If you want to learn how to feminize yourself, mastering your movements is a big part of your feminine image.
But what if you feel like you could use a little help in the “grace” department?
The good news is that there are some simple techniques for feminizing your body movements, whether you are a crossdresser or a transgender woman.
In this blog post, I’ll share 7 simple tips to make your gestures and overall deportment more graceful and feminine. Let’s get started!
1. Slow Down
It’s common to speed up your movements when you feel nervous or self-conscious. This can make you appear jerky and clumsy.
To look more poised, avoid rushed movements. Every move you make should be deliberate and precise. Take your time as you sit down, stand up, gesture, and reach for things.
2. Keep Your Knees Together And Your Elbows In
I’m sure you’ve heard this from Day 1, but it’s easy to let old habits slip in, especially if you spend most of your time in “guy mode.” That’s why it’s important to be mindful of keeping your knees together and your elbows in.
When you keep your knees together, you’ll exude that ladylike elegance, especially when sitting.
Why elbows in? Well, when your limbs are spread out all over the place, it’s easy to be clumsy. So, by keeping your elbows close to your body, you’ll instantly make your gestures more graceful. Simple as that!
3. Stretch Out
It’s impossible to move gracefully if you have a tense and tight body. That’s one reason why dancers spend so much time stretching.
You too should make stretching part of your normal routine – particularly before you present yourself as a woman. Here’s a 10 minute full-body stretching routine you can try:
4. Don’t Fidget
Fidgeting makes you look awkward and insecure, so avoid nervous movements like:
- Twirling your hair
- Biting your nails
- Shaking your leg
- Tapping your fingers
- Compulsively checking your phone
Instead, practice the art of graceful stillness! You will look confident and in control of yourself.
By the way, fidgeting isn’t the only body language mistake to avoid. See my post on 27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image to learn more.
5. Study Graceful Women
There’s a lot to be learned from studying poised, elegant women. Pay attention to the way they move and carry themselves in public.
See the video below for a fabulous example of the ever-graceful Marilyn Monroe. Notice how elegantly she sits and stands, how deliberate her gestures are, and how she never fails to keep her knees together.
6. Take Dance Classes
If you’re really serious about becoming a graceful, elegant woman, then I highly recommend taking dance classes. The grace and coordination you’ll learn through dancing will carry over into your day-to-day life.
Any type of dance class is helpful, be it belly dance, salsa, or ballet. If you’re shy about showing up for instruction en femme, take salsa classes in “male mode.” You’ll still get some awesome hip movement training!
7. Practice
Finally, remember that being graceful takes practice. I recommend practicing your movements and gestures in front of a mirror. Or, better yet, record a video of yourself so you can evaluate your movements objectively.
Here are some specific movements to practice:
- Sitting down
- Standing up
- Gesturing as you speak
- Greeting other people with a hand shake or air kiss
- Table manners
- Getting into and out of a car
What do your movements say about you?
You might not be able to change your height or the overall shape of your body, but the good news is that you have a lot of control over your body movements.
Use these 7 tips to become a more graceful, elegant woman!
Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic.
Do you struggle with your body movements or are you naturally graceful? Do you have any other feminine movement tips you can share with us?
Please leave your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. If you found these tips helpful, I have even more I’d LOVE to share with you!
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I think that the advice you have provided is so on-the-button. I have not been able to screw up my courage to embark on dancing classes to date, but intend to start them
Notice that woman like to touch things but it is almost always with their fingers. The palm of a woman’s hand hardly ever touches anything. They like to stroke things with their fingers. It does make us look elegant!
Great advice as usual – the slowing down one is essential as it’s the sudden male movements that can low your cover. I like to wear a well fitted dress or skirt that restricts my stride length somewhat and makes me sit with my knees together most of the time (and feels great on). Watching how women move, and practice how they do things, can help but you also need to be conscious of your own body and how it moves.
oh Diane your body is to die for.
You look great!
Its off subject, but I have been on estrogen and spiro for 6 months and I cant control my weight, Im walking Im dieting, but I have jumped from a 14-16, to a 16-18, any help appreciated
Estrogen is probably the culprit for weight issues. Spironolactone is a diuretic often given to heart patients (in lower doses), and reduces water weight. You may want to ask your doctor or a dietitian, but genetic girls often have weight gain and carb craving issues during puberty. Good luck!
Thanks Lucille. I think all this tips are very useful to look feminine when I am dressed as a girl.
Kisses
Very useful tips I’ll put it into practice when I dress en femme.
Many thanks,
Bobby
Very nice tips. I have a bit of a problem remembering to follow them, when I am just plain out in the world thinking of other things. I suppose it’s ok that I am not neurotically self-conscious, but after all, ya gotta be a little self-conscious to keep monitoring yer act, and trying to improve it.
I think I mentioned before that if you are brave, one way to remember to keep your legs together is to not wear panties. Somehow that’s very motivating, especially in a short skirt!
Hi Joan
I agree with you about sometimes forgetting to keep your mind on what you should be doing to emulate the image of how a woman moves or walks.
I found that if I wear a sanitary napkin in my panties that it is a constant reminder to take smaller steps and to sit with my legs closed and my ankles crossed
I find that this is a better option than not wearing panties
Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us
I hope that you don’t think that I’m trying to disagree with you. I just wanted to let you know what I do when I’m dressed en.femme and it makes me feel feminine at the same time
Here’s a p.s. Yes, dancing IS a very good way to practice developing graceful movement. And there is a fringe benefit: when dancing with others, there will be those women who have their moves down perfectly, and you can watch and copy. I have identified a number of role models that way whom I try to emulate.
Hi Lucille, I have long legs so it is hard for me to walk slowly. I have been practicing when I am dressing in my feminine clothes and watch women when they are walking to improve in this area.