If you’re like many of my transgender or crossdressing readers, you might not be able to present yourself as a woman each day.
That doesn’t mean you have to lose your female side when it’s time to put on the pants!
In this post, I share 5 ways to stay in touch with your femininity – even in male mode.
1. Wear Women’s Underwear
Let’s start with the most obvious tip, shall we? Wearing women’s underwear underneath your male clothing is the easiest way to connect with your feminine self on a daily basis.
Aside from that, women’s panties tend to be more comfortable than men’s boxers or briefs. Plus, they come in loads of cute and sexy styles to add some secret pizazz to your outfit.
2. Try Stealth Crossdressing
Wearing lingerie under your clothes is a classic, but why stop there? Sneaking a piece of women’s clothing into your daily outfit is a great way to feel girly.
A lot of women’s clothing can pass for unisex, so try wearing women’s:
- Basic tees
- Button-down shirts
- Jeans and pants
Don’t forget about accessories! You could also play with wearing women’s boots or using a tote bag as a laptop bag or briefcase.
3. Apply Incognito Makeup
There are lots of ways to incorporate makeup into your daily look, even when presenting as a male. Here are 4 must-have makeup items:
- Concealer or foundation – Apply a thin layer to cover under eye circles or blemishes.
- Setting powder – Apply to shiny spots on your face, like the nose or forehead.
- Clear mascara – Use it to make your eyelashes look subtly longer and fuller.
- Uncolored lipstick – Instead of boring Chapstick, care for your lips with a clear lipstick.
4. Use the Power of Scent
Scents have a powerful effect on your brain chemistry and mood, so this is a great way to connect with your feminine side.
Wear women’s perfume instead of cologne. Musky fragrances are the most unisex, so you can wear them without anybody knowing your secret. (Check out my article on perfume to learn more about choosing the right scent.)
Another option is to burn a scented candle with a feminine fragrance in your home or office.
5. Keep Reminders of Your Female Self
Another tip is to surround yourself with reminders of the woman within.
One way to do this is through photos. Keep photos of your femme self on your phone, in your wallet, or even framed and hung up so you can see them often.
You could also carry around items personalized with your feminine name, such as a necklace, keychain, or coffee mug.
6. Try Feminizing Hypnosis
Hypnosis is a powerful way to increase confidence, reprogram habits and behaviors, and improve the way you express yourself as a woman.
Best of all, it’s the ultimate mental escape – allowing you to connect with you female self regardless of your current situation.
Try it for yourself by signing up for my free Unleash Your Inner Woman hypnosis mini-session here.
How do YOU stay connected?
In an ideal world, you’d be free to present yourself as a woman whenever and wherever you wanted. Until then, I hope this gives you ideas for expressing your female side anytime you want!
How do YOU stay connected to your feminine self? I’d love to know, so please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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I’m now 24/7 but i can certainly vouch for Lucille’s hypnosis tapes “Unleash your Inner Woman”. I found the title of the “Beauty Pagent” one offputting and didn’t listen to it for quite a while, but its message was not what i thought and it was so sublime i wept at its beauty.
I keep my body hair free below my eyebrows 24/7/365 days a year, keep nail polish on my toenails the same way. Always use scented soap, woman’s deodorant and will use perfume on a daily basis. I will also wear panties as a constant reminder of who I am.
I always wear panties…nobody can see and I still feel my feminine side! I work in a VERY manly industry!
I am 17 and my mom and dad have raised me as a “girly” girl and i am fine with it.When i was little,i wore dresses with bows in my hair and was always dressed up cute and girly for christmas and easter.Two years ago when i was 15,i finially made my First Holy Communion with the 7 year olds in the class.Mom and gramma bought me a cute,short sleeve,poofy,top of the knees communion dress and matching veil with the lace anklets and white ‘mary jane’ style shoes and a white tee shirt and the same cloth diapers and adult size plastic pants like the little girls wear.Mom sewed the cloth diapers together to make the one diaper out of them and had pink lace sewn around the waist and leg openings of the plastic pants.Her and gramma dressed me in the outfit the morning of the ceremony and i felt and lokked like a little girl! My dress and veil were very girly and i was happy to be making my First Holy Communion!
I didn’t need a reminder. I couldn’t seem to take off the fem self. Even though I wanted to. As much as I tried to put on the man, I felt it was a facade that everyone could see right through. I remember well, that feeling of panic while standing in line at the grocery store and feeling so out of place at work. Sometimes those feelings would suddenly overwhelm me. Filling me with fear and anxiety that I could barely function. I began avoiding people and public places because my emotional responses were uncontrollable. I began to think I was going crazy. I just wanted either my fem self or male self to go away.
Morgan,
It is good to see another post from you. Like your pictures, I always find them so honest and open. I think you could be the ivory soap spokesperson!
I hope everything in your life’s journey is continuing to improve. You are one of the regular contributors that have given me hope for a brighter tomorrow.
Hugs and Smiles ,
Jenny D
Thank you, Jenny! Such a sweet compliment. I hope things are going well for you too! Have a Merry Christmas!
Before I came out as trans at my job (a process which has been astonishingly wonderful, I might add, I feel so blessed to work at this place); I’d already started pushing some boundaries in this way.
I’d been wearing panties under my clothes for sometime, later I started wearing a bra, and even stuffing it just a bit, under my work shirts.
I shaved my beard and pierced my ears and started wearing some simple studs and some simple beaded bracelets on my wrist.
I got and started wearing some women’s jeans and sneakers which were sufficiently ambiguous not to raise much question. I found a nice woodsy scent that I still wear.
And I bought some more femme accessories (a tassel for my keys, a blingy chain for my reading glasses) that I started using not long before I came out formally.
sounds very interesting, exciting.. however must have been a bit scary at first..well done..
There was some anxiety at first, but it was such a non-issue at my workplace that I felt increasingly emboldened.
When I started working there, one of the first things that happened was repeated corporate emails emphasizing the company’s strong diversity and inclusion policy.
It was almost like they were begging me to come out.
I finally felt like it was time for them to put their money where their mouth was, so I bit the bullet and came out.
They made that process just about as painless as I could imagine. I’m delighted.
I will wear at least a pair of panties with pantyhose and maybe a pair of leggings underneath, unless I’m in unfamiliar territory and don’t know anyone, but that was then, now I wear what I want
16th August 2018
I bought 2 flower brooches from a garden centre today, one of them was yellow and the other red. I will wear one of them on days I’m wearing a shirt with pocket on the inside, out of sight alongside my keychain in trouser pocket.