There are so many details that go into creating a beautiful, feminine image…
Clothes, hair, makeup, shoes…
The list goes on and on!
To help you keep track of everything, I’ve put together a Flawless Feminine Image Checklist.
Can you answer “YES” to these 10 questions?
If so, you’re ready to share your fab femme self with the world!
BONUS CHECKLIST: Click here to download a 1-page PDF version of the checklist that you can print out and keep with you.
1. Is your makeup appropriate?
Many women (including crossdressers and transgender women) overdo their makeup. Before you step out en femme, be sure you haven’t made this mistake.
Light, natural makeup almost always looks better. There are two exceptions to this rule:
- If you have dark coloring, you can go for deeper, bolder shades.
- If you’re going out at night, you can wear higher intensity makeup.
2. Is your hair shiny and freshly styled?
Beautiful hair is important part of your overall image. To soften masculine facial features, choose a hair style with soft waves or layers. Stay away from angular styles.
Shiny hair makes you look sexy and youthful, so use a smoothing serum if you have dry or frizzy hair. I like Pantene Pro-V Smooth Serum.
If you wear a wig, be sure to wash it regularly and use a finishing spray like Revlon Finishing Spray for Synthetic Hair.
3. Are you wearing the right shapewear?
The size and shape of your body broadcasts your gender to the world. (No surprise there!) Are you wearing the right undergarments to create your best feminine shape?
At the bare minimum, you should own these items:
- Breast forms
- A well-fitting bra
- Girdle or shaping camisole
- Panties (regular and padded styles)
- Control top pantyhose or tights
While you don’t need to wear all of these pieces at once, it’s good to have them on hand in case you need extra shaping to go with a certain outfit.
4. Are the proportions of your outfit correct?
Proportion refers to the way your clothes work together in length, width, size, and volume.
Pairing two similarly-proportioned items together can be disastrous. For example:
- Short Skirt + Short Top = Slutty
- Long Skirt + Long Top = Dowdy
- Full Skirt + Full Top = Heavy
- Tight Skirt + Tight Top = Sausage
Your clothes should balance each other out. For example, if you wear a tight top, pair it with a fuller skirt.
5. Are you wearing the right accessories?
Accessories can make or break your outfit. Too few accessories and you look underdressed. Too many and you look like a Christmas tree.
Your accessories should also be in harmony with your body proportions. If you’re full-bodied, avoid dainty accessories like tiny earrings or a delicate bracelet. Instead, wear heavier, thicker pieces that go with your size.
6. Are you wearing the right shoes?
Shoes say more about you than any other accessory, so pay attention to this detail. Here are 3 things to consider:
- Do your shoes suit your outfit and the occasion? Wearing shoes that are too casual or too formal is a common mistake.
- Are your shoes proportionate to the size and shape of your feet, as well as your overall body size? When in doubt, go for a classic style with a rounded toe and heels that aren’t too thick or thin.
- Can you walk in them? If not, wear a lower heel until you’ve mastered your walking skills!
7. Are you carrying the right bag?
Choosing the right bag is critical.
First and foremost, your bag should match the formality of your outfit. If you wear a casual bag with a fancy outfit, it cheapens your appearance. Wearing a fancy bag with a casual outfit looks silly.
Second, be sure your bag is works with your proportions. If you have a large build, a tiny handbag will make you look even bigger by comparison.
8. Do you smell good?
Your image is made up of more than just the way you look. It also includes details like the way you move, sound, and yes, smell.
Smell is an important detail because scent is strongly linked to emotions. You aren’t fully dressed without perfume, so choose a scent that makes you feel fabulously feminine.
A word of caution: don’t overdo it! Unless somebody is close enough to hear you whisper, they shouldn’t be able to smell you.
And if you’re going out, don’t forget about your breath! Brush your teeth and carry gum or mints with you.
9. Have you removed all excess hair?
We all know that smooth, silky skin is sexy and feminine. Double check that you don’t have any stray hairs or stubble left behind before leaving the house.
It’s easy to forget all the hairy spots, so here’s a quick checklist:
- Knuckles and fingers
- Bikini area
10. Did you check yourself from behind?
You wouldn’t leave the house without checking yourself out in a mirror, would you? Well, don’t make the mistake of only viewing yourself from the front. Remember that you also have a back side!
Use a hand mirror to view your reflection from behind. Does the back of your hair look good? Do your clothes fit properly? Do you have any toilet paper sticking out of your skirt? (Just kidding!)
It’s all about the details
If you answered “yes” to each of the questions on this checklist, then congratulations! Now it’s time to step out and enjoy your flawless feminine image.
Be sure to keep this checklist handy so you can refer to it each time you present yourself as a woman.
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Is there anything you would add to this list? Please share your comments below!
I have been using Pueraria Mirifica tablets for the past 4 months and have gone from 97cm to 110. I tried the cream as well but found the smell became very noticeable. I take 2 in the morning at least 1/2 hour before breakfast and 2 before bed. I first started noticing things when my nipples felt they were going to explode that still happens and they are also saw when bumped.
My wife has asked me a couple of time about my bust size..
The other thing they are not expensive at all..
i only take 1 in the morning, and 1 at bedtime… perhaps i should ramp up the dosage. thnx, sharon
Excellent tips, Lucille, thank you. What you do behind closed doors, maybe with friends, is your business…go for it, have fun, enjoy that slutty look. But if you want to pass in public and not be somebody’s ‘entertainment de jour’, then I say about your look…downplay, downplay, downplay… subtle, subtle, subtle! This is especially true if you’re only going to the grocery store or walk in the park. As to your point about wigs, Lucille, those of us who must wear wigs, particularly synthetic ones, and especially for those like myself of more mature years, wigs often are too thick, shiny and youthful looking to appear natural for older women. This is especially true for casual and/or outdoor situations. Older women normally don’t have the beautiful thick, shiny hair of a twenty year old. Sigh! Any helpful comments for attaining a more natural hair look for 60 plus? Luv.
I don’t wear wigs, except for a few months just after I have my hair cut off to donate to Lock o’ Love. (I am on my third “growing out” now.) But when I do wear wigs, I, too have to be careful about color and cut. I have had the best luck matching my blond/grey hair with wigs from Paula Young. The colors seem to run pretty true to their online catalog, and they are very understanding to speak with o the telephone.
Wow. ..that is great hair, girl. You can be proud of that Mane !
At 71yrs, I have to go with the wigs.
You like? ?
Enjoy being You! T.J.
ops! Forgot to add an image – this is NOT a wig – it is my natural hair, without coloring (I am 70 as of this month). This photo was taken Feb 2012, at the salon, just before having it all cut off to donate the last time. The color hasn’t changed much since then though. Ther is still plenty of blond mixed in with the grey.
I am 61 and I found my wigs at a store here in New Zealand that fit wigs for those who have hair loss mainly for cancer patient’s they were reasonably priced, and they will recommend the one to suit you..
I really need to get into your next makeup program! I have been getting out, and I’m really falling in love with my femme self, but I need some beauty tips that are especially for m2f looks.
I’ll say I have about half and half of the list, because I’m pretty limited in my alternatives; for example, I have to wear a lot of make up because of the blue shadow of my beard; or my hair style, which depends on the wig I have (because I NEED to use wigs); or the shoes, since I need size 13, I don’t come across too many different styles of shoes.
All in all, I’m doing my best, but I’ll try with the points I’m lacking.
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I think the point was about the overuse of color, i.e. using the wrong shades of lipstick and blush. GG’s know that makeup should enhance their natural color and not add color they don’t have. Same with eye makeup: it’s called eyeshadow, not eye color.
Have the same problem with shoes that you do. I need a size 14 but can get away with a 13W. Special ordering shoes is very expensive and most of the websites that sell our size range have mostly stripper and drag queen shoes…not what you wang is you’re trying to pass!! If you can accept the lesser quality, Payless regularly carries sizes 12-13 and sometimes 14. Might be worth a look if you haven’t already tried them.
Your pic looks very nice and I’d say you are doing a find job. The point is, however, are you satisfied with what you have achieved?
I’ve found that Payless Shoes (online) has a pretty good selection of size 13 shoes, and they often have excellent prices. 🙂
ohh, thanks for the tips.
It’s not that I’m not satisfied with what I’ve done up until now, because I am as much as I can. The thing is that I’m still far away from my desired self.
At this point, I’m passing relatively well, some people think I’m a woman, but still majority sees me as a man dressed like a woman. So far I haven’t any issues or anything about it. The problem is, that I’m still … how to put it?, … impersonating a woman, more like disguising as a woman, and that’s not my goal, what I need is to be that woman at every second of my life.
And that goal it’s really hindered by all the things I still need to adjust.
But I don’t loose faith, yesterday I finally managed to live all my day as a woman, going out, meet new people, buy the groceries, hang out with friends, etc. Im’m improving quickly, but I’m still far away from my goal.
btw, Thanks for the reply 🙂
Sounds like we have a lot in common, including different wigs and shoe size!
Looking at your photo – you do an excellent job. Very pretty. 🙂
Thanks a lot =D
This is one of my best photos (it actually made a couple guys interested in me 🙂 )
Altough the wig is not that big of a problem (a good, natural looking one is not cheap, but also not impossible to get), the shoes are always a problem. I wish they made more styles on big sizes 🙁
Hi, those are great tips. I would add one more, nails. A mani with french tips or acrylic nails are the icing on a perfect feminine look. Again your nail color match your makeup and moisturize your hands so your skin is soft and smooth. I also love to wear hip pads to have round and full hips.
What I think does not matter for others, but only ones self. To me that start is not what one is wearing, but what is on the inside and that inside has its own style and look, which I have to admit is also age appropriate and event appropriate. For example, if one is working, would we ware the same things going out to dance or have dinner, which is somewhat dependent on where one goes to dance or have dinner?
My lifestyle, which is just me and not suggesting it for anyone else is rather bohemian, but when I go out I am at an age where I really don’t care what other people think, where 20 years ago, I was concerned about what everyone thought and would even go out of my way to try and fit in?
I guess it took me a long time to be able to understand the concept that “I gotta be me?” I have noticed that one does go through stages.
One thing that does limit me is rather over sized feet. There are some limits because of feet?
(Sorry for the humor)
I’ll never pass as a woman, but I don’t need to. I need to be me. Me? That’s a basically a guy in a skirt trying to look more skirt than guy. Thanks to me, and lucky circumstances I get by, and people let me pass, made 8 out of 10.
Lucille, I was wondering if you had any knowledge about injecting Saline into my breats to increase the size and firmness. I realise it is only short term but any help you may have would be appreciated.
Although I would also not suggest injecting anything under the skin, there is a product that bodybuilders use to inflate what they perceive as inadequate muscle groups prior to a bodybuilding show.
The product is called Synthol.
If you find that you can not resist the desire to inject, Synthol is at least in use by many bodybuilders.
There are absolutely risks associated with using it, the same as any other injectable substance.
The risks include paralysis of the injected area due to your hitting a nerve, painful and disfiguring abscesses due to infection at the injection site, to strokes and/or death due to injecting the substance into a vein or artery.
Up to 30% of a Synthol injection may be metabolized quite quickly by the body, but the remaining oil will slowly be metabolized over what may be a period of years. If you do it, start small and wait to observe the effects before proceeding.
I have no experience injecting Synthol or any other substance, and never will.
I strongly advise NOT injecting anything into your breasts. Saline would be absorbed within a few hours and anything longer lasting could have very negative effects. Depending on your goals, natural methods like herbs or a breast enlargement pump may help. Of course, you could also consider HRT.
Love Lucille ,
What is this Saline? I am also want to increase my breast size. If you have more information please inform me also.
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Great list Lucille! Also, be sure to dress appropriate for where you’re heading out into public. I focus on big city downtown business-professional settings where I can easily blend in with pencil skirt, blouse/top, sweater/blazer, nude or black only hose/stockings + flats. When I shop outlet stores or the mall, i wear skinny jeans and flat/no heel boots, knit top with sweater, scarf and again blend in. When I’ve gone to a fancy theatre or concert hall event for a show/classical music, I do black hose/stockings with “evening” black + gray bases to blend in with all the other women wearing similar. Bike-ride? Capris, sandals (no hose/stockings), knit top with sweater or jacket, scarf, sunglasses, hair up in scrunchy and no one gives me a second look.
I always first check out the public place I want to go and the same time period in the day and week, then sit for 30 minutes and make notes of what women are wearing, and that’s my plan as well for when I come back and want to look very average and blend right in.
Thanks, Cathy! Sounds like you have a fabulous sense of style. 🙂