your emails and devour them over and over.
Love to you, Elizabeth, Naples, FL
Hi again. I so enjoy your blogs. They always put me in a good mood. The picture is of me and a “drag queen” in Key West. She had it down perfect.
And #10 is the most important.
Thanks again.
I have been practicing my look (make up, hair, clothes) but next is voice and mannerisms. Thx for all of your help
Gina
Now you can Teach the Class! !
You look Fabulous! Enjoy being You! T.J.
Dear Christina,
You are fabulous because you look very: femme, relaxed & confident.
I was watching Pastor Joel Osteen & he mentioned if you are gay or straight that God still loves us, so the military needs to wake up & pay attention. Yeah Donald your a bigoted Fat head, ref to Trump I mean ” Donald the Chump”. Christina you look hot, sexy, and keep on doing your thing. From one Trans to another: you go baby girl. Anybody who can’t accept me can kiss my panty & pantyhose behind. All my love to you.
Robin Jennifer…. Wilmington, Delaware.
I live in Las Vegas, NV and I am MTF, 65 years young, on HRT for 3 years. Another late transitioner. I’m the girl on the left (tall one!) with my 5’ tall cis-gender BFF at a buffer on the Vegas Strip. Not my best photo but the one I wanted to share has vanished from my iPhone. Thanks for all the great advice! My voice training still is a work in progress.
I had my surgery, m2f, in 1976. I know a few things, and Lucille’s suggestions are almost always spot-on. Don’t overdo, and work on your voice! Her advice is sound and reliable. I read Lucille for tips, because, even after 42 years, I have to “adjust” . . . to my new age (70), my new status (retired), and my new role, housewife! It’s been such a wonderful, magical voyage. Thank you so much, Lucille, for being such an advocate for freedom and individuality, not to mention safety. Let’s all celebrate our lives as gifts that we share with each other.