Have you noticed that all stunning women have one thing in common – besides their killer looks? It’s CONFIDENCE.
Confidence is also half the battle of passing or blending in as a woman. That’s why the best MTF advice I can give you is to develop your confidence!
Of course, I understand that it’s easier said than done. That’s why in this blog post, I share 3 ways to feel more confident as a crossdresser or transgender woman – starting right now!
1. Stop Criticizing Yourself
How can you expect to feel confident if you constantly put yourself down?
Most of us are so used to criticizing ourselves that we don’t even realize we’re doing it. It’s a bad habit – but like all bad habits, it can be broken.
The first step to stopping the cycle is to interrupt your thoughts. If you catch yourself beating yourself up, literally tell yourself to STOP.
Next, find a way to reframe your thoughts into something more positive. Remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can with what you have. Look for progress rather than perfection.
This might sound like simple advice, but it works if you actually do it.
2. Step Outside Your Comfort Zone
Confidence is like a muscle. If you don’t use it, you’ll lose it. And just like your muscles, it’s something you can develop and improve.
One of the best ways to develop confidence is to take action. You’ll never build confidence if you stay in your comfort zone and do the same things you’ve always done.
So get out there and try something new! Take a few risks! For example, step out with painted toenails, book a makeup lesson, or join a crossdressing or transgender Meetup.
Once you do, you’ll be amazed at how confident you start to feel in situations that once terrified you.
3. Celebrate Your Successes
Appreciating your accomplishments is another great way to increase your confidence.
It’s easy to focus on the areas that still need improving, but don’t lose sight of how far you’ve come.
What risks did you take today? What did you do well? No matter how small, start to recognize these and celebrate them.
More confidence boosters
Confidence is one of the most important feminine qualities you can develop. These tips are a great starting point.
If you want to learn more, here are my favorite books for building confidence:
- Taming Your Gremlin by Rick Carson
- Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers
- You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay
Now let’s hear from you…
Where do YOU fall on the confidence scale? If you consider yourself a stunning, self-assured woman (and I hope you do!), what confidence boosting tips can you share?
Please leave your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. One of my favorite confidence boosting tools is hypnosis. Want to try it for yourself?
Click here to sign up for my FREE 8 minute Unleash Your Inner Woman hypnosis mini session.
Took a while but am definitely confident now, go mainstream places as much as possible, like diner this evening and will be in the shopping mall tomorrow. Want a new dress and shoes to go out tomorrow evening, love my new skirt/top and boots that will have on tomorrow.
I used to push my boundries whenever I could, these days do not think about that however couple of things have never done yet, just time needed, nail spa for example 🙂
Totally agree confidence is a key ingredient, used to look away and put my head down a lot when out, not anymore, even walked the seafront promenade in summer with kids and all about. Was looking for telltale signs but not one that I noticed!
Get yourself out there girls, enjoy life its to short not to.
Kate
Great comments Kate! I totally agree. The more you go out, the more you want to… it’s addicting!… It’s a great feeling!
Christine
Totally agree with Christine on that as well Kate. Way to go Kate! One life. Live it and be happy. I so enjoy going out regularly too, and yes it is addictive. Love and aloha -Lulu
I feel confident that I can buy beautiful clothes and makeup and be the woman I know I am. Once everything is in place the rest will sort itself out 🙂
Hi Lucille, My confidence isn’t so great. I’m still fighting myself about stepping out in public as a female and don’t know why. the information that you have sent is great I put to use but stepping out seems to be my biggest problem. What can be done about this? Thank you Lucille. william
I agree with every point, but I found the second one to be the main motion device for my transition.
My psichologist told me about the confort zone, and how I needed to overcome the fear to get out of there. I had to go out of the confort zone, without getting to the danger zone, don’t put myself in danger.
Once I did it for the first time, I understood how easy it was, and how rewarding. It’s ok to feel the fear, it’s ok to feel that you’re better where you are; but once you see that standing in the same spot where you are, you’re not going to advance in your transition at all, then you’ll get out of there, and accept the fear while you’re out.
The first time I went to the market fully en femme, I had to take a deep breath and some courage. Had to set my mind in that nothing was going to happen. And then went out, and it was all right, because I was me at least. Going to the department of women clothing felt natural and great. I was affraid, a lot, but at the same time I was calm and enjoying the ride. And, nothing happened at all. No one reacted, no one asked me nothing, no one stared at me. I know I looked like a transvestite, but no one messed with me.
Going out of the confort zone, whenever I have to decide if I go someplace en femme, I think if I’m staying on the confort zone if don’t, or if I’m going to the danger zone if do.
A good experience makes it easier to be more daring. And yes, when it comes down to it no one really cares. Way to go Cassandra!
rephrase that, no one really cares how you appear. It’s all about how you feel about yourself. If you feel good about yourself, that’s how you Will look to everyone around you. Love and aloha -Lulu
I am confident enougth now to go shopping for the makeup and clothes that I like to have without worrying what I am doing shopping in the women’s and lingerie stores and section. I also have to go out dressed and drive down the road. I sometimes think what people are saying about me. Sometimes the guys I meet wonder how I can do it but I really enjoy it. Makes me feel more like the girl that I want to be
It is all about me now! Over 40, have had several GF, but the last one who new i was on hormones decided it was time to depart after i told her i was thinking of breast augmentation.she was not as thrilled of the prospect as i was. back up 1 year. i work for an engineering firm that is very male dominated, we had a hollowend party and i never missing an opportunity to dress went as alvira, and had many nice butt/legs comments. a few days after the party my boss asked me if I dressed often, and I said yes, as often as i could, and he said it was ok to dress for work if i so inclined. i have and it has been wonderful. Fas t forward… i have had augmentation surgery 36C and i am dating a guy from work who is wonderful..i am out and happier than ever Kisses jamie
Wow! Wonderful story. Thanks for sharing. If I had been in your boss’ position I would have insisted that you come to work en femme all the time, rather than just say that it was ok. You’re on your way to a completely new life, frankly I’m a wee bit jealous and envious of your life. Sending love and aloha your way -Lulu
I am well on my way. I have no problem in going most anywhere. That includes all daytime activities such as shopping malls, grocery store, my first straight nightclub. I have begun to take baby steps in conversing with people! A big step out of my comfort zone!
xoxoxo – Jessika
Hi girls I had take risk 1time when one festival celebrate in india navratra among 2000 people I wear saree and come acrooss but it taught me lot I done make up make up in beauty parlour
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