If you’re like many of my transgender or crossdressing readers, you might not be able to present yourself as a woman each day.
That doesn’t mean you have to lose your female side when it’s time to put on the pants!
In this post, I share 5 ways to stay in touch with your femininity – even in male mode.
1. Wear Women’s Underwear
Let’s start with the most obvious tip, shall we? Wearing women’s underwear underneath your male clothing is the easiest way to connect with your feminine self on a daily basis.
Aside from that, women’s panties tend to be more comfortable than men’s boxers or briefs. Plus, they come in loads of cute and sexy styles to add some secret pizazz to your outfit.
2. Try Stealth Crossdressing
Wearing lingerie under your clothes is a classic, but why stop there? Sneaking a piece of women’s clothing into your daily outfit is a great way to feel girly.
A lot of women’s clothing can pass for unisex, so try wearing women’s:
- Basic tees
- Button-down shirts
- Jeans and pants
Don’t forget about accessories! You could also play with wearing women’s boots or using a tote bag as a laptop bag or briefcase.
3. Apply Incognito Makeup
There are lots of ways to incorporate makeup into your daily look, even when presenting as a male. Here are 4 must-have makeup items:
- Concealer or foundation – Apply a thin layer to cover under eye circles or blemishes.
- Setting powder – Apply to shiny spots on your face, like the nose or forehead.
- Clear mascara – Use it to make your eyelashes look subtly longer and fuller.
- Uncolored lipstick – Instead of boring Chapstick, care for your lips with a clear lipstick.
4. Use the Power of Scent
Scents have a powerful effect on your brain chemistry and mood, so this is a great way to connect with your feminine side.
Wear women’s perfume instead of cologne. Musky fragrances are the most unisex, so you can wear them without anybody knowing your secret. (Check out my article on perfume to learn more about choosing the right scent.)
Another option is to burn a scented candle with a feminine fragrance in your home or office.
5. Keep Reminders of Your Female Self
Another tip is to surround yourself with reminders of the woman within.
One way to do this is through photos. Keep photos of your femme self on your phone, in your wallet, or even framed and hung up so you can see them often.
You could also carry around items personalized with your feminine name, such as a necklace, keychain, or coffee mug.
6. Try Feminizing Hypnosis
Hypnosis is a powerful way to increase confidence, reprogram habits and behaviors, and improve the way you express yourself as a woman.
Best of all, it’s the ultimate mental escape – allowing you to connect with you female self regardless of your current situation.
Try it for yourself by signing up for my free Unleash Your Inner Woman hypnosis mini-session here.
How do YOU stay connected?
In an ideal world, you’d be free to present yourself as a woman whenever and wherever you wanted. Until then, I hope this gives you ideas for expressing your female side anytime you want!
How do YOU stay connected to your feminine self? I’d love to know, so please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Lucille I stumbled onto your website and it is great.I have been wearing womans panties to sleep in for a long time.I just started to shave complete body except forearms even shave my privates into an airstrip for a more fem feel.Thank you so much for the tips.Michelle
You are so feminine sweetie !!!
Hugggs,
Robin ( NewJersey )
I’d love to integrate more women’s topss into my wardrobe, but for the life of me, I can’t find any that are long enough for my arms…even most male shirts are too short. Tailors don’t seem to help…Online shops are pretty ambiguous about what the sleeve lengths are and I can’t seem to figure out how to measure my arms anyway.
Anyone have any advice as far as stores I could go to or something? (particularly for knit tops)
Hi Lucille, one of the things I do to feel feminine everyday is to bleach the hair on my arms. While there are effective commercial bleaches, a simple mixture of lemon juice,ammonia, and hydrogen peroxide work well. I consider periodic bleaching as part of my fem beauty regimen. If you will notice while “people watching”–you will never see hairy arms on a feminine beauty.
Like most others who have posted comments I too wear panties (no boundaries hipsters size 6) all the time and recently have started wearing juniors jeans (no boundaries and lei) instead of my male jeans except to work. Like a lot of other girls my deodorant is femme also (Secret so very summerberry). I also bought a small purse to put my pocketbook, keys, cell phone, etc. in and it goes with me wherever I go no matter what. Some of the little things I’ve done, I’ve feminized my phone with girly wallpaper for home and lock screens, also my desktop. The soap I use when I shower (Caress emerald rush) and when I dry off my towels and washcloth are girly colors as well (Pink Cheer, Fuchsia Supreme, Plush Plum, Violet Sky). Am going to buy a pair women’s boots for work (I work in a warehouse) and then some feminine sheets for my bed to match my pink trash basket! Got to go those boots are calling my name
Can you help me become really pretty and look like a real woman
The tips here are useful, ironically ive been doing this for along time! At 17 I went to my prom and nobody knew it was me! I passed as a girl and loved it.
After reading some of the other posts, I realized that I do more fem stuff everyday that I realized. I regularly get a pedicure and manicure with shellac because it is so strong and lasts a long time. I have my feet done with a red’ish (different) colors and clear with a slight pink tint on my fingernails, which are as long as most ladies with natural nails. I don’t even own any male underwear anymore. I shave my whole body everyday except for the parts I cannot reach. I have those parts waxed perioidically. I wear pantyhose regularly, and when possible, I wear female outer attire. However, I rarely go out into public en drag, as my passing skills suck. That is why I decided to ‘bite the bullet’ and signed up for Lucille’s New Makeup program! Can’t hardly wait for it to start!!!!!!!!! peace, love, and huge amouts of laughter to all !!!!!!!!! Love ya all !!!! Casey
Casey it doesn’t take much makeup to pass. The pic above is me and pretty subtle . Yes, that is my own hair too…..lol. keep trying.
Always, Jessica