When it comes to expressing your gender identity, navigating labels can be tricky. For those identifying as transgender or non-binary, finding the right words is essential.
Obviously, it’s important for people to use language that respects and reflects your identity. Outdated or offensive terms can be hurtful.
However, it’s important to remember that you’re more than just a label!
Ultimately, what matters most is how you personally want to be addressed, regardless of where you fall on the gender spectrum.
So, let’s talk about it!
Do you have a particular term or label that resonates with you – such as crossdresser, transgender woman, non-binary person, or something else?
I’m eager to hear your thoughts, so let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
No, I won’t give my fem. name or picture. Labels are a bitch, aren’t they? I’ve been struggling with them all my life. But when I decided to define myself rather than let others define me (I was age 17) I decided on “heterosexual crossdresser” and later “male lesbian”. I LOVE Women! I love everything about them. Always have, always will! I think these two labels make a lot of sense. But some people of every persuasion have protested. Sometimes violently. Oh well, it is what it is…
Ole
Hi Lucille How are you. I certainly do enjoy your email information and help. Thank You so very much. Well your question, I identify myself as a hetrosextual female in some what of a male body [TS] unfotunately, A christian female [TS]. I don’t like to pidgin hole people but we need to identify things and situations some how. I am seing the doctors i need to have sergury,facial help etc. I am working quite diligently on my voice and sing in our church choir. I would like to order your tapes books etc. when i get more money. THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR YOUR WONDERFULL HELP. LOVE and THANKS Ms. Bobby-Jo Holly
I’m not really into labels, because then you allow someone else to define who or what you are. First and foremost, I’m ME! Even though I’m male biologically, I am a female when I’m en femme.
The word Transgender has been used to include many diverse situations, leading to confusion. In Europe, Spain for example, the word Transsexual has also been used in a broad way by many with diverse conditions. I therefore prefer to use the term Harry Benjamin’s Syndrome, which has been the name used internationally, even in court in some countries such as Argentina, to describe this condition. Look up Harry Benjamin’s Syndrome International. It is a condition of Congenital Neurological Intersex. The body is born one gender, while the brain is born the other gender; clearly a birth anomaly or “defect”. It is generally caused by trauma or a hormonal disruption to the fetus during a certain period of the pregnancy. One place speaking of this is:
another place (readable in nine languages) is:
http://shb-info.org/hbs.html
I have a friend who came to live with me to keep me alive. She had thought she was a cross-dresser. Then later the angst got so great that she was going to die if action was not taken; so she had “lower surgery” as well as breast augmentation (which failed). Then later, at my insistence she went to a geneticist, and found that she is a True Hermaphrodite! A bit different. But her family still would not accept her.
As for myself, being on disability, and very ill, I was told by my doctor that if I had surgery like that, I would die on the operating table. So I stay home all the time except to go to my doctors, and wear feminine clothing at home. I would call myself a woman born with a birth defect (as mentioned, Harry Benjamin’s Syndrome). If I could have had surgery, after that I would simply be a woman, and loving it!
If I had to label myself, it would be a heterosexual male closeted crossdresser. I’ve never been ‘manly’ in attitude or appearance and have always felt a strong feminine side. However, as a teenager growing up in the 50’s, I learned to suppress the feminine characteristics as far as I presented to the world, (though I did pick up the nickname ‘Rosie’ which I still carry). Now I am far too old to do more than maintain a fairly androgenous appearance to everyone about me. Guess the label ‘coward’ would also apply.
Rosie
I think lables are what you make of them. They don’t really matter. It is all sujective and what they mean for you. The same lable can have a different meaning to eveyone. The lable that best fits me, and I am most comfortable with would be transgender. I didn’t have the fortune to be born female, but my mind and soul is. Weather I ever get to live my life complete has yet to been seen. I am working on that. At least after many years of thereapy I can say I am proud of who ever I am.
I feel femenine and I think femenine, that is why I live as a women. In the country I live now, for these people I´m a woman, for my family and old friends I been considered a men. I know I don´t have a woman body, but I´m fixing now in the way I could. Is not easy, is not funny but we born with this! So I started been a crossdresser, then I become a transgender person. But who am I, I don´t know yet!!! hahahaha
I see myself as female. but I am open and let some people know I was born a man but that I am not a man any longer.
Teri