Choosing the right words to describe your gender identity can feel tricky. For transgender and non-binary people, finding a label that fits is personal and important.
Using respectful language matters. Outdated or offensive terms can hurt, so it’s okay to set boundaries about how others address you.
At the same time, you are more than a label. What matters most is how you choose to define yourself, no matter where you are on the gender spectrum.
Do you have a label that feels right – like crossdresser, transgender woman, non-binary, or something else?
I’d love to hear your thoughts, so let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
When asked or when introducing myself, I am concious of the fact that I am not ‘passable’ yet and simply say that I’m transgender, or that I’m a transitioning woman. Both are accurate and I’m comfortable with both.
For now, I guess there are other terms that do apply such as crossdresser and shemale, but I don’t like the connotations implyed to either.
I very much want to be a physical and sexual woman – I already am a spiritual and emotional woman and I feel transgender and transitioning are both accurate descriptions.
Thanks Lucille, for all your help. You’re great.
Joan
Lucille,
That is always a tough one. It’s hard to get anyone label to fit. I suppose I once thought I was a straight cross dresser. I’ve dated many women and for years denied Sophie within me. But the more I’ve dressed and let Sophie in to my heart,the more I want to be with other T-girls or guys. And this year I relented and slept with another T-girl. I was surprised how much I liked it. In the last 2 years, all my sexual fantasies have been about guys. I’m still attracted to women, but it’s hard to imagine myself with one now. I’ve always said I wouldn’t want to dress full time, but I think that’s changing. If I wasn’t 6’4″ I might be out there trying to pass full time. So what am I? A little bit of everything on the way to becoming something else. It is a discovery and an exploration and it’s always changing. Maybe one day, I’ll just be able to call myself woman, but until then, I’ll be many things, often at the same time 🙂
Sophie
I consider my self a very feminine woman. xoxxo heidi
My name is Heidi. I am rather partial to several terms such as ‘transwoman’ ‘he-she’ ‘cd’ ‘tv’ ‘transsexual’ ‘chick with dick’. I am actually glad to have and enjoy being labled as such!
I consider myself a shemale but not in the normal definition. My definition is that of a woman with a penis. I have always wanted to live as a woman, even as a child I would wear my mother’s and sister’s clothes. I felt more at ease with the women in my life instead of the males. As a young man I whored around for years, but it was mostly just to be with another woman. I always had some kind of female clothing hidden away so I could wear it if I had the chance. I have been very lucky in that both of my wives have been very understanding about my need to express my female side. My first wife died a couple of years ago and she used to help me cross-dress. We even went out in public together in Las vegas. My current wife is also very supportive of me and is OK with me developing breasts. So the bottom line is that there is a woman inside me begging to get out. When I stumbled across Lucille’s web site and the flat-to-fem program I was thrilled to someone who was actually helping men like myself to be our female selves. Thank you Lucille for everything you do! Maybe you should hold a convention we could all attend and hold workshops for makeup, clothing, voice training, etc.
would you believe one of my friends just got refused SRS because when she was at the clinic she went to the toilet standing up.
I am ashamed of myself. I couldn’t help laughing out loud at your blog, Rebecca. Even Alpha males should know they have to sit down to do a tiddle. You only have to be near Niagara Falls on a breezy day to understand that the spray goes far and wide, but is less obvious on a smaller scale.
I’m just me. The process of what I do does not define me . I’m just kino . ( line from favorit show) labels use to be important but seem so silly now. I’m not willing to fight over a name .
I refuse to state that I anything but a woman, but who is not identified/accepted/recognized as such