If you’re like many of my transgender or crossdressing readers, you might not be able to present yourself as a woman each day.
That doesn’t mean you have to lose your female side when it’s time to put on the pants!
In this post, I share 5 ways to stay in touch with your femininity – even in male mode.
1. Wear Women’s Underwear
Let’s start with the most obvious tip, shall we? Wearing women’s underwear underneath your male clothing is the easiest way to connect with your feminine self on a daily basis.
Aside from that, women’s panties tend to be more comfortable than men’s boxers or briefs. Plus, they come in loads of cute and sexy styles to add some secret pizazz to your outfit.
2. Try Stealth Crossdressing
Wearing lingerie under your clothes is a classic, but why stop there? Sneaking a piece of women’s clothing into your daily outfit is a great way to feel girly.
A lot of women’s clothing can pass for unisex, so try wearing women’s:
- Basic tees
- Button-down shirts
- Jeans and pants
Don’t forget about accessories! You could also play with wearing women’s boots or using a tote bag as a laptop bag or briefcase.
3. Apply Incognito Makeup
There are lots of ways to incorporate makeup into your daily look, even when presenting as a male. Here are 4 must-have makeup items:
- Concealer or foundation – Apply a thin layer to cover under eye circles or blemishes.
- Setting powder – Apply to shiny spots on your face, like the nose or forehead.
- Clear mascara – Use it to make your eyelashes look subtly longer and fuller.
- Uncolored lipstick – Instead of boring Chapstick, care for your lips with a clear lipstick.
4. Use the Power of Scent
Scents have a powerful effect on your brain chemistry and mood, so this is a great way to connect with your feminine side.
Wear women’s perfume instead of cologne. Musky fragrances are the most unisex, so you can wear them without anybody knowing your secret. (Check out my article on perfume to learn more about choosing the right scent.)
Another option is to burn a scented candle with a feminine fragrance in your home or office.
5. Keep Reminders of Your Female Self
Another tip is to surround yourself with reminders of the woman within.
One way to do this is through photos. Keep photos of your femme self on your phone, in your wallet, or even framed and hung up so you can see them often.
You could also carry around items personalized with your feminine name, such as a necklace, keychain, or coffee mug.
6. Try Feminizing Hypnosis
Hypnosis is a powerful way to increase confidence, reprogram habits and behaviors, and improve the way you express yourself as a woman.
Best of all, it’s the ultimate mental escape – allowing you to connect with you female self regardless of your current situation.
Try it for yourself by signing up for my free Unleash Your Inner Woman hypnosis mini-session here.
How do YOU stay connected?
In an ideal world, you’d be free to present yourself as a woman whenever and wherever you wanted. Until then, I hope this gives you ideas for expressing your female side anytime you want!
How do YOU stay connected to your feminine self? I’d love to know, so please share in the comments below!
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Oh I love all these suggestions. I admit I wear something feminine everyday even when I have to wear yucky guy clothes. Lace panties are my favorite, but so is a perfect white eyelet bra. I constantly remind myself that I am a feminine being.
I started underdressing a while back. Now my entire wardrobe is women’s clothes on the “sly”. Jeans, t shirts, shoes and tops. Most people just think I’m a bit of hipster. I even wore a khaki play suit to my hospitality job and people thought it was a Safari Suit. I love pushing the boundaries. Next I’m working up the confidence to wear a pleated skort.
Chico’s and Lee outlet stores have slacks, dress shirts and khakis that look like men’s clothes. By the end of the day, Secret Obsession smells like Obsession for men. I wear pantyhose over my painted toenails, along with my waist cincher and flats. I cover my dark circles with beige eyeshadow, perk up my lashes with clear mascara, powder lightly, and use clear nail polish on my fingers.
I have worn lingerie every day since I was old enough to do my own hand washing. I used to wear bras to work under my blouses and sweaters when I worked. I wear womens jeans and tailored dress pants exclusively along with womens tees and over blouses in neutral colors. I am a sweater girl, so my favorite time of year is fall and winter. I wear camisoles and panties all year long with no one mentioning my clothing choices. I try to wear womens shoes as often as I can, I really love Sketchers with purple and other color accents. I have double pierced ears and wear stud diamond earrings and small hoops. I love wearing pendant necklaces with my first initial. I love Giorgio perfume and love how it lingers all day. My wife says I’m more womanly than many of her friends.
I usually wear panties, and pantyhose or tights. I hardly ever wear socks anymore only when I wear black pantyhose with my shorter dress pants. I am looking for a pair of women’s dress pants that fit proper so i can wear them. On colder days I wear a feminine tank or camisole under my dress shirt. I haven’t seen a feminine dress shirt that could pass closely enough yet.
Heck I only just started going out in feminine attire thanks to ‘Man Calgary.’
This pic is after my laser and facial treatment no makeup except for lips.
Panties all the time, except for the shower.
Work from home has helped me find ways to wear a dress or something similar under a work tee shirt.
If the school building was open, I’d have a tee or tank that I got from Victoria’s Secret, American Apparel, Forever 21, or some place similiar under the school tee. Depending on the weather, sometimes, I’ll wear shorts under my sweatpants. You can find some at Target that look unisex for the discreet look. If it’s real cold outside, since I take public transportation to the building, I’d put on a pair of leggings under my jeans.
Also, a colorful pair of sneakers works too. I have a light blue pair. I’ve got a lot of compliments on them from colleagues.
Uh, and the above photo was taken on my birthday this year, back in the middle of last month; November
I’ve done most of these things before I transitioned. Women’s socks and shoes, Makeup black nail polish. Pantyhose under my clothing etc. The biggest one was when I switched to women’s underwear full time back in Oct 2005 and never switched back. I’m full time female now seance about Dec 2011 and happy I’m living as my true authentic self.
I keep myself soft and smooth daily. Wear panties and women’s clothes like sweaters, skinny jeans, cute tees and tanks. Most days I use some light makeup and light nail polish. My hair is long and I am not sure what people think about me. I even wear women’s tanks and leggings in hot pink at the gym.