When it comes to expressing your gender identity, navigating labels can be tricky. For those identifying as transgender or non-binary, finding the right words is essential.
Obviously, it’s important for people to use language that respects and reflects your identity. Outdated or offensive terms can be hurtful.
However, it’s important to remember that you’re more than just a label!
Ultimately, what matters most is how you personally want to be addressed, regardless of where you fall on the gender spectrum.
So, let’s talk about it!
Do you have a particular term or label that resonates with you – such as crossdresser, transgender woman, non-binary person, or something else?
I’m eager to hear your thoughts, so let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
When I first began coming out back in the early 1980s we had very few terms, published information, or on line help so most of us then were glad to have terms to help describe what were feeling inside. The average age for us coming out back then was in the 50s. I am a married M-F T person with a sup-porting wife and label myself bi-gendered, while needing now to live effectively on both sides of the ‘fence’. I host a support group still and give a lot of educational talks. I hear a lot of anti label talk from young people especially who did not suffer through like so many of us older folks did then. I think we helped set the stage’ a lot for them back then. I live in a highly conservative rural area and still find that labels and T termonology are the best way I know of helping most non T people to understand what we are about and to help them understand what they are seeing and hearing. I’m sorry but we need these terms for a while longer until society comes around and can live with and hire with us a lot more freely.
THANK YOU Lucille, great question
When I first began coming out back in the early 1980s we had very few terms, published information, or on line help so most of us then were glad to have terms to help describe what were feeling inside. The average age for coming out back then was in the 50s. I am a married M-F T person with a sup-porting wife and label myself bi-gendered, while needing now to live effectively on both sides of the ‘fence’. I host a support group still and give a lot of educational talks. I hear a lot of anti label talk from young people especially who did not suffer through like so many of us older folks did then. I think we helped set the stage’ a lot for them back then. I live in a highly conservative rural area and still find that labels and T termonology are the best way I know of helping most non T people to understand what we are about and to help them understand what they are seeing and hearing. I’m sorry but we need these terms for a while longer until society comes around and can live with and hire with us a lot more freely.
this is veronica and i do not like any labels but to answer the question i am a woman and i am proud of my self
Hi Lucille and company,
The human race has been trying to create neat little labels or categories to drop everyone into for ages despite the fact each person is both physically and mentally unique amongst billions. So am I. Does anyone here know anyone who is gender dysphoric like a transsexual but unwilling to transition and transgender as in bigender like a Two-Spirit? There is no category for that so how rare a birdie am I? My best guess is one in 50,000 to 100,000 men. All those labels or categories are defined at wikipedia.com with some degree of vagueness each. Sure, I’m a T-girl and at least partially cross dressed all the time. I’m also a professional man and an amateur woman but where am I supposed to go with all that? Don’t know. It just makes it harder to explain. I like what Diane Demoiselle had to say early this morning so I’ll go with, “Bigendered is what I am and cross dressing is what I do.”
Good luck ladies,
G/S
I hate labels of any kind. I was born a girl in a boy’s body. I dress as a woman, when I can now, because at this stage of my life I realize that I should have gone all the way and made the full transition, and yes that means the gender resignment surgery 35 years ago while I was still young. But what do youngsters know anyway? And your “Feminization Secrets” REALLY are helpful. Thank you for what you are doing for girls and women like me.
Roberta Katheryn
I do not like labels at all. I’m a woman period. Yes it is true that I had a slight birth defect, but that has been corrected. I was born as a girl and will die as a woman
Becky
Feminisation secrects has been very helpful for me 🙂
I will use Tgirl if I am corresponding with someone for the first time but I do not use the term gurl because that refers to a male posing as a female. I do use the term girl because that is what I am and consider myself a woman and female. I live as a woman and dress as one at home but have to work as a male (darn it!). What my coworkers do not know is that I wear female underthings underneath my male clothing; bra, panties, garter belt and hose. When I have to tinkle I go into a stall in the restroom and sit on the toilet to pee like a girl. I douche regularly and also occasionally use tampons. I date men and have sex only as a woman. There is a long story as to how my femininity started when I was very young. I feel more natural being a female and to me I am putting on an act and charade when I am being a male. I do not label myself CD, TV, TG or She-male. I am woman!