If you want to learn how to feminize yourself, mastering your movements is a big part of your feminine image.
But what if you feel like you could use a little help in the “grace” department?
The good news is that there are some simple techniques for feminizing your body movements, whether you are a crossdresser or a transgender woman.
In this blog post, I’ll share 7 simple tips to make your gestures and overall deportment more graceful and feminine. Let’s get started!
1. Slow Down
It’s common to speed up your movements when you feel nervous or self-conscious. This can make you appear jerky and clumsy.
To look more poised, avoid rushed movements. Every move you make should be deliberate and precise. Take your time as you sit down, stand up, gesture, and reach for things.
2. Keep Your Knees Together And Your Elbows In
I’m sure you’ve heard this from Day 1, but it’s easy to let old habits slip in, especially if you spend most of your time in “guy mode.” That’s why it’s important to be mindful of keeping your knees together and your elbows in.
When you keep your knees together, you’ll exude that ladylike elegance, especially when sitting.
Why elbows in? Well, when your limbs are spread out all over the place, it’s easy to be clumsy. So, by keeping your elbows close to your body, you’ll instantly make your gestures more graceful. Simple as that!
3. Stretch Out
It’s impossible to move gracefully if you have a tense and tight body. That’s one reason why dancers spend so much time stretching.
You too should make stretching part of your normal routine – particularly before you present yourself as a woman. Here’s a 10 minute full-body stretching routine you can try:
4. Don’t Fidget
Fidgeting makes you look awkward and insecure, so avoid nervous movements like:
- Twirling your hair
- Biting your nails
- Shaking your leg
- Tapping your fingers
- Compulsively checking your phone
Instead, practice the art of graceful stillness! You will look confident and in control of yourself.
By the way, fidgeting isn’t the only body language mistake to avoid. See my post on 27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image to learn more.
5. Study Graceful Women
There’s a lot to be learned from studying poised, elegant women. Pay attention to the way they move and carry themselves in public.
See the video below for a fabulous example of the ever-graceful Marilyn Monroe. Notice how elegantly she sits and stands, how deliberate her gestures are, and how she never fails to keep her knees together.
6. Take Dance Classes
If you’re really serious about becoming a graceful, elegant woman, then I highly recommend taking dance classes. The grace and coordination you’ll learn through dancing will carry over into your day-to-day life.
Any type of dance class is helpful, be it belly dance, salsa, or ballet. If you’re shy about showing up for instruction en femme, take salsa classes in “male mode.” You’ll still get some awesome hip movement training!
7. Practice
Finally, remember that being graceful takes practice. I recommend practicing your movements and gestures in front of a mirror. Or, better yet, record a video of yourself so you can evaluate your movements objectively.
Here are some specific movements to practice:
- Sitting down
- Standing up
- Gesturing as you speak
- Greeting other people with a hand shake or air kiss
- Table manners
- Getting into and out of a car
What do your movements say about you?
You might not be able to change your height or the overall shape of your body, but the good news is that you have a lot of control over your body movements.
Use these 7 tips to become a more graceful, elegant woman!
Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic.
Do you struggle with your body movements or are you naturally graceful? Do you have any other feminine movement tips you can share with us?
Please leave your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. If you found these tips helpful, I have even more I’d LOVE to share with you!
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thanks for bring this up, i am a 24/7 trans and i naturally had some of that always thats why im a woman now, but really, i had not thought much about it lately, i’m totally dedicated to being a woman the rest of my life and learning every thing is sure a task. Lets face it its more then just looking like one, to be one you must instinctively do it , no acting. to be one you should have a heart and spirit of a woman to . i dont act i just walk the walk these tips were great thank you lucille ill use them proudly
Thanks Lucille I have been trying but I still feel very ungraceful. I think these tips will help
Hugs and kisses
Athena
I agree with Bobbi, just take your time and let your inner feminine mannerisims flow outward.. they will develop over time. I was the same way, walking too fast, nervous, no eye contact, etc.
Emulate other women you see in public or on television, they way women move, speak, facial expressions, etc. It will happen, it worked for me.
Best,
Wanita
Hi Lucille, My biggest problem is I walk to fast and not sure if it’s the man mode in me or just afraid of being approach by a man. what can i do to slow my pace your reply would help alot.
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Ce qui m’a beaucoup aider à améliorer ma marche féminine: c’étaient mes chaussures à talons de 7 centimètres de haut; et le fait de mettre mes pas comme s’ils suivais une seule ligne en marchant.
Ces deux éléments aident à marcher avec les hanches au lieu des épaules.
Cordialement.
SOPHIA, mon nouveau prénom.
My worst problem is the fight to not act and move in a feminine way when I am not dressed in fem. I was full time in the 90s and walking and moving just happened naturally. I have always had to fight it off in situations instead of trying to develop it. I let go of my fears and found my comfort zone. People used to call me mam even when I wasn’t dressed up. Could have been because I had long blonde hair back then. I guess you could say I appeared androgynous when I wasn’t wearing makeup. I had no men’s clothes back then, but I didn’t dress flamboyantly unless I was putting on the Ritz. Kind of hung middle of the road most of the time. Best thing is to let go of the fears of not being perfect and let the woman emanate from inside. When she’s there she will know what to do. Let it all hang out and just have fun.
Bobbie:
All of the 7 items are terrific! !
I especially loved the Marilyn Monroe video. ..great Era, my favorite.
By the By. ..you look Beautiful. Love the hair. I am 72 in 2018, & try to USE ALL, the 7 items. I am “out “a few times /wk.
Please cretique these photos. ..always up for constructive comments.
Enjoy being You! T.J.
Lot of nice things. Wear them well and have fun.
I find that just wearing a skirt or dress in public changes how I walk. I automatically slow down, point my toes, rotate my hips, take shorter steps (even in flats, always in heels).
I have to remember to keep my knees together getting into the car, getting out is not as hard.
Don’t tug on your panties if they shift!!!
I find that observing women and the way they walk, the way they stand does help me. Practice, practice, practice.