Have you noticed that all stunning women have one thing in common – besides their killer looks? It’s CONFIDENCE.
Confidence is also half the battle of passing or blending in as a woman. That’s why the best MTF advice I can give you is to develop your confidence!
Of course, I understand that it’s easier said than done. That’s why in this blog post, I share 3 ways to feel more confident as a crossdresser or transgender woman – starting right now!
1. Stop Criticizing Yourself
How can you expect to feel confident if you constantly put yourself down?
Most of us are so used to criticizing ourselves that we don’t even realize we’re doing it. It’s a bad habit – but like all bad habits, it can be broken.
The first step to stopping the cycle is to interrupt your thoughts. If you catch yourself beating yourself up, literally tell yourself to STOP.
Next, find a way to reframe your thoughts into something more positive. Remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can with what you have. Look for progress rather than perfection.
This might sound like simple advice, but it works if you actually do it.
2. Step Outside Your Comfort Zone
Confidence is like a muscle. If you don’t use it, you’ll lose it. And just like your muscles, it’s something you can develop and improve.
One of the best ways to develop confidence is to take action. You’ll never build confidence if you stay in your comfort zone and do the same things you’ve always done.
So get out there and try something new! Take a few risks! For example, step out with painted toenails, book a makeup lesson, or join a crossdressing or transgender Meetup.
Once you do, you’ll be amazed at how confident you start to feel in situations that once terrified you.
3. Celebrate Your Successes
Appreciating your accomplishments is another great way to increase your confidence.
It’s easy to focus on the areas that still need improving, but don’t lose sight of how far you’ve come.
What risks did you take today? What did you do well? No matter how small, start to recognize these and celebrate them.
More confidence boosters
Confidence is one of the most important feminine qualities you can develop. These tips are a great starting point.
If you want to learn more, here are my favorite books for building confidence:
- Taming Your Gremlin by Rick Carson
- Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers
- You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay
Now let’s hear from you…
Where do YOU fall on the confidence scale? If you consider yourself a stunning, self-assured woman (and I hope you do!), what confidence boosting tips can you share?
Please leave your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. One of my favorite confidence boosting tools is hypnosis. Want to try it for yourself?
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What me worry? At age of 69, I totally blend in and haven’t looked back in over a decade!
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Hi Traci! I think you look great! Very passable! So fun being a woman, isn’t it!
Hugs, Suzy
Knew it since age of three and it never went away. Thnx for the kind words!
I’ve been slowly gaining confidence to “step out” for the last few years…but just within the last couple of weeks, I had a friend pay me the ultimate compliment:
“You’re my favorite cross-dresser!”
Granted, I only cross-dress for comicons and such (talk about butterflies in the stomach!), but I think I’ll try to “branch out”, so to speak.
While I don’t present as female yet in public its little things that give me confidence . Always wear nail polish, love the compliments, bra and panties are a must, occasionally a little makeup…even a slightly scented perfume .. as I add elements I feel more feminine and confident
Hi girls!! I am a transwoman and on hormones and the results are fascinating. I am also bisexual and love to dress. I don’t look too bad but have work to do. My partner likes my looks and we have terrific sex.
I go out all the time as female. That is who I am. Just because the body doesn’t reflect me doesn’t cause me any problems. I am a female and that is who I am.
My male confidence carried right over into my female side. In fact, I am volunteering for an organisation who helps not so lucky young women to become self supporting. I am one of the trainers there who does confidence training.
I agree. As a man I have so much confidence but I have been that way all my male life. But when feeling the need (which is almost 100% these), to express who I truly am, I have no confidence. Well lately I have been presenting a few small things when out in public. I still don’t present as a female but I am incorporating some femme items. I now where toenail polish full time even when at the pool or walking around in flips and I am starting to wear female shorts when going out casual. Each time I come back without any comments or strange looks, it fuels me to go a little further. It’s not as much as some of you are doing but it is more than I ever thought I would have the confidence to do. Small little victories are huge confidence boosters.
That’s exactly what I do! All my clothes are women’s, but some on the masculine side. Women wear men’s type of clothes all the time. Yoga pants sometimes with a longer tshirt. (Keep the buldge tucked up!) Panties always, usually 3 pairs to keep “my large clitoris” (how I see her) tucked out of sight. And sports bras always, since they look like an undershirt usually, and keep my breasts flatter when I have to pretend to be male still. I’m developing breasts slowly with natural suppliments, at least a generous B-cup now. I have longer hair. I keep my eyebrows trimmed and shaped. Toes painted always, yes! And always clear finger nail polish. I keep my arms and legs shaved.
I basically do everything a woman does, but on the discreet side. I will get a rare “look”, or stare, but I want to be who I am. Yes, I do go shopping and other places all dressed up, where people know the pretend male I had been most of my life. But nobody has said anything after a double take. I also get an occasional “ma’am” when I’m NOT dressed up. (Yes, I do get the female talk when dressed up.) Feels like the greatest compliment someone can give me. I just smile when I see their embarrassment after they realize their “mistake” to assure them it’s ok.
My greatest advice I can give is what I got from others. If you are truly a woman inside, then just BE a woman! It’s a mindset, a persona, not just looks. Think of yourself as a woman in everything you do. Forget the pretend male past. It’s not who you are, but what others wanted you to be. Don’t worry about what others think. 10-20% of people aren’t going to like you for whatever reason. Just go about your life BEING the real you, a beautiful young woman. And most importantly, just smile at everyone. They and you will just feel happier in life.
I fully plucked my eyebrows today and ive been dressing into more femme and girly clothes to which I used to worry that people may mention it or maybe even laugh! But I barely get a negative comment, infact since ive been dressing and being my femme self ive even had compliments.. This one guy even said I was attractive and its made my week! 🙂 Honestly be yourself and love yourself!
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