When it comes to expressing your gender identity, navigating labels can be tricky. For those identifying as transgender or non-binary, finding the right words is essential.
Obviously, it’s important for people to use language that respects and reflects your identity. Outdated or offensive terms can be hurtful.
However, it’s important to remember that you’re more than just a label!
Ultimately, what matters most is how you personally want to be addressed, regardless of where you fall on the gender spectrum.
So, let’s talk about it!
Do you have a particular term or label that resonates with you – such as crossdresser, transgender woman, non-binary person, or something else?
I’m eager to hear your thoughts, so let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
It all started when I was born.My mother wanted a girl,but got me,[a boy]My farther passed away,so my mother kept, and dressed me as a girl ,dresses, panties,long blonde hair and such,until I started school.Then she started dressing me in cloths that were fem/boy but still wore silk underware.After school and on week-ends she took me out as a completely dressed girl.I did not know that I was a boy until Jr.high.After that I started dressing more as a boy so my friends could not tease me.She still dressed in girl under-things.
After high school I met the girl I am with now.She thought I was a boy,until she came home from work one nite,and found me dressed in her cloths…to make a long story short,she called my mom and told her what had happed.Mom told her the entire story of her dressing me and keeping me as a girl my entire life.Well at 1st,she was against the thought of me dressing this way,but soon thought the idea was not that bad.Now she keeps me dressed 24/7as a girl..even when I go to work.She put me on hormones and such and I now have a 36c bust,28″waist and 36 hips long blonde hair !! Her and my mother now enjoy me as I was met to be,a complete Femized Girl.
I am so happy now,
Luv to all
And I am happy for you. Good luck on your journey.
I label myself as a woman too, and I walk as I am a woman. I do wear makeup when I have it. I hope to get my SRS done soon.
Hi Lucille,
I think labels are good if they are used simply as a genuine introduction, to know how to start talking to a person and to have an idea of what the person is like. The problem is there seems to be a lot of different opinions about what the different labels mean.
I have known I am female inside from the age of six but couldn’t share it with anyone so as to protect my parents. I have had the screaming claustrophobic ignominy of having to live and hide in a male body and mix with men as if I was one. I have hated my life, but now my family can accept I can tell everyone and be ME.
I see myself as a Transgender Female and not the other common use label Transsexual. It is my body gender that is wrong because our gender comes from our mind and does our sexuality. I don’t want a sex change because I am already female, I was born with male parts and so I see that as a physical birth defect and the surgery I need isn’t a sex change, it is corrective surgery. Just like a cleft palate or separating conjoined twins or removing a sixth toe. If I was told that genital surgery would kill any sexual feeling I would still go for the surgery in a heart beat.
It isn’t a sexual motive and so I don’t personally like the term Transsexual
I consider myself a transwoman and im happy to say that we are whath we feel inside our hearths and thank GOD for makin us a bit spesial xoxo Manuel
Most labels are with negative connotation. I prefer to be called by name Ana. To answer your question, crossdresser is probably most appropriate or simply girl or woman. I don’t like the trans before it, because its like world still won’t recognize me as a girl or woman, the trans makes me feel I am still a man to the world.
Very timely topic! I never liked “trans-vestite” and so glad that term is really falling out the contemporary vocabulary – it was always portrayed and sounded so deviant or perverted. I have friends who say they are simply a “cross-dresser” – because they just like to dress up in female clothes. So I think CD has replaced TV, and that’s a good thing.
“Trans-gender” is now the most used and talked about term, but that also still has some misconceptions about what it actually means, because some TG simply enjoy expressing themselves as the opposite sex, while other TG want to live + work full-time and become the opposite sex.
I’m 100% the former. I love expressing myself as Cathy, a professional businesswoman, whether working at home or blending in with the public in various cities I visit. It’s so fulfilling to spend several days in complete female mode. I have grown my own hair out long and developed full B-cup natural-soft breasts the last 5+ years on Flat2Fem (see my results in June-2014 blog here at Lucille’s site under “creating feminine cleavage”), but for several reasons, I will/can never live and work as a woman full-time for good.
So I identify as a TG-woman, but because I don’t pass 100% (probably more like 90%) in most public settings I simply present myself to other men and women as “newly-transitioning” so that seems to communicate to people that I’m becoming more and more feminine, so how they see me at that time is me in-process, not yet 100% a woman, and that gives me a lot of confidence to dress, speak, act very feminine and blend in.
I’m hopeful that the next phase in this long process for society always adjusting will be removing the “trans” and “T” from woman and gal, and we’ll eventually get to the place that however a person presents in public, that will be okay and how other people interact.
I used Noogleberry to grow my breast to full D cup. use hormones to keep firm.
Lucille,
I would label myself as a crossdresser. I don’t get to dress as often as I would like, but I do enjoy reading your site and articles.
Rachel
I know there are varying degrees of gender identity. I’m simply a cross dresser with bisexual passions. At times I would want to be a slutish gg wearing the sexiest lingerie and makeup, making love to men or other transgender lovers. At others times, I’m happy to be a 100% horny hetro male. It changes in unexpected cycles. I don’t purge any more because I know ‘Jane’ will be back.
My body is heavy and muscular, so the question of pass/non-pass are moot. I keep a clean shaven face and body most of the time, and can’t understand TG/CD/etc who have facial hair.
I am a ‘Cross Dresser’.