Stepping out publicly as a woman is a powerful way to validate your female self.
In fact, I recently published a poll asking “How often do you go out in public as a woman?”
I was happy to see that the majority of my readers (transgender women and crossdressers) go out at least occasionally.
No matter how often you do it, I’m sure you can remember your first time presenting as a woman or crossdressing in public.
Since this is such an important gender-affirming step, I’d love to hear about it!
When was it? Where did you go? And what was your experience?
Please share with us in the comments below!
And if you’ve never been en femme in public, I’m sure you’ll find lots of inspiration in these stories.
As always, thank you for reading and participating!
Love,
Lucille
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…Just wanted to add my pic. I didn’t see the option earlier.
I almost always go out in public femme unless I’m going to work or coming home( I work in a different town than I live and keep my personal life separate from my work life). You don’t necessarily need to wear a dress and heels to be feminine. I usually wear skinny jeans, my flip flops with the bling, a cute belt and a racer back. It’s totally okay to pair these with jewelry and a scarf or big sunglasses and a messenger bag purse. Also, a huge tip is to wear sports bras and advertise what you actually have instead of what you wish. Wish a splash of perfume and a little bronzer and lip gloss the end result is definitely not male. You’ll feel way more natural and your wardrobe will go from a million things you never wear outside to a few things you feel natural in and love showing off.
when ever I go by bus I wears glass bangles in my one hand.and try to hide under sleeve.but It’s clinking sound made me shameful.more thrill was happened when one passenger asked me about my nice choice .
I have been out several times. The last time I did not do the makeup or wig, I just wore a see through blouse with some cute ankle pants. I walked in a restaurant and ate at the bar, I have done something similar before were I wore women jeans and high heels, I went into see a massage therapist and she was totally cool with how I was dressed, she even commented on my heels and how cute they were. I felt very strange talking with her while I was putting my heels back on after the massage. I have also worn heels into several shoe stores, my favorite is the nine west store, were I have had the sales girl help me try on shoes. I have also been into some clothing stores like the dress barn and actually tried on outfits. The girls seem nice about and cool about it. It was so much fun trying on a ladies business suit in dress barn. My next adventure is???
I finally overcame my fear. It was great. I walked around the block and around the neighborhood. It originally started with me dressing up for halloween as a woman. Then I started wearing clothes at home in private. Would go to a local club and sing karaoke dressed up. Now it’s a lifestyle that I truly love.
My first time out in public was back in 2011. It was with my friend Jessica and she helped me do my makeup and gave me tips on how to act and all that jazz. We ended up going to a movie and I was super nervous. We got to the theater and I remember thinking if I could get out of the car or not. I sucked it up though and I got out of the car and we walked up to the ticket window and I tried not making eye contact with anyone at all. We didnt even bother getting snacks. We went into the actual theater and watched the movie. That was the time I was truly relaxed… Granted I was in a giant dark room where everyones attention was on the screen. When the movie was done is when my anxiety started up again. We left at the same time as everyone else and the entire time I was leaving, I was just staying focused on getting out of the theater and back to the car.
Needless to say, it was a night full of worry and anxiety. I went out a few times after that but havent been out since.
Just want to let you know you look great. I don’t even come close looking as good as you and i dress up about once a month and go to the movies and sure i get a few looks but never has anyone said a word to me. most people really don’t care. Keep going and have fun.
Wich bathroom you choose to go to pee? Mans or womens?
Im gonna try in public at gay parade in san diego in 3weeks.
But ill get little drunk before
am lean boy and not much masculine and am very naughty and always fights with boys so my mom put me in he school where she works in there its for girls mostly this happens when am in lkg even after i joined there i hesitated to sit near girl i always tease and hurts girls one day i did very naughty thing i put cockroach in girl uniforms back she just cried and striped here uniform and every other girls laughed at her seeing her on her little under ware after days passed . she became friendly with me and one day she said why won’t we play hide and seek with her friends she said we can hide her the slide and i slipped in mud she said teacher will span u for this sock it we can wash isaid i won’t do that am shy to strip infront of u she said go to the bathroom and give it to me first i gave my shirt then she asked for my shorts after giving both she said is that all any mud on your under wear i said its clean butblittle wet then she said givs that to i declined to give that she said trust me take it off and give i said pls give anything else to were she said wait after some time she came i got dress for u noe give it i gave her my under wear to then she ran away withoutgiving anything to me she said that loser timefor payback am going to bring all of our girls here to show u i cried and she did exactly as she said she brought her friends and i was standing there naked they laughed at me she said i u do one thing i we won’t tell this to any one bow before me and say sorry i did exactly as she said
and she thrown mudy clothes to my face i suddenly put it on and bell ranged mom sawed dirt in my clothes
and she said we don’t have spare for u at that time anna said i have one spare frock can we put it on him madam and my mom agreed and she put me in girls uniform and took to cls
OMG you in that pink dress and heels is so delectable. I wish you were my live in girlfriend
I used to go every summer holiday to stay for some time with my grand mom. At the time when I was 8 years old my parents moved into a new home and I spent a longer time with my grand mom. I have a six years older sister who was no longer coming to stay with me there.
I always have been with slim body, long thin legs and 100% girly butt which I still have after so many years, I had long blonde hair reaching my shoulders which at later stage changed to dark brown and blue eyes. Now and again I have been mistaken for a girl even in my own clothes which in most occasions made me feel embarrassed. I had friends and I was getting on well with most of them but I was not the most popular boy. I was from poor family and hardly had anything material as that is the way it works most times and I don’t recall anyone ever giving me some extra attention in any way.
One day I was with few friends at playground with a slide that was damaged at the bottom and when we took turns going down almost all of us jagged our shorts including me. I went home couple of times to put on a new pair and manage to jag all of them. Later in the day when my grand mom seen what I have done asked me to clean myself and take a shower and she washed my clothes. I had nothing to put on as the rest of my clothes were for more cold weather and she looked true my sister clothes and give me a short orange dress ( that was just right for my size at the time) with shoulder straps, white panties and white sandals with almost 2 inches heels. I wondered why I had to put on the sandals but didn’t make any problem. I din’t want her to be looking at me while changing and ask her to get out of my room. I got myself all nude and start outing on my sister clothes. The feeling of that soft material from her panties and the thin fabric of her summer dress touching my body made me feel instantly so different and in no time I got transformed into a little girl. I was shivering in excitement remembering how we did a role play the last summer and I had to play the wife with the rest of the boys as we had no real girl among us. It felt somehow natural been in that role but I never thought about that again until the moment I was in my sister dress. I probably looked at myself at the mirror for 10-15 min before I got out of My room. My grand mother looked at me smiling and joked she got 2 grand daughters now. The she left me alone and home and said she will go out for some shopping and also will buy me new clothes. I went back in my room looking at myself in the mirror and really thought I am looking so much just like my older sister. After another 15 min or so I went out on the veranda and took a seat near the end to our neighbors garden hiding from the sun. Our veranda could be seen well from their top part of the garden. As I was seating I was seen by one of the two boys brothers living next door (by the older 15 y old). He could not make out who I was and how never had seen me before. He called me to get close to the fence and I made my first steps on heels and that short thigh dress and surprising to myself I managed to walk real well. I’m same time I was very anxious how would explain why I am dressed like that. He start talking to me as never before ever so kindly. His eyes were at all time on my thin body and asked me who I am. I start talking looking at the ground and explaining what happened at the slide. I was surprised that even talking he couldn’t figure out it was me. As I told him my boy name he was finally realized my transformation and I could tell his amazement was so big. He never really talk much to me as a boy as his younger brother was my friend but I could tell he had real interest in me this time. He told me that I am looking more beautiful than my sister and she was pretty good looking. I could feel my cheeks were going red and even felt a slight breeze true my bare thighs under my dress. He asked me to go over to their house and watch TV with him. It took little convincing as I wasn’t very keen to be seen on the street dressed as girl, but he made me go out. He was waiting for me at the gate. I looked bit nervous on the street hoping none of the other neighbors were out. I must have been very sexy looking girl as his face had such huge smile. Just before getting in their house we seen a friend of his coming over to see him and who looked me in the very same way and when we talked he had no idea I was the boy from next door. My neighbor looked at me and make sing not to tell who am I . We all walked in the house as he got hold of my hand in front of his friend like I was his girlfriend. He asked his friend to get in the living room and told him we would be their shortly to get to the kitchen and bring some soft drinks. I felt so exited and could feel my knees tremble. He asked me to relax and play his girlfriend and that I am one of the granddaughters that have not visited before. He assured me he would never find out if I don’t tell. I bid my head and follow him with glasses in my hands. We sat in the sofa a cross if his friend. He served the drinks and got the TV on. Then took a seat next to me and put his hand over my shoulder and fixed my hair a bit which was reaching just bellow my shoulders as I was seated. I somehow managed to realize and cross my legs one over the other exposing my bare thighs but also in the same time trying to hide what is between them. My new boyfriend rest his hand over my bare leg and was really showing off. The feeling of having his hand on my thighs was much better that I could ever imagine. I realized that moment I was born in the wrong body and been a girl was coming so natural to me. For first time I start looking at my neighbor as a girl would look at a boy and was enjoying every bit of attention. He did most of the talking and manage to help me hide my anxiety which turn into confidence after while believing I really can pass as girl. I noticed how the other boy was keep looking at my legs and knew I have some real weapon I can use in all the boys I was going to meet in future. My new boyfriend even kissed me couple of times on my cheeks in front of his friend and I even expected him to do that. He noticed I do not resist him on been kissed and when I told him is time to go back home as my grandmother may be worried for me he got up with me and in the way out hold my body with one hand on my ass cheeks and the other behind my back and kiss me on my mouth. That was the best moment of my life so far.
Later at home I dint want to get off my sister clothes for long time keep looking at myself at the mirror. I realize I was born in the wrong body and ever since been so sad I can’t change that.
You look amazing, you should have no problem going out in public.
Enjoy yourself,
Wanita
Nice story and in the picture you look nice! I’ve started to cross dress and feel a bit relaxed when i do, just scared of dressing as a female in public and need someone similar to talk to about it
Hi Kavin.
once you decide & get courage at least do your tow nails done & wear flip flops. Enjoy.