If you want to learn how to feminize yourself, mastering your movements is a big part of your feminine image.
But what if you feel like you could use a little help in the “grace” department?
The good news is that there are some simple techniques for feminizing your body movements, whether you are a crossdresser or a transgender woman.
In this blog post, I’ll share 7 simple tips to make your gestures and overall deportment more graceful and feminine. Let’s get started!
1. Slow Down
It’s common to speed up your movements when you feel nervous or self-conscious. This can make you appear jerky and clumsy.
To look more poised, avoid rushed movements. Every move you make should be deliberate and precise. Take your time as you sit down, stand up, gesture, and reach for things.
2. Keep Your Knees Together And Your Elbows In
I’m sure you’ve heard this from Day 1, but it’s easy to let old habits slip in, especially if you spend most of your time in “guy mode.” That’s why it’s important to be mindful of keeping your knees together and your elbows in.
When you keep your knees together, you’ll exude that ladylike elegance, especially when sitting.
Why elbows in? Well, when your limbs are spread out all over the place, it’s easy to be clumsy. So, by keeping your elbows close to your body, you’ll instantly make your gestures more graceful. Simple as that!
3. Stretch Out
It’s impossible to move gracefully if you have a tense and tight body. That’s one reason why dancers spend so much time stretching.
You too should make stretching part of your normal routine – particularly before you present yourself as a woman. Here’s a 10 minute full-body stretching routine you can try:
4. Don’t Fidget
Fidgeting makes you look awkward and insecure, so avoid nervous movements like:
- Twirling your hair
- Biting your nails
- Shaking your leg
- Tapping your fingers
- Compulsively checking your phone
Instead, practice the art of graceful stillness! You will look confident and in control of yourself.
By the way, fidgeting isn’t the only body language mistake to avoid. See my post on 27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image to learn more.
5. Study Graceful Women
There’s a lot to be learned from studying poised, elegant women. Pay attention to the way they move and carry themselves in public.
See the video below for a fabulous example of the ever-graceful Marilyn Monroe. Notice how elegantly she sits and stands, how deliberate her gestures are, and how she never fails to keep her knees together.
6. Take Dance Classes
If you’re really serious about becoming a graceful, elegant woman, then I highly recommend taking dance classes. The grace and coordination you’ll learn through dancing will carry over into your day-to-day life.
Any type of dance class is helpful, be it belly dance, salsa, or ballet. If you’re shy about showing up for instruction en femme, take salsa classes in “male mode.” You’ll still get some awesome hip movement training!
7. Practice
Finally, remember that being graceful takes practice. I recommend practicing your movements and gestures in front of a mirror. Or, better yet, record a video of yourself so you can evaluate your movements objectively.
Here are some specific movements to practice:
- Sitting down
- Standing up
- Gesturing as you speak
- Greeting other people with a hand shake or air kiss
- Table manners
- Getting into and out of a car
What do your movements say about you?
You might not be able to change your height or the overall shape of your body, but the good news is that you have a lot of control over your body movements.
Use these 7 tips to become a more graceful, elegant woman!
Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic.
Do you struggle with your body movements or are you naturally graceful? Do you have any other feminine movement tips you can share with us?
Please leave your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. If you found these tips helpful, I have even more I’d LOVE to share with you!
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I am trying to learn all I can for the Day when i come out to the world. Your Blog is an awesome source of the info I have needed.
Thank you, your blogs and posts have really helped me.
Hi Lucille
Thanks for all your advice. I practice a lot makeup and try to perfection my feminine walk and moves, and of course clothes are very important.love joanna.
Thank You For Everything:
Your tips has made a difference. I think more of my CD sister should try your program.
Hi
Lucille, I do naturally struggle with my body movements, in that my first reaction is to make an hurried entrance into a room (in order to try not to draw excessive attention). Your guidance is so on-the-mark, as always.
I would strongly endorse Anita’s recommendation of Glamour Boutique.
Love Richard
The tips are very good. I have one to offer as well. and this is from my mother when i was growing up. She helped me with my posture in a way that made it very easy to walk, stand, sit as a woman.
Stand straight agenst a wall and pretend there is string going from the bottom of your butt, and straight up you r spine and coming out of the top of you r head.And its pulling upwards. This way it keeps you walking with perfect posture all the time. And then practice with a big heavy book on top of you head aswel and walk around, if the book falls then your walking wrong…. and she also said to keep your stomack sucked in all the time while walking ,sitting,standing. I still do this to this day if I feel I am slipping or if I am feeling not a womanly as I should. lets not forget about eating or drinking… Drinking,, sip everything you would drink( sipping quietly) and eating take small bites and chow everything, when you need to whip your lips do it on the sides only not the full mouth…. ……..( also eat as a woman would eat, no burgers, pizza’s or big bites of anything….salads are a good way to start and they are healthy,)
This is what I do,, I also go the busiest mall and buy a starbucks and find a set to were i can woman watch ,, watch them walk, stand, talk, carry things and then how the interact with other woman.. and men. that is what I do. I hope these hep,,, And lets not forget ,,,,, PRACTICE PRACTICE ……
Sitting Properly over 50+…as I have weak knees (from an accident) I fully agree with Laurie…though I found out that you can gently use the arm (or back of the chair) as a “bracing point”. Sometimes, we more mature “girls” will get an assisted hand from a true “mature gentleman” …smiles… With autos…I place my feet out first and use the grab strap/handle over the door and “brace” with the door-post … hope this was helpful.
M/S.
I hear you. ..at 72 this yr, I have lots of reasons to stop dressing, wearing 3-4″ heels. …surgeries on knee, back, neck, ankle. …BUT I DO FOR THE LOVE, BABY!
I have to be very careful how I get out of a chair or booth. Getting harder every yr.
Try to have someone with me, wife, daughter -in- law.
Enjoy being You! …as long as you can!
T.J.
I’d like to see some tips for shy introverts who don’t like any attention in public. Also, it’s kind of natural for some to be feminine in speech, motions, even for someone who looks rugged. Most identify me as gay before any introduction, and I honestly can’t stand guys or to be around them.