There’s more to speaking as a woman than just feminizing your voice. The words you use (and how you use them) are equally important!
It doesn’t matter how good you look or how “passable” your female voice might be… If you have masculine speaking habits, you’re going to send mixed messages to people.
Here are the main differences between masculine and feminine communication styles:
- Men tend to be more direct and “task-oriented” in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of achieving results.
- Women tend to be more “circular” and detail-oriented in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of forming relationships.
So, what’s the secret to achieving a distinctly feminine style of speech?
In this blog post on transgender voice tips, I share 3 ways to successfully speak as a woman. Read on to learn more!
1. Feminize Your Vocabulary
Men and women have very different vocabularies, so it’s critical to incorporate feminine words into your speech. Here are some key distinctions:
- Women tend to use more descriptive adjectives. A woman wouldn’t tell you about the “pink dress” she just bought. She’d tell you about the “adorable fuchsia Diane Von Furstenberg wrap dress” she just maxed out her credit card on.
- Men and women often use different words for the same thing. For example, a guy might call the lower abdomen the “gut, whereas a woman would be more likely to call it the “tummy.”
To expand your feminine vocabulary, listen to women in real life, on TV, and in movies. Read women’s magazines. Look and listen for words you don’t use and incorporate a few new words or descriptive phrases into your vocabulary each week.
2. Talk More
Studies show that women speak three times as much as men. While this obviously isn’t a universal truth, it’s something to consider.
Are you one of those people who answers questions with one word? If so, practice expanding on your answers. Include more details and/or how you feel about the situation. (Yes, talk about your feelings, girlfriend!)
Of course, this does NOT mean you should drone on and on about yourself. Women are also typically good listeners, so make sure you listen as much as you speak.
3. Ask More Questions
Finally, since women use their words to form relationships, they tend to ask more questions. Men tend to tell rather than ask. If a man asks a question, it’s to get down to the point.
Practice asking more questions the next time you have a conversation with somebody. Not only is this more feminine, it makes the other person feel validated because you’re showing interest in them.
Want to learn more about the differences between masculine and feminine communication? Check out the video below to dive deeper into this topic.
Let’s discuss…
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts and if you agree with my observations.
How important is feminine communication to you? Do you struggle with this or have you mastered the art of girl talk?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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I need help telling my parents please.
I know it’s a hard thing to swallow but you have to be up front and tell them. You can’t be afraid. Think about this: would you rather not tell them and live in a lie for the rest of your life there or would you want them to know who you really are and be yourself? I’d take the latter. If they support you or don’t, it’s not their life. If they cannot accept who you really are then what type of parents are they? Not good ones for sure. You’ll just have to take that leap of faith and tell them. I did. And my parents support me.
I believe this was a wonderful article. Definitely answered the questions I was looking for. Being feminine with a guy per say, was very difficult for me and I’m going to take everything I learned and hopefully I succeed ☺
Hi Lucille,
I love it that you are here to support men who want to be women.
Who wouldn’t want to feel sexy and beautiful every single day.I try
to slow my words and down and speak softer and listen to how I sound
on my audio voice recorder on my cell phone. I listen to a lot of females
when they sing and watch their hip movements. I want to share with you
how much closer I am getting looking like a woman. Bare in mind I am now 59 Photos
Yes this is me. Thanks to your modules.
Jennifer
I am 47 and I think I am more feminine now than I was when I was in my 20’s. Maybe because I have been dressing more during the week now, when i was younger it was mostly the weekend when i could get away from my family. I would still love to get on hormones, NC doctors will give a prescription without having to do the mental exam. I would also love to have voice lessons to sound more feminine, I can do a passable voice when I have to but it doesn’t come natural. beyond that I am secure enough to say it’s not what’s in my pants that makes me, but what I feel in my heart and soul.
V
As a Preop woman i agree with everything this says i was born a hetphomite
You are so beautiful and If you’re still around please snap me at chickwitd or Kik at Hey! I’m on #Kik – my username is ‘smoothgirlboi’ kik.me/smoothgirlboi?s=1
I feel like I’m somewhere in between feminine and masculine energy. I sort of drive at points, but I like to talk to people about anything they seem interested in hearing about most of the time. Also, it seems like with my more masculine friends I feel very feminine by comparison, and with my feminine friends I feel fairly masculine by comparison even though their femininity can sort of influence and enhance my femininity.
Hi Lucille honey I’m really glad I can come in here and talk it helps me cope with not being able to dress currently at least I can feel like a woman here get in touch with my feminine side so to speak I hope how soon my check arrives to help me get back on my own again so can live the life I feel I should the way I feel inside you are such a help to me I can’t thank you enough Lucille Love M.J.
Hi Lucille. I want to thank you because, I’m right now a boy who has some serius mental and reality issues. I’ve had bipolar depresion, been aboused by my parents and tormented, just because I wanted a better life for myself. I read what you wrote and I finally understand what I should do to be more feminine and how to pursue my goals. I want to say. Thank you. You made up my mind in a recreational way.