Have you noticed that all stunning women have one thing in common – besides their killer looks? It’s CONFIDENCE.
Confidence is also half the battle of passing or blending in as a woman. That’s why the best MTF advice I can give you is to develop your confidence!
Of course, I understand that it’s easier said than done. That’s why in this blog post, I share 3 ways to feel more confident as a crossdresser or transgender woman – starting right now!
1. Stop Criticizing Yourself
How can you expect to feel confident if you constantly put yourself down?
Most of us are so used to criticizing ourselves that we don’t even realize we’re doing it. It’s a bad habit – but like all bad habits, it can be broken.
The first step to stopping the cycle is to interrupt your thoughts. If you catch yourself beating yourself up, literally tell yourself to STOP.
Next, find a way to reframe your thoughts into something more positive. Remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can with what you have. Look for progress rather than perfection.
This might sound like simple advice, but it works if you actually do it.
2. Step Outside Your Comfort Zone
Confidence is like a muscle. If you don’t use it, you’ll lose it. And just like your muscles, it’s something you can develop and improve.
One of the best ways to develop confidence is to take action. You’ll never build confidence if you stay in your comfort zone and do the same things you’ve always done.
So get out there and try something new! Take a few risks! For example, step out with painted toenails, book a makeup lesson, or join a crossdressing or transgender Meetup.
Once you do, you’ll be amazed at how confident you start to feel in situations that once terrified you.
3. Celebrate Your Successes
Appreciating your accomplishments is another great way to increase your confidence.
It’s easy to focus on the areas that still need improving, but don’t lose sight of how far you’ve come.
What risks did you take today? What did you do well? No matter how small, start to recognize these and celebrate them.
More confidence boosters
Confidence is one of the most important feminine qualities you can develop. These tips are a great starting point.
If you want to learn more, here are my favorite books for building confidence:
- Taming Your Gremlin by Rick Carson
- Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers
- You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay
Now let’s hear from you…
Where do YOU fall on the confidence scale? If you consider yourself a stunning, self-assured woman (and I hope you do!), what confidence boosting tips can you share?
Please leave your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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My confidence has gotten so much higher very recently, I have dressed for years ( and gone out in public ) but only in the last three years since my new relationship and letting a few close friends in on my femm secret. It has been the best thing I could have done.
I used to be so “oh, I need to have a full makeup, and pads, and wig, and the right clothes before I could just look outside the door”. But I got so many funny looks when I was all “dolled out”, looking like a “crossdresser”. Nowadays, I’m more like being natural. I still like to do all those things, but not necessarily all together, and not necessarily just for going shopping or doing laundry. I figured out, that even if I don’t pass, it’s ok. Interesting thing, I got no funny looks after that change. Whether people read me or not, they just see I am not “artificial” and they just leave me be.
I normally still have to work “male” but I do wear womens pants, shoes, and tops but during the weekends it’s all femme time. I put on a nice outfit and my light makeup and off I go shopping at whatever store I want. I like to go to Walmart for groceries etc and I said along time ago that if you’re going to go you might as well go in the middle of the day when everyone is shopping too. If I don’t have my jewelry on or nails painted then the favorite checkout ladies always ask why it’s not there. They notice any change of hair too. Their comments are always positive and chat away. I recently walked into another store that I used to frequent as a male and of course the change was noticed and positively commented about. So long as your confident and dress simply but elegantly and don’t act nervous nelly, no one has a problem with you. Hold your head up, shoulders back, and walk with assurance. You’ll get more positive responses than negative. I usually get at least one good looking hunk brousing the territory and I sure do enjoy it. Good luck one and all.
I love getting my eyebrows waxed. There’s always that intense curiosity/fear of how they are going to look, because you don’t get to see them until they’re done! Lately, I’ve been getting them tinted. It really does make a difference and in a good way. So don’t fear the wax, embrace it and add a hint of color!
I also like to go the mall and get makeovers. On my way home from a business trip, I stopped at a MAC counter in a large, popular department store and had my eyes done, a touch of blush, and finished with Ruby Woo lipstick… If you’ve never done Ruby Woo, you’ve never done lipstick! 😉 Anyway, I had a 4 hour drive ahead of me and I looked damn good! About 2 hours into it I had to pee, so I stopped at the rest area, took a deep breath, and went inside to go. I didn’t try to make a scene, just went straight in took a leak and walked out. I felt a lot of eyes on me, but I just smiled and kept walking. Like Neil said in the post above….no one pays much attention, they may look, but they don’t say or do anything. Anyway, I felt like a Princess the rest of the way home!
Mall makeovers are a blast! Maybe the holiday season isn’t the best time to take that leap, but Jan., Feb., and Mar. are just around the corner and those girls are bored to tears and love to make man into a gurl! Go for it!
Hey I have no confidence whatsoever and it is more and more a problem in my life. I disconnected from people almost completely and I even thought about ending my life.
Sorry, but a guy in a frock with a bit of make up is nothing nowadays. With all the body piercings, tattoos, over the top hairstyles and outrageous clothing out there crossdressing is nothing. I am 55 years old and 0% confident but I accidently went out with my nail polish on. Bright fuchsia red so it wasn’t very obvious. Didn’t see it till I was about to get out of the car. (closet dresser BTW) Broad daylight so I wasn’t going to get beaten to death so I sucked it up, faked the confidence and done my bills and shopping.
Nothing!!!!
Not even a funny look.
Nobody cared less.
Now I care less. It is the real me, my femininity is not going to kill anyone or cause Global Warming.
Now I hardly ever wear my butch clothes and put on my butch mask to go out. I stay fem, and it is GREAT!!!!
my confidence has grown incredibly since getting my hair done at the salon every six weeks cut ,colour style . its wonderful and going out dressed is so worth doing girls. every step is a confidence booster.
Good for you Lisa, having your hair done!! Before going to the salon did you know anyone at the shop? I know the whole experience must have been thrilling.
hi Denise , no I didn’t know anyone here before my daughter inlaw told me she goes to same place ! so she was getting her hair done same day it was the best . and since then we try to go on same days . just being accepted as a woman and getting compliments on my styles is truly confident building . love being a woman, should of started sooner in life .
i also am very confident whenever i go out in public.. i have been dressing enfemme for over 8 years now and feel more confident every day…the secret is to accept yourself for who you are and not worry about other people and what they think .. it is what is inside that matters and how you feel about yourself that is important not what other people may think … that is their problem not yours….just be yourself !!!!!