Clothes, hair, and makeup are important aspects of your feminine image. But your body language and movements say more about you than you probably realize!
It doesn’t matter how good you look… If your walk and movements give off a masculine vibe (or worse, are exaggerated and unnatural), then you’re probably not making the impression you hoped for.
Do you want to learn how to walk more feminine? Here are 5 common MTF movement mistakes to avoid – and what to do instead.
1. Over-Exaggerated Hip Swinging
There’s nothing more alluring than the sexy sway of a woman’s hips as she walks. But you should never overdo this. In fact, if you are consciously swinging your hips, it’s probably too much.
A better approach is to simply put on a pair of high heels and walk naturally. Heels automatically cause your hips to sway. The key is to relax your body and go with the flow.
2. Stiff Body Movements
Stiff isn’t sexy. As I mentioned earlier, the secret to fluid, feminine movements is to relax your body.
Tense muscles translate to stiff, masculine body movements. Focus on relaxing your body instead. Do stretching exercises to help release built-up tension.
3. Poor Posture
Your posture is the foundation for your movements. Here are two posture mistakes to avoid:
- Slouching: If you’re tall, you might be tempted to slouch to downplay your height. Don’t. Slouching isn’t attractive and it definitely doesn’t make you look more feminine.
- Arching your back: On the other extreme, avoid exaggerating your posture by arching your back and sticking your butt out. While you might think this looks “sexy,” it actually looks silly.
The fix for both of these mistakes is to stand tall with natural, lifted posture. This makes you look confident and feminine.
4. Stocky Shoulder Movements
Men carry their weight in their upper bodies, while a woman’s center of gravity is in her hips. In men, this often translates into strong upper body movements.
As you can see in the video above, the hallmark of a masculine walk is “stocky” shoulder movements. Compare that to the graceful sway of the women’s hips.
To counteract this tendency:
- Keep your shoulders down and back. If you feel your shoulders coming forward, literally roll them back into place.
- Focus on keeping your shoulders still while relaxing the hips. This will help transfer the movement to your lower body.
- Keep your body weight neutral (or even slightly back) instead of leaning forward. This helps downplay the look of your shoulders.
5. Taking Up Too Much Space
There are many differences between male and female body language. One of the biggest differences is that men take up more space with their bodies while women tend to keep the space more closed.
How does this translate into movement?
- When men walk, they typically have a space between their arms and body, while a woman’s hands brush her hips.
- Men’s steps are longer and there’s often more space between the feet.
To correct this, rotate your elbows in so your arms stay closer to your body. Keep your feet closer together and take shorter steps when you walk.
Mastering your feminine walk
Now that you know the most common mistakes, here’s another example of a feminine walk to study and emulate. Notice the graceful posture, gently swinging hips, and relaxed body movements:
How feminine are YOUR body movements? Do you struggle with this or are you one of the lucky girls who are naturally graceful?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Oh so true! I am trying to learn to have a more feminine walk all the time. It means being aware of how I carry myself 24/7 until it becomes second nature.
How many times over the years have you seen a pretty girl walking down the street, that walked “like a guy”.
Thank you for the tip.
Tammy , I could never picture you walking like a guy , you are incredible looking!Dee
I love your comments and blogs. Hope we hear more and more.
Hi Lucille,These are great tips and thank you, but I have the sexy swing in my walk not to brag but I have been studding the way woman swing their hips and can walk with the sexy swing in my walk and have been doing that for years.
Thank you for your help. Your tips help with confidence and a rare resource. Morphing takes time.
Thank you Lucille, your a class act and the service you and your company provides is unmeasurable, to us wish we were women, type of people. Again thank you for your support in this sensitive issue.
Sincerely,
AnnaSofia Flores
Thank you, AnnaSofia, for the kind words!
Welcome!
Unfortunately I am as graceful as a hippy. There is a reason hippos don’t do ballet.
Great advise…I was fortunate to have received lessons on how to walk and what to do with my hands from a former beauty contestant/model at my hair salon. Her advise was so fabulous I have carried it with me for years. One other tip from a second dear friend…when you walk, “let your nylons kiss.” What she meant was have the inside of your knees gently kiss each other with every step. By doing so, you will walk with your legs together and your hips will sway in rhythm with your waist and the rest of your body. Hope this helps too.
You are very beautiful and professional looking. I get inspired by seeing ladies like yourself looking this good. It will never get old, even at my current age of 75
That is a beautiful picture of you and Like your advice.
Your advice is the best I’ve heard coming from one Girl to the rest of us girls. ” let your nylons kiss” and since we TG’s love waring our pantyhose, that makes so much sense, thank you Carollyn,
Sincerely,
AnnaSofia Flores
Thanks Carollyn I will keep an Eye out. Also where can Girl get these Books, on this Site?Please let us know.
Thanks,
AnnaSofia.
I have embraced me being Transgender and soon start getting things ready to begin transitioning. I’ve started working at a company that fully supports the LGBTQ Community!So Girls stay tuned.
Thank you for the compliment regarding the advice. I have written three self-help books “Tricks of the Trade” and dedicated one of the books to the lady who gave me that advise. If you are interested in any of the books, they are on Amazon Kindle or available through me. Thanks, Carollyn
Dear Anna Sofia — I have so many things to tell and so much advise to give, that is why I have written three self-help books on cross dressing with the assistance of Lucille, who is one of my main contributors. If interested, let me know. Hugs, Carollyn
I took some T’ai Ch’i at one time and was taught how to move gracefully. Your advice agrees with much of what I learned.