When it comes to expressing your gender identity, navigating labels can be tricky. For those identifying as transgender or non-binary, finding the right words is essential.
Obviously, it’s important for people to use language that respects and reflects your identity. Outdated or offensive terms can be hurtful.
However, it’s important to remember that you’re more than just a label!
Ultimately, what matters most is how you personally want to be addressed, regardless of where you fall on the gender spectrum.
So, let’s talk about it!
Do you have a particular term or label that resonates with you – such as crossdresser, transgender woman, non-binary person, or something else?
I’m eager to hear your thoughts, so let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
I am not CD, gay or transgender. I am transgenderist or better to say, I am androgynous.
These days I regard myself as a crossdresser. In my early years I was border line transsexual as my male hormones did not arrive at 16 plus I looked more female than male. I did eventually pull out of the sex change program before the chop.
Last night I was out in public area dressed to look as a woman – full make up and tasteful clothing. No problems. At home I will wear female clothing if the mood takes me but never with full make up – that is reserved for when I aim to pass in public.
I really don’t have to be referred to as anything. I prefer to think of myself as a sensual person that seeks the feminine side within. I like to dress femininely as possible and be with the love of my life who accepts who I am even though I am not a completely passable woman. We explore what the law will allow and I enjoy my feminine expressions.
I wish I had made this decision sooner to become a woman I need cosmetic work on the face and see a dermatology to get rid of the hair on face all kids of life decisions with family knowing none which will be easy but I feel I must work it out I need a support group that would help me through it eaiser
I prefer to be called one or the other, trans-woman, but i don’t think i fit right in this category right now, until I’m post-op. Right now i like to referred to as Tgirl.
I don’t believe in labels. By labelling a person you are putting them into a box. Putting a person into a box “creates division”. If we, as a group, which can be expanded to the entire human race, want to unite, and experience true equality, then as a collective, we should all stop labelling each other, because at the end of the day we are “all”, flesh and blood human beings. In addition, gender does not define the quality or character of a person. I consider myself a human and my gender status private and irrelevant.
A lot of people do not fit into a “fixed box”. (in my opinion) Although for getting medical treatment, we DO have to fit into a fixed box. Or either no medical help or doing for yourself which can be dangerous.
If I need a label, I would say that I am a man, with breasts. I want my own breasts but live as a man. (single white male with breasts). I do not fit into the label that would have a psychologist allow me to get medical treatment. I also can NOT lie convincely to one to obtain help either. I’ve tried getting hormones through the mail, but unable now to obtain them due to finances. (sigh)
So, under which lable do I fall into? Yes, it is confusing.
Dave
Hi Lucille; The one title or ‘label’ that I don’t like is ‘Sissy’. I don’t appreciate ‘Drag Queen’ either. I guess I like to be known as ‘Transgendered’ Thanks for the opportunity to express my feelings.
Sissy is a best fit for a male .it may seem a boy heavy, for dome but vary much a verbal truth.and can be used as a cus-word if so put.
For public consumption? I self-identify with ‘part-time cross dresser’ and would love to spend a week totally en femme at Fantasia, WildSide or some similar event. I don’t mind the word ‘trannie’ when used by my ‘gurl’ friends & socially aware peers. Behind the ‘macho male’ facade, and deep within my secret heart lives a ‘submissive sissy slut’ but I haven’t met anybody to share her with yet. When I started cross dressing twenty years ago I found the word ‘sissy’ offensive! Given my profession, and background I would have to totally reinvent myself to publicly use labels like ‘transvestite’ or ‘transgender’, although I support the people who have chosen to ‘walk that way’!
Nothing is simple anymore. Words/labels are freighted with the baggage/attitudes/opinions of the person using them as well as the recipient. There is a lot of ill informed ignorance out there, and people don’t get it. They don’t understand that calling a m2f cross dresser a ‘drag queen’ or ‘transvestite’ might be as offensive as calling an African-American the ‘n*****’ word.
The ‘ill informed blithely clueless’ (that’s a label!) don’t understand how they can hurt with words. Unless you are prepared to ‘call’ them on it, best to just move along…! communities, or care who you hurt with your words!
Dear Lucille, I consider myself transgender. It gives me a great thrill, to see written or spoken the pronoun she or her, as well as the title Ms or Miss. It isn’t always the easiest, especially when I have had to go for hospital exams or was in, the hospital to have surgery, in December. However, the nurses understood and were very accommodating. That is why as a mtf, if I can have female doctors or social workers, to work with I prefer it that way, because I enjoy the commaderie that can be had, when girl talk, is on the table, and they can accommodate me with acumen, more so than their male cohorts.