When it comes to expressing your gender identity, navigating labels can be tricky. For those identifying as transgender or non-binary, finding the right words is essential.
Obviously, it’s important for people to use language that respects and reflects your identity. Outdated or offensive terms can be hurtful.
However, it’s important to remember that you’re more than just a label!
Ultimately, what matters most is how you personally want to be addressed, regardless of where you fall on the gender spectrum.
So, let’s talk about it!
Do you have a particular term or label that resonates with you – such as crossdresser, transgender woman, non-binary person, or something else?
I’m eager to hear your thoughts, so let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
Bobbie Cole,
Transwoman will work just fine!!
It took me 20 years to findly come to understand,”WOW” IM’ a “woman”!!?? End of story ! Transgender. Bobbie Cole.
For as long as I can remember, my daily thoughts have been dominated by my desire to be a woman. This began before puberty. I can’t explain it and have never probed it too deeply. But I feel a keen and deep desire to be a woman…to have breasts, especially, and to live the life women live. I’m envious of them and were there such a thing as magic, I’d avail myself of it. I feel cheated that I’ve missed out on that life experience. At the age of 60 and in the context of my life, transitioning isn’t possible. But if there is a second time around, I hope I get to enjoy it as a female. What do I consider myself? A man who strongly prefers to be a woman. I wish I could be more open about this with my wife of 35 years, but I fear it’s not in the cards. I recently started wearing panties and have enjoyed that quite a bit….different colors, different styles every day. And, as I type this, I am wearing a bra. That’s a recent development, too. I guess I feel that after all these years, perhaps I will get some satisfaction from acting out some of these impulses. But it’s only acting. When I look at woman in good shape enjoying their feminine existence, I am wholly envious of them.
Lucille, greetings.
I commend you for the fact you have dedicated yourself to assisting the “T” community with all of your advice to T-girls, and then some. 🙂 Having this blog also assists, and I appreciate the question regarding how many T-girls should label themselves. As others have commented, it is a difficult and subjective question.
As for myself, I have gravitated towards referring to myself as a “trans-girl.” I have not been comfortable with the term “transgendered”, considering this term to be an oxymoron. And the more preferred term “transsexual” is presumed to apply only to post srs-op individuals. “Transsexual” has another connotation that I believe much time will be required to accept its alternative use to currently only post srs-op girls.
As for the oxymoron rationale, the spirit in humans is gender specific (which is why we have the trans phenomenon, as self-evident). Therefore if we are given a female spirit before birth, but the fetus is male, the question becomes, “What transitioned?” At the fetal stage, the transition had to be the fetus which became male. That’s a transsexual change, and justifies its prenatal definition.
If our gender transitioned in the womb, we would be completely different people, therefore the term “transgender” is absolutely oxymoronic. We are what our gender identifies with, not our sex as assigned before birth.
Thanks again, Lucille; you are a beautiful woman — in person and in spirit. xo 🙂
Robyna
While labels are distasteful to me, they are something society requires to identify groups within it. Personally I prefer to be known as Transgendered as I possess personality traits that are both male and female. While I currently function in society as a male I look forward to the day when people will ignore these labels and I can go about my business as a woman without fear of reprisal or degradation.
Hi Lucille,
Great question, not really big on labeling people, I believe that we all have both a male and female side, and how one chooses to present themselves is freedom of expression.
I was born a male, but in my heart and soul, feel more like a woman.
I have been taking the products found at the following site:
http://www.breastenhancing.com/
Along with Fenugreek as you have suggested, also use Progesterone Cream on my breasts, take Women’s Multi-Vitamins, Red Rice Yeast, Amino Acids and Women’s Hydroycut Max all of which can be purchased at GNC.
My appearence is very feminine, altough I still have an 8″ penis, I have Long Hair past my shoulders, have developed really nice breasts, soft skin, keep myself free of all body hair, have full body waxing done at SPA’s including Brazilians, get pedicures and have my toes polished. Enjoy SPA treatments in general.
Although I consider myself more female than male, I do accept that there is a male side to me as well.
I do find that both emotionally and physically I’m only attracted to women. So guess if I was genetically a woman I would be a Lesbian and proud of it.
Love,
Kristin
I consider myself to be a Transgendered Male who prefers to present as a female as often as family commitments allow.
Love Ellena
Lucille I have always been who I am, 2 souls in one body. As I was growing up I let the boy control the body however after Viet Nam I had to fight for control and finally The dirl has control. So much control that people when they first meet me think I am a genetic woman. So I guess Charlene has won her right to be here. Charlene Cassandra McQueen
P.S. a woman with a little something extra.